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How Zen Buddhism Can Help You Get Girls

by GiveMePoontang

"What is Zen?" you may be thinking right now.

Or possibly "How can Zen help me score?"

Regardless of what you're thinking, I guarantee that applying Zen to your life will have you literally knee-deep in females in no time.

First, let me briefly explain a little bit about Zen for those who are new to it.

Zen is short for Zen Buddhism. It is sometimes called a religion and sometimes called a philosophy. Choose whichever term you prefer; it simply doesn't matter.

Asking the question "What is Zen" basically can only have an answer that would make sense if the question was phrased as "What is the essence of Zen?"

Historically, the essence of Zen has been explained in seemingly mundane statements and questions like "Wash your bowl" or "Have you eaten yet?" The question cuts right to the heart of the matter and can only be answered by you. Perhaps the best answer is "practice".

When I first discovered this discussion board I noticed a common thread that ran through all the advice being given by the Don Juans... from tips like "Wait 5-7 days before calling" to "Don't seem too needy."

The Power of Non-Attachment

It became clear to me after awhile that the common thread running through the DJ tips seemed to be non-attachment. The more a guy tries to get a particular girl, the more his efforts seem to actually repel her.

Conversely, the more un-attached a guy is to the woman, the more attracted she will be to him.

This is Zen.

Many of you have probably witnessed this in everyday without even knowing it. Pay attention to what common aspects the guys who pull the most chicks have. By and large, they have a non-attachment to the girls that they get. If they lose one chick she can be easily replaced, therefore there is no need to worry.

On the other hand, the guys who obsess over getting a certain girl and make her the center of their universe will unquestioningly fail in getting her. What is going on here? I think a Zen Story would be good here in order to explain non-attachment in concrete terms.

A Little Story

There is an ancient Zen story of an old farmer who had worked his crops for many years. One day his horse ran away. Upon hearing the news, his neighbors came to visit. "Such bad luck," they said sympathetically. "May be," the farmer replied.

The next morning the horse returned, bringing with it three other wild horses. "How wonderful," the neighbors exclaimed. "May be," replied the old man.

The following day, his son tried to ride one of the untamed horses, was thrown, and broke his leg. The neighbors again came to offer their sympathy on his misfortune. "May be," answered the farmer.

The day after, military officials came to the village to draft young men into the army. Seeing that the son's leg was broken, they passed him by. The neighbors congratulated the farmer on how well things had turned out.

"May be," said the farmer.

What quality does the farmer demonstrate throughout the story?

Non-attachment. He doesn't care about all the ideas, opinions, etc. of his neighbors because he knows that in the greater scheme of things what they have to say is simply insignificant.

Understand this and apply it to your dealings with females. Never get too interested in any one girl.

Perhaps another story is in order to further drive this home.

During the civil wars in feudal Japan, an invading army would quickly sweep into a town and take control. In one particular village, everyone fled just before the army arrived — everyone except the Zen master.

Curious about this old fellow, the general went to the temple to see for himself what kind of man this master was. When he wasn't treated with the deference and submissiveness to which he was accustomed, the general burst into anger.

"You fool," he shouted as he reached for his sword, "don't you realize you are standing before a man who could run you through without blinking an eye!"

But despite the threat, the master seemed unmoved. "And do you realize," the master replied calmly, "that you are standing before a man who can be run through without blinking an eye?" At this the general bowed sheepishly and left the temple immediately.

Think about that story. Think about the quality that the master demonstrates in his comment. Take this to heart and apply it to your life.

Once you begin to understand Zen and you start to see it at work, you will realize just how easy it is to get women and you will be guaranteed to get tons of them.

I encourage all the Don Juans to learn as much as they can about Zen and try to actually apply it to your life. I guarantee that will give you much insight into how to succeed with women. I will leave you with this...

Three points to consider in practice:

  1. The situation is not other than your mind.
  2. Your mind does not choose the situation, but through practice can choose how it's realized.
  3. Any situation with a chick you want can be realized as an opportunity and be guided to the outcome you want.