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Texting a Girl for the First Time

by Race de Priest

Today, I want to take a minute to talk about something that is so crucial to having solid text-game mastery — sending the first text.

For now, I'm gonna assume you know how to get numbers from cute girls. I'm also gonna assume you have numbers from girls in your cell phone that you'd like to date or hook up with currently.

What Your First Texts Say About You

It should be stated that if you're texting a girl, odds are that other guys are texting her, too. While you want to have zero expectations whether you're texting one girl or multiple girls, you must separate yourself from the pack and engage her at her emotional core.

You want to convey, through text:

  • that you are a high-status individual
  • that meeting and talking to girls is nothing new to you
  • and that you have a fun, non-needy personality that makes every text conversation fun

However, you don't want to become her new text-buddy. Of course, the texting is there so that you will eventually hang with her in person...

The Best First Texts to Send

So, how do you craft a text message that sets you apart, and makes her want to hang out with you? In my experience, I've narrowed it down to three elements that will guarantee a response:

  1. Engage her emotions, causing her to feel or re-affirm attraction to you.
  2. Set a fun, playful tone for the future interactions.
  3. Compels her to respond.

The most powerful element of creating the best first text is engaging her emotions. Remember that women are emotional creatures, and the best way to spark attraction is to do so through her emotions. If you had a great first interaction before you got her number, you want to continue those emotions when you re-connect via text.

The best way to compel her to respond is to ask her a question that requires a fun response. Asking "what's up" or "what are you doing" is boring, and what most of the guys in her phone book would ask. By simply reframing "what's up" to "what kind of shenanigans are you getting into," you make it much more fun and playful...

Adopting a light and playful mentality in your text interactions will transfer from her phone to her emotional brain, compelling her to respond to this and future texts.

Of course, in my book "Text That Girl" I give several more examples of how to engage her emotions, set a playful tone, and compel her to respond. Including The One Magic Text That NO Girl Can Resist!

The "It's Not Your Fault" Technique - In this short video I teach you exactly what to text a girl who has stopped responding to your texts. These texts will make her laugh and compel her to respond — even if she's been ignoring you for weeks.

The "Let Me Guess" Technique - In this short video I show you how to set yourself apart from all the other guys who are texting her using the ingenious "Let Me Guess" technique.

Happy texting!