Choose or Lose - Part 2
If you missed part 1 of this great article, you can read it here.
EXCITEMENT
When you live life to its fullest, there is no need to perform for the sake of winning favor. People will be drawn to you naturally because you possess that certain something they find attractive but can't quite figure out.
Banish worry and doubt from your thought patterns because they never help and always hold you back. Be imaginative in everything you do and open your eyes to see all of the great, funny and interesting things that make life worth living.
Behind the most boring everyday rituals, there are simple pleasures to be enjoyed and great stories waiting to be told... if you can't see this then what you need is a change of perspective.
If possible, try to get some traveling under your belt. Nothing will give you a greater sense of perspective and appreciation for your world than alien rituals, cultures, and environments. Traveling has helped me in so many aspects of my life, that I get restless if I stay in one place for too long, and can't figure out how people can settle for the throbbing monotony around them.
Each day is on opportunity for adventure, so even if it means going to a different part of town, get out of the tired old cycles that are weighing you down and get some fresh energy in your life.
Another facet of excitement is spontaneity and decisiveness. In a sense you must learn to sweep yourself off your own feet before you can do it for her. The world rarely sticks to your plans anyway, so you are better off rolling with the punches and yes, even enjoying the unexpected twists in the road.
There is a Spanish expression that I love so much, it has become my motto...
"Nunca te acostaras sin saber una cosa mas."
It means "Never go to sleep at night without knowing something new." Apply this to your own life and it will naturally extend to your romantic approach.
Women absolutely adore a man who will grab their hand and say, "Tonight we are going someplace special and you are going to LOVE it!" Anticipation, wonder and surprise are your allies in this game, so take her places she has never been before and teach her something, because people never forget their first time.
Your goal is to have them thinking, "Who IS this man?"
Remember that the moment they stop wondering about you is when the boredom sets in and that pretty much means Game Over.
INSPIRATION
Be aware of your potential and believe in your ability to fulfill it. This is the best gift you can give yourself. It is also a wonderful thing to share with a woman who you also feel has greatness within her.
The bottom line is that we all want to feel like we matter... that our lives have some kind of meaning. This is why dreams are the most powerful part of my screening process. I love to ask what they envisioned for the future as a child, the type of future they are anticipating today, etc. What a girl wants out of life will tell you more about her than anything else. This helps me weed out the boring ones who are more concerned with "American Idol" than their own lives.
Once I find out what she dreams of, I do one of two things. If she is on the right path, I express my sincere admiration because it is rare to find people who live life on their own terms, and I have great interest in anyone who does this.
More often than not, unfortunately, I encounter a woman who has given up on her life in a sense. In this case, I do my best to reinforce the fact that she is totally capable of realizing her potential by showing her that, despite the people who called me crazy along the way, I have worked hard to fulfill my own destiny.
You would be surprised how few people actually encourage these things nowadays. It's not a seduction ploy either. I really believe that we all have so much to offer, yet so few of us have the balls to defy convention until someone believes in us.
I have ex-girlfriends who I haven't seen in years, but they are still head over heels in love with me because I made them see all they had to offer the world and how stunningly beautiful they were beneath the surface. And ain't that all anyone really wants... to feel worthy, desired and powerful?
COMPASSION
I can't stress this enough, but learn to be a good listener!
The worst thing you can do is feign interest or simply "uh-huh" someone to death. People appreciate insight from an outsider's perspective and deep down we are all looking for someone who gives a damn about our problems.
This is not to say that you should be the emotional tampon. The instant a girl starts to complain about her life, job, friends, etc. I remind her that she always has the choice to change any of these things and sometimes we can't embrace a better future if we are holding onto a crappy past just cause it's comfortable. At first I sympathize with them and show I am on their side, until I can see how they make themselves suffer needlessly, at which point I get them to laugh at how silly they are being.
Transmuting worry and doubt into laughter is one of the most powerful things you can do for a woman. I know it sounds crazy, but females have this innate necessity to make themselves crazy and then be pacified by you in order to experience a wide range of emotions.
Though it drives me nuts sometimes, I have to admit, the sex is quite enjoyable after such episodes because there is so much more that the two of you are expressing. This might seem annoying at times, but I actually find it adorable how they overcomplicate their lives and are desperate for someone to come along and make things simple for them.
On an instinctual level, they want you to shake them up emotionally, which is why you want to reduce their stress to peace and vanquish boredom with excitement.
It should be noted that some women, no matter how hot or great they seem, might not be compatible with you on this energetic level. Two uptight and paranoid people will drive each other crazy and two laidback folks will probably get bored very quickly. Nature dictates that we experience an abundance of energy when two extremes collide and find balance. As my mom always said, "There is someone for everyone."
CONCLUSION
The most important step you can take to getting what you want out of life is actually deciding what that something is.
Seduction is not so much about being a one-man circus to get a piece of tail, as it is about seducing the universe into materializing your desires. This applies to your career, your physical being, and your sexuality.
Even if it seems stupid, write down your vision of an ideal job, body and mate. Make a list of the things that you want to change and the possible methods of doing so.
One of the biggest turn-offs for a woman is a wishy-washy man, and you would do yourself a great service to eliminate the words "I don't know" from your vocabulary. It is better to err on the side of daring, rather than caution, because this is the only way to change your life for the better.
I suppose you could try to fake these attitudes I have outlined with nothing more than a few daily self-affirmations, but personal experience has taught me that only when you truly see yourself as a winner, will you feel legitimized to score a "10". And your actions, not your words, will determine how you see yourself.
The old saying rings true my friends, beggars really can't be choosers. The beauty of it all is that until the day we die, we always have the choice to be either one.
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