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How to Start Conversations with Women Without Rejection

by Jay Julio

Hey Man,

Iím about to reveal my VERY BEST technique for starting a conversation with a woman. Not only does it guarantee you wonít get rejected, but itís actually the way women PREFER to be approached by a man!

But before I do, let me ask you this:

If you think about it, what is it that REALLY stops you from striking up a conversation with a woman for the first time?

Whatís your biggest fear?

Maybe youíre scared of being rejected.

Or maybe youíre afraid of looking "foolish" and having everyone around watch you.

If so, let me ask you this:

Have you ever found yourself thinking: "I just donít know what to say to start a conversation with a woman I want to meet."

In fact, "What do I say?" is a question I get a lot.

And you know what I hear?

"Iím scared of being rejected, so I want to know the perfect thing to say."

Well, guess what?

There is NO perfect thing to say to a woman thatís going guarantee sheíll want to have a conversation.

Hereís why:

Itís not what you say thatís important. Whatís really important is your "approach" ó or your attitude when you start a conversation with a woman.

So hereís the first thing you need to know about...

Why Directly Approaching Women Is NOT The Best Route To Start A Conversation And What Is!

Sure, directly walking up to women and starting a conversation is a great way to overcome your fears. But if you actually want to have a woman be open to meeting up with you again, thereís a much better "approach" to take.

To understand the reason this "approach" works, it helps to know the "psychology" of how women respond to being approached...

So imagine what itís like to be a woman for a moment:

If you noticed a guy walking up to you in your peripheral vision, youíd know he obviously WANTS something from you, wouldnít you? So would it just be a matter of finding out what THAT something is.

And guess what?

Attractive women know immediately when a guyís approaching them because he finds them attractive and is interested.

It registers on their "radar" very, very quickly.

In fact, most of the time, a woman will know what a guy wants before he even opens his mouth. So heís actually telegraphed his intentions just by the way he walked up to her.

Is there something wrong with this?

Not necessarily... but hereís the real secret:

Women donít like being "hit on" (or having a guy express "sexual interest") until AFTER theyíre attracted to him. So if you walk directly up to a woman out of the blue, generally youíre expressing your sexual interest by doing that.

Of course, you can use techniques to break that expectation and show her youíre not sexually interested ó even if you really are... which I personally consider "manipulative".

But why bother with that when thereís an easier, natural, and more authentic way...

Hereís My VERY BEST Technique For Starting Conversations With Women...

I call it: "Crossing Paths".

In fact, this is the way women love THE MOST when meeting men.

If you ask a woman about how she loves to be approached by a guy, sheíll probably say something like this:

"I like it when it just happens... accidentally."

And though sometimes women donít consciously know what they want, this IS the truth.

Women want to meet men by "accident" ó which basically means that itís NOT planned out ahead of time. Instead, the meeting and interaction just "happens" in the moment.

Being able to do this or allow it to happen "sweeps women off their feet" because itís real, authentic, and non-calculative.

So how do you do it?

First, you DONíT go out of your way to talk to a woman.


I know "Pick-Up Artists" look at it differently. But would you go to a different country just to start a conversation with a woman?

Yeah... if you were desperate.

Well, walking up to a woman is basically the SAME thing on a smaller scale.

So unless she gave you the "eye contact signals", donít do it.

Second, if a woman is in earshot and you have time, just take the opportunity.

Instead of directly approaching a woman, you only start conversations with women who are already in close contact with you.

You ONLY talk to women who "cross your path".

Hereís the three basic steps on how to do this:

STEP #1: Mind Your Surroundings

One of the key things I teach is not only to be aware of what people who come into close contact with you are doing but how theyíre responding to you.

To do this, you use just your peripheral awareness.

You know how you can notice things in the "corner of your eye" without having to directly look at them?

Thatís what I mean.

You need to work on developing this ability so you can go about your business while noticing whatís happening around you at the same time ó and all without reacting to it.

Because when you get really good at this, youíll start noticing how women respond to you when they come into close contact with you.

The signs start becoming obvious.

STEP #2: Think Out Loud

Now, have you ever noticed that when someone says something and youíre the only one around, you almost feel "obligated" to reply?

Itís almost like youíd feel rude if you didnít say anything, donít you? Itís like youíd be "snubbing" a complete stranger, and who wants to be rude?

In fact, it often seems to be the case that most people are even "nicer" to strangers than people they actually know.

So when a woman comes into close contact with you and youíre somewhat stationary, like in a grocery store line-up, make a short impersonal statement that relates to the situation as if youíre thinking out loud or talking to yourself.

This may sound strange at first. I mean, wonít she think youíre a crazy guy who talks to himself?

Not if youíre genuine and you say it with conviction, she wonít.

Hereís the reality:

Doing this is like giving her an invitation. And not only that, itís a non-threatening invitation because youíre not even facing her... or even talking directly to her.

In fact, itís like youíre indirectly welcoming her into your experience, which communicates all the "right" things.

For example, you may pick-up an interesting gadget from the check-out rack and say, "Damn! Thatís cool." And then just start looking it over.

STEP #3: Read The Vibe

Next, what you want to do is notice how sheís reacting to what you said using just your peripheral awareness. So you donít even look directly at her.

If sheís not interested, sheíll just continue on with what she was doing. So thereís no big rejection. I mean, itís not like you were talking directly to her or anything, so how can she "reject" you?

No, she just didnít take the "invitation".

Big deal!

But most times, sheíll give you her attention in one of two ways:

Either sheíll respond by saying something, which lets you know that itís now OK to look at her and get into a conversation.

Or sheíll look at you because sheís curious, but wonít say anything. She may just be shy, so thatís youíre cue to actively invite her into the conversation.

For example, perhaps youíd say: "Look at this thing," as you look at her. "Any ideas on how someone wouldíve come up with the idea for this thing?"

Iíve found this to be the very best way to casually meet women without coming off "too forward" or "weird". Itís safe and non-threatening for both: you and her.

In fact, youíll be seen as a "regular" guy, not some creepy "Pick-Up Artist" whoís only interested in getting in her pants.

Now, what do you do after youíve started a conversation?

Just flip to Chapter 10 in Cool Guy with Women and use the techniques on how to continue and lead the conversation from there.

By using these simple conversational techniques, youíll never have to worry about what to say again. Youíll always know what to say next by following the step-by-step concepts.

Click this link for more details or to order your copy today:

How To Become A "Cool Guy" With Women

I look forward to meeting and talking with you in the forums.

See you there soon.

Your Friend,

Jay Julio

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