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How to Approach Women In a Club

by BigBadJon

After a wild night out last night, my buddy and I were talking about how to approach women in a club.

One method that works for him is to simply reach over and pull the woman to him. I have never seen him get rejected this way.

The approach that we both agreed to be the best is to motion for her to come over to you.

Doing this accomplishes several things.

  1. First and foremost you are showing supreme confidence. Not too many guys have the balls to do this.
  2. Secondly, you are showing dominance. We all know that women love dominant males.
  3. Third of all, you are putting her on your turf. She is crossing the line moving away from her personal space and into yours. If she moves to you, she has shown submissive behavior. From this point on you are in control.

Think about this for a minute. If you had walked over to her and asked her to dance, she has control. If you had approached her where she was standing, even if you weren't "asking" her to dance, the ball is still in her court.

But if she leaves her comfort zone to enter your territory, you are 100% in control. You have showed her that you aren't afraid to be in control and take what you want.

Of course there is a small chance that she won't "obey." So what? You have established that she's not interested. Move on.

This technique will only work when you are on top of your game. Your success rate will be proportionate to the amount of confidence you project. If she detects hesitation or weakness on your part, failure is likely.

The "grab her hand and pull her to you" method will work best on a girl that you haven't necessarily made eye contact with.

The "motion her to you" method will require getting her attention one way or another preferably with a smile and eye contact.

Try this sometime. Done properly it should yield a pretty good return.