What to Do If You're Not a Woman's Type

by Swinggcat

As I'm sitting here fondling my crystal ball, I'm willing to go out on a limb and bet that most men on this planet have at some point during their lives FELT they weren't a woman's type. Their chances with her, they lamented, were nil. They felt as helpless and pathetic as a salivating dog whiffing the aroma of a steak it will never get to chow down on.

For some men it's not anything the woman says or does that makes them feel they aren't her type. It's just an intuition they get. Their gut instinct squawks at them with: "She's such a fantastic girl. You wish you could have her. But she'll never go for you, loser."

Maybe they think, if they weren't so damn ugly everything would be different. If only they could take a pill that would make them grow seven inches or win the lottery, they ponder, they could play ball in her league. Life would be different, they imagine, with the social status of Donald Trump.

But things are about to take a depressing turn for the worse. Guys don't imagine this stuff out of thin air. There's always some fascist ice queen who tells men that women want a tall and dark and handsome billion dollar ATM machine with feet who sports an Ivy League education and is lumbered with a member so big it has to be strapped into a custom made harness.

Some women will flat out tell men: "Sorry, you're not my type." In the wake of these crippling words, most men go belly up as their egos are pounded into pâté.

Can you relate? Be honest. I know I can. Is there some truth to: "If you're NOT a woman's type there's nothing you can do to make her feel attraction toward you?"

Maybe, if you're not a woman's type, there's no dating tips or tricks or secrets... or whatever that are capable of generating attraction inside her?

Many dating experts believe this. I know one expert who says if you're old, for example, you can't get young women.

I know another who claims men should go for women of similar physical attractiveness and social status as themselves. Their message, put simply, is: "Don't waste your time with women out of your league. You're not a great catch. That's why you came to me. Settle for something realistic."

...I think I've filled up two bags of barf just writing these words. This makes me sick and I'm a pretty laid back guy. It takes a lot to make me mad. But I'm seething because...

These so called experts don't have a clue what attraction is. They think attraction is appealing to what a woman prefers in a man. If she prefers tall, rich guys, according to them, short, poor guys are out of luck.

But this is NOT what attraction is.

Attraction is a woman feeling the emotion inside her body of wanting and reaching and chasing for more of you.

"That's just great," you might be brooding, "So what if attraction is not how a woman judges me. I still would put money on it that she only feels attraction toward men sporting a Calvin Klein model's body and having Brad Pitt's face plopped on top of their shoulders."

But what you BELIEVE women respond to as attractive is not necessarily what women respond to as attractive in reality.

You might, for example, think women respond to men as attractive who've got big muscles. And if a man does not have big muscles, then it's impossible for a woman to feel attraction toward him.

But this is only a belief. A generalization about how women are going to respond to men with small biceps. Maybe its genesis is past experiences we've had? Maybe its origin is cultural conditioning: think, for example, of what your parents taught you, or the influence of your friends, or what the media has led you to believe women want... and so on? I dunno?

I remember years ago meeting this stunning blonde. She was five foot nine inches tall, lumbered with one of the best pair of jugs I've ever seen, and, to top it off, she'd gotten a perfect score on the SAT.

I wanted this woman - I wanted her bad.

It was, however, out of my belief system to even consider the possibility of this woman feeling attraction toward me.

"How could this amazing woman ever feel attraction toward little, pathetic me?" I thought.

Luckily I got her number. We talked on the phone for a while. I honestly believed I didn't have a chance with her. "But," I thought, "She's such an awesome girl that regardless of what happens I want to be friends with her." I invited her to a beach party a friend of mine was having. To my surprise she showed up.

But during the party I ignored her because I still didn't BELIEVE I had a chance with her. After the party she invited me back to her friend's house. I didn't, however, think anything of it.

When I got to her friends house I sat around talking with her friends for about a half-hour. Then she said, "I need to talk to you for a minute." So I said, "Okay," still clueless as to what was going on. She led me into a bedroom, pushed me up against a wall and started kissing me. The rest is history.

I realized my belief that I wasn't her type was wrong. My belief that I couldn't make her feel attraction toward me was way off base.

I was lucky in this situation because this girl was forward and aggressive with me.

But looking back I wonder: How many opportunities with fantastic women did I miss out on because of my limiting belief? I'm willing to wager, quite a few.

But don't get your hopes up. We're not out of the dark yet. Let's go headlong into the belly of the beast.

Oftentimes it's more than your gut instinct telling you: "You aren't her type, loser." She'll let you know all on her own. How sweet.

Sometimes women imply it: they'll, for example, say they like skinny guys when you're fat or tell you they like guys with dark hair when yours is blonde... and so on. And other times they'll give your ego a nice dose of electroshock therapy by flat out tell you: You aren't my type.

I've heard it all: from women telling me that they'd go out with me if I was only a few inches taller to saying that they loved my personality but just didn't find me attractive to blatantly spelling out in plain English that I wasn't their type.

At times it felt like a proverbial snake had crawled down my throat and put its venom deep into my soul, sending me on an emotional roller coaster, compelling me to crawl into a little ball and disappear.

Let me tell you a little story: In the book "Thus Spoke Zarathustra" the protagonist, Zarathustra, spots a shepherd in plight. A snake had crawled into his mouth and down his throat while he was sleeping. As the shepherd is holding onto his life by a thread, Zarathustra tells him to bite the snake's head off. So he does. But something changes within the shepherd. He's grown much more powerful.

I've, similar to the shepherd, bitten the proverbial snake's head off. When women tell me I'm not their type I laugh out loud because I know something most men don't know. Many guys who are amazing with women don't even know this.

About six years ago, being the mad scientist I am, I tried a little social experiment. Every time a woman told me I wasn't her type, I'd misinterpret her words as meaning I was her type and, then, plow forward at full throttle.

At first this failed miserably. Every time I'd misinterpret her words as meaning I was her type I'd become nauseous. I felt I was lying to myself.

But I waded further down this path, refusing to let their harsh words pummel my ego like a battered woman.

To my astonishment the same women who blatantly told me I wasn't their type couldn't keep their little paws off me. I'd discovered something fascinating...

When a woman tells you what her type is, she's telling YOU what she BELIEVES she responds to as attractive. So, for example, if she tells you that she's only attracted to twenty five year old males lumbered with six foot three inch frames and sporting wieners big enough to make most horses blush, realize this: these are just beliefs or generalizations about what triggers her to feel attraction.

These beliefs might come from her cultural conditioning: From her friends and family to the media and pop culture... and so on?

Maybe they come from her past experiences with men?

They could even be taken from her experience with you up until the present?

But she has no way of knowing what her emotions will feel toward you in the future. Emotions are unpredictable. I've discovered that women have emotions contrary to their own beliefs all the time.

When women tell you what sort of men they prefer, ignore them. It means nothing. Work, instead, on generating the emotion inside them of wanting and reaching and chasing for more of you.

When a woman tells me that she's only attracted to guys who are contrary to me, I chuckle to myself. I think: "Maybe up till this point she's only been attracted to these types of guys. But she hasn't encountered someone like me yet. Boy is she in for a big surprise."

Sometimes when women tell you their type, they're bluffing. They're testing you. Trying to make you squirm.

Most men fall for this. They either qualify themselves to the woman by desperately trying to demonstrate that they possess the quality she supposedly finds attractive or they give up.

A woman, for example, shared a story with me about her telling a guy that she liked really big cocks. The dumb brute, of course, took the bait by telling her he had a massive member. She called his bluff by challenging him to show it to her. He, not surprisingly, chickened out.

I'm willing to bet if this brute hadn't tried to live up to her "massive member" standard, she would've slept with him in a heartbeat.

But by him trying so hard to prove himself that he was driven to lie to her about his size, he, unknowingly, defined the underlying meaning of the interaction as her being the Prize he was trying to win over. This underlying meaning is what I call "The Meta-Frame."

Setting the Meta-Frame that she's the Prize you're trying to win over is a surefire way of preventing any attraction from ever being generated inside her. If you want to generate massive attraction inside women, you need to set the Meta-Frame that you're the Prize she's compelled to win over.

When a woman tries to take control of the Meta-Frame you need to call her bluff and take back control. A great way for doing this is using what I call "Attraction Coups."

Like a political coup where a government is taken over by another party unexpectedly, Attraction Coups LITERALLY take over the underlying meaning of the interaction and suck the woman into your reality in an unexpected way.

Even if the Attraction Coup is not completely effective, it conveys the message that you are unwilling to give her control of the Meta-Frame. You are unwilling to let her suck you into her reality.

As a result, you'll come off looking stronger and more attractive.

A friend of mine, for example, had a woman say to him that SIZE is important. He looked at her knowingly and used an Attraction Coup by saying: "I'm glad I finally met a woman who's honest... Big breasts are important."

She was trying to make him squirm. But he called her bluff by turning it around on her. She tried to suck him into her reality but she ended up getting sucked into his. Joke's on her.

The fact is, my friend, we've all been in situations where we felt that we'd hit a dead end with a woman. We weren't her type, we thought, and success with her felt impossible. A proverbial snake of fear and limitations had crawled down our throat. I want to give YOU the tools for biting this snake's head off once and for all.

In my book you'll discover the step-by-step tools for creating a reality where it's possible to generate attraction in any and every woman YOU desire... and then you'll learn the secrets for sucking these women into this reality. And you aren't required to memorize any lines. Once YOU understand the technology, just the right words will flow from your lips at just the right time. My book is the only place on the planet you'll learn this technology.

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