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Nice Guys vs Jerks
Writing cause I think you've chosen an interesting topic and my experience in the topic is so recent that I just had to write. I'm generally considered in the nice guy category and it was always quite a disadvantage... had experiences even in my youth like a girl who was practically doing everyone in my class would spend more time with me than with anyone else but would never let me touch her cause she felt that would ruin my 'niceness' and would make me like the other 'jerks'... I bet you can guess what a jerk I felt like! Other such experiences followed and recently I came across a quote in your newsletter about nice guys not getting laid. I felt the time had come for me to change and I tried to adopt the Mantra - "No more Mr. Nice Guy". However I couldn't even wait to see if the results would be positive as every time I acted as a jerk I felt like a jerk. So I switched back... Fortunately I have now met a girl who was looking for a nice guy and our relationship progressed/is progressing much faster than any of the jerks I had observed and envied... As such although I agree that jerks definitely get laid much more often... I would suggest to other nice guys to hang on... believe in themselves and be themselves... It may take a little longer but when they do find the right woman... they'll have a much better time than a dozen jerks combined or their grosses of women! I've been the victim of "nice guy" syndrome a number of times. The most painful was about 4 years ago... Once upon a time, I had an intense crush on this beautiful woman at work. I was fortunate enough to be a founding member of this "breakfast club" and this woman was the center of attraction of the club. Well, we met every day before work and so, I got to know her very well and so did this other guy (the jerk). I was honest and since I was dating another woman, I had to pass when this hot woman asked me if I wanted to go help her with her torn panty hose. I missed my chance I guess. The jerk was in the process of a divorce, telling me all about it, and, as it turned out, was already shacked up with yet another woman (didn't find that out till later). He somehow managed to seduce this smoking hot woman right beneath my eyes. They were doing it for a while before I realized. During that time, I had ended my relationship with my former girlfriend and was ready to make my move. I even told the jerk what I was feeling towards her. He wouldn't even then tell me what was going on. After I found out, I felt like a total fool. Eventually, everyone in the office knew what happened and she stayed with him for almost a year before dumping him! while he was still shacked up! The jerk had dumped all his divorce problems (which he created) on me because I would listen, and to pay me back, he stole the woman I wanted. Lesson to learn: the jerks have serious ethics / moral problems. I'm convinced the way he got her away from me, was by poisoning her towards me by telling her untrue things about me so she would lose interest. So to all you woman out there who have this thing for the smooth talking read: lying "jerk types" - Wise up! Stop thinking with your .. (whatever it is down there that you think with). The nice guys are the best lovers. You have to be able to trust the one you love. If you just want a fling with a guy without a big commitment, you don't need a jerk! Just approach a nice guy with your request. Just cause he isn't a snake doesn't mean he won't comply! And if he is already with someone, he will tell you! Imagine that! Keep it honest and in the open and it can be a wonderful thing. There is nothing degrading about honesty and openness - or an intimate relationship with a "nice" guy.
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