Nice Guys vs Jerks

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I'm a 36 y/o male, and I've seen it many times. Women seem to go for the jerks more. I guess they're considered more exciting. If I looked like Denzel Washington, I likely wouldn't have a problem attracting women - but I don't. Women see me as a friend to talk to, but not as a romantic interest. I get to hear about all the 'jerks' they go out with, but *I* get ignored. I know nice guys finish last, but GEEZ, I'd at LEAST like to be in the middle of the pack sometime...
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It's simple. Confidence.

One of the things I have come to know is that it is the ONE thing that all women want in a guy. Looks, money, whatever...they all come in behind confidence.

I think as far as "nice guys vs. jerks goes" it comes down to more of a show of confidence than confidence itself. The guys who are acting like jerks give off a certain level of arrogance that can look like confidence even though it's usually just immaturity or idiocy (as women later find out :) Nice guys on the other hand do not have the outward appearance of confidence whether they have it or not, hence "nice guys always finish last."

The sad fact for both young men and older women is that nice guys (not all) are what women really want. As young men, nice guys don't get much credit, the jerks do and later on women go looking for that "nice sensitive" type and find that they are already married. Just the way it goes.

WHAT'S GOING ON...

With me I approach every girl different. You have to keep the girl excited so talk less. Be mysterious. Show her that she doesn't mean shit too you. Girls who are attractive are used to getting stares, looks and compliments by majority of guys. It sounds bad.. But you need to talk shit to her. I mean make fun of her in away. This will make her chase you in a sense. She'll use any means necessary to get your attention. Ultimately sex and etc. We all know that jerks come off as being arrogant. So women like jerks who are in control. That's why nice guys have a hard time being competitive with jerks.

Every girl is different so it's not the same for everyone.

Nice guy vs. Jerk...I don't really have much to say about this...

I just believe that if you are a nice guy and you think you have to act like a jerk or bad ass for a girl... that's pretty dumb.... I think people should be real and they shouldn't have to act. If a girl will only like you if you act like a jerk, then the relationship will most likely not last very long... you cant pretend to be a hard ass or a jerk forever. 

And for the people that are jerks... there's nothing wrong with that... as long as you find a jerk lovin girl...

I just believe that you shouldn't have to act or pretend to be anything in a relationship.

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