Places to Meet Women
When you're in High School or College you're usually surrounded by desirable females, so finding them is not much of a problem. However, once you get out into the "real world" it seems your options get a little more limited. So I recently queried the readers of The Don Juan Newsletter for Places to Meet Women that they have discovered which they feel might be of some benefit to their fellow Don Juans. This is what they had to say.
You say you need advice on where to meet women? You've come to the right place. One problem, my friends can attest to this, I never have is meeting new women. I always seem to be meeting new women. Besides the fact that I am extremely outgoing, I think this is because I go a lot of places and throw a lot of variety into my business and personal agenda.
Now if some guy is NOT happy with the number of women he is meeting, but he's doing the same thing, weekend-in, weekend-out, at the same places and maybe even with the same friend(s) (especially if he's a smelly or rude friend), it should not be surprising to him that he's coming up short.
My advice, is to do as I do, DO different stuff. If you spend one weekend doing city things, try to go out to the suburbs or even country; maybe the country girls might like you more than the city girls. There's major preference differences between girls from different places. To give you an idea of what I do, see I really get out; I try new towns all over my state; scope out new places. One weekend, I'll walk around downtown Manhattan, and strike up a conversation with an attractive female at a watering hole there. Then the next weekend, maybe I'll find some nice well-to-do suburb, and find a very intelligent, beautiful woman at a well known bar/restaurant arrangements as these are very popular in the suburbs.
But, don't just limit your escapades to the night; actually the day is a fantastic time to meet women. Maybe at the gym on the weekends, when a certain lady you've been eyeing isn't so rushed. Check out what's on the shelves at the local book store, you never know who you might "bump" into; which FORCES you to talk to a woman. You at least have to say excuse me, which any guy can turn into some quick chat.
Also, be creative guys; you use your noodle to get into college, right, to get that job, right, to beat that score on your favorite video games, well meeting women is no different, you have to think, and think FAST. See opportunities before they come, and quickly figure out a plan of attack. I think some guys don't meet enough girls because they move too slow. NOT GOOD. As soon as you see an opportunity to speak to a woman, size up the situation and your plan of approach, and move quickly. Because guess what? If you are sizing her up, so are all the other males in that place, and chances are, at least one of them is smoother, better looking, and richer than you. But, you CAN beat him to the punch and shut him out, if you move fast.
Another point on timing. One, if you are out at a club/bar, you Can't wait until 15 minutes before the club closes to talk to a woman. If a girl is still available by that point, chances are she has a serious boyfriend, she does not talk to guys in clubs no matter what, or maybe her breath is vile. So, at that point, you're wasting your energy. If you're going to make your move guys, do it by 11:30 at the latest, unless you are in a New York City, LA or Ibiza Spain club, because there all I said does not apply, because clubs open there at 4:00AM sometimes. Don't look like a loser and wait till the end of the night.
In terms of specific places that I have found good for meeting women are the following:
- Martini Bars
- Jewelry outlets (the women who work at these are very beautiful and they are usually bored and therefore, happy to talk with YOU)
- Anyplace for lunch near "corporate parks" esp. happy hour
- Restaurant/bar arrangements
- Banquet halls where the halls are attached to a bar/restaurant establishment
- The gym
- Cultural events (like Octoberfest, German/Irish/Italian/Spanish festivals)
- Seminars (finance, home improvement, nutrition, self-improvement)
- Busy parks
- "Outside" shopping malls or street fairs
- Running races
- Political events
- Just about anywhere near a college campus
**One more tip - always look your best; don't disqualify yourself by going out to the drug store looking like the poster guy for the local homeless shelter. Look sharp, be aware, always be ready to act, and be persistent. Let your confidence and charm shine through, and your only problem will be which woman to call next weekend.
All the places you mentioned to meet ladies do work. I have been particularly lucky meeting women at business/social mixers!
Yes, each city or cities in your region has chambers of commerces, business networks, and other business groups of interest. You would be amazed at how many women (available) are aggressively becoming active in your local bizznez community. I am not saying these groups are pouring out with available women, but the quality is there, the camaraderie, the common interest. The comfortness and casual environment lend themselves to instant ways to "Hook-Up"!
So if you're self-employed or represent a company that is active in the Biz community, then I suggest you volunteer to attend these functions. The worst that can happen is that you will get some Biz leads and meet from time to time, a few well rounded, aggressive, open-minded, available, horny women.
I go to the local night club. It's quite a regular place, not pretentious at all. The night I go is an over 25s night and they have a drinks promotion where you get two for the price of one, and it's not really expensive at all. Most people end up pretty smashed I expect, and the door policy is pretty strict, so everyone is more mature and you don't get nasty people there. There isn't a teenie bopper in sight either.
It's a place to let your hair down, and you can just chat up the women with ease, and dance etc. I always have success there, and normally get a new phone number. My hint for getting numbers is a small mobile phone that can fit in my pocket. More than a phone: it's a telephone book! Works a treat!
With regard to places to meet women: Internet and environmental or community service activities locally.
A really good place to meet women I have found is at the gym.
While working out, you will have to drink from the fountain regularly, so you will have to walk past all the machines to get to the fountain. The women will be working out in a set, and look up to see who is passing by during their workout, as does everyone. And when they look at you, simply smile very friendly like and say "hi, how are you doing?" They'll say something along the line of, "good how bout' you?" And you reply and open the conversation in one line, "I'm great, so what's you name?, mine is *****." They will reply and so on...
It works especially well at the gym because it is a relaxed environment, and people enjoy knowing someone as a friend while they work out. They can go to the gym and know that you will be there, and become more than friends over time. Hope you enjoy.
The term "desirable" is what makes the question of where to meet such a woman a little difficult to determine. Granted that there are certain nearly universal characteristics that are thought to be preferred (for example, when was the last time you saw a really hefty young lady in Playboy?), there are even more characteristics that across men in general vary in their Desirability Value (DV).
What seems to consistently maintain a high DV rating across men is visual attractiveness. Moreover, this is probably the easiest of the factors to determine. One can pretty much see upfront if the girl is hot or not. Other characteristics (intelligence, personality, spirituality, etc.) require more involvement to determine.
With dating being something of a numbers game, it seems wise to go to those places that attract the kinds of girls who exhibit the less obvious but nonetheless desirous traits. For example, I am interested in spiritual matters, and girls who have a similar outlook will be found most likely at church. So by attending church fairly regularly, I can immediately see which girls are physically attractive, and I have reduced my interaction to only those girls who are interested in spiritual things.
The bottom line is this: By looking in the places that attract women with interests similar to yours, and by virtue of the fact that you can see right off if she has the look you're after, you're that much closer to finding your match.
