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Dealing With Women's Disapproval

by Jay Julio

Has a woman ever given you a disapproving look for something you did? Or how about this? ... has a woman ever made a criticism or disapproving comment about your behavior?

Most of us probably have had this happen to us, at some point.

How did you deal with it? And what kind of response did you get from a woman by dealing with it in the way you did?

If you've been in the Dating World, you know that disapproval is a huge issue when it comes to women. And if you're about to enter the Dating World, learning how to deal with disapproval is essential.

If you want to be successful, you cannot avoid or ignore women's disapproval. Those guys who try to prevent disapproval by altering their behavior will never achieve true success.

I'll tell you why shortly.

Gentlemen, disapproval from women is part of the dating game. And a good player learns how to deal with it in a way that allows him to win. Poor players avoid it. And that's what makes them poor.

Learning to deal with disapproval involves defining your life.

For if you don't define your life, others will. And when you get into any relationship with a woman, you can bet she's going to define it, unless...

... you define your own life first!

Then you give yourself the power to define your relationships.

Women will try to box you into the category they want you to play in THEIR lives. So the question is: How do you not let THEM define you?

Instead, how do YOU define who you are? ... who YOU want to be?

What I've learnt is that by placing the focus on establishing my own identity, and by not letting a woman project the identity she wanted me to have onto me, I was empowering myself.

No longer would her disapproval—her desire to change me—have an impact on my behavior. Or my identity.

Give yourself the power of identity...

You define who you are, NOT women.

You define what you do, NOT women.

You define what you have, NOT women!

Guys who want to avoid a woman's disapproval, SEEK her approval to COMPENSATE for that fear. They avoid it because they don't want to face it, or they don't know HOW TO deal with it.

These guys let a woman's disapproval reshape them simply because they want to win her, or because they're afraid of losing her. Their fear outweighs their desire.

In a woman's eyes, this kind of behavior invalidates you. You become a write-off!

But when you've defined your life, and your behavior is no longer influenced by a woman's intention, it simply becomes a matter of communicating that your identity belongs only to you...

... it means that she has no power over shaping your identity -- this is attractive!

You do this by communicating to a woman that any disapproval she throws at you won't alter you. No! Your identity belongs to you!

Recognizing that a woman's disapproval is HER issue, NOT yours, is a powerful concept to grasp. The issue is that SHE isn't accepting you -- because she's trying to change you. The issue is NOT that you're refusing to change for her.

This is HER issue! Always look at disapproval that way.

Anytime a woman offers you unsolicited advice, she's trying to change you. Anytime a woman complains about your behavior, she's trying to change you. And anytime a woman disapproves of you in any way, she's trying to change you.

Always communicate that this is HER PROBLEM! Communicate that her only choice is to accept you the way you are.

What this gives her is an ultimatum: Is she in... or is she out?

The key is that this ultimatum leaves her with a choice.

You've revealed your identity. You've revealed that you have a strong sense of self by not altering with her manipulation. This is leaving her with but one choice, either...

... YES to your world, or NO to your world.

You offer no more than what you can. You let her take it or leave it. You let her take the opportunity, or ignore it.

This means a woman has to accept the role YOU CHOOSE for her to play in your life. This means communicating a strong intention from a grounded identity. And letting no women's manipulative disapproval weaken that intent or shake that identity.

Reject disapproval! Define your life! Attract women!