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Nice Guys vs Jerks
What I think a Jerk has going for him is that he's willing to make a fool of himself at times and allow her to let down her guard to feel more comfortable as she doesn't consider him much of a threat to her. While a nice guy doesn't break the ice as easily, causing her to question her subconscious skepticism. If a woman doesn't take the trouble to put a nice guy at ease, then these barriers will interfere in their communication. Many women have been fooled by a Mr. Niceguy who turned out to hurt them one way or another and have come to the conclusion that if he seems too good to be true, he usually is. A jerk is immediately obvious while a nice guy only proves himself over time. Go figure? It's the same as the adage "buy cheap, get cheap". Love a Jerk, get a Jerk. If a woman isn't astute enough to recognize a nice guy when she meets one, she deserves the jerk. And then there are women who are jerks too, but that's another subject altogether. I know "jerks" always get the women because I have some very attractive lady friends who always tell me how they are treated by their boyfriends. And I am truly amazed of the type of guys who do this. I attempt my best nice guy attitude, which is how I am all the time, and I get nowhere with the ladies. But the jerks are the ones who have them but treat them shitty. All I can do is just "sigh" and wish they would give me a chance at showing them (ladies) how nice and how much I respect them. So far it seems that "nice guys do really finish last". Having always thought I was a "nice guy," I wondered why women were not flocking to me. I began to realize, however, that "nice" doesn't mean being timid and always polite around women. I believe women can see right through the "act" of trying to be nice. They are attracted to a man who has enough confidence to speak his mind even when women are around. Jerks seem to have no problem saying whatever comes naturally. The difference is that a jerk says offensive things. But "nice" guys are too timid so they sit in the corner hoping the women will flock to them. If nice guys really believed they were nice, they should have the confidence to talk openly with women. That confidence will make the difference. Just because you tell a girl your opinion (even if it's controversial), it doesn't make you a jerk. It just shows that you're confident. Nice guys are very predictable. For example, if a girl knows a nice guy, at lunch she might give him money and ask him to get her something. This nice guy will always say yes. This doing of favors can eventually lead nice guys to get trampled on. Women do not like guys that get trampled on. Also, a nice guy's doing of good deeds becomes the norm, thus his good deeds can often go unappreciated. Now when a jerk does something nice, it is more noticeable since it is not the norm and it has a degree of unpredictability. Most women like a certain degree of unpredictability. So it's fine to be just a bit jerkish sometimes, but for God's sake don't overdo it.
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