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Nice Guys vs Jerks
It is very possible that the Jerk is seen as having strength. A "tough" attitude, defiance to authority i.e. a strong will. There is also a phenomena from a Cat and Mouse game. (I've been on the wrong end all to many times!) From this game a "wanting" does occur. I, a man of honor and ethics, do not condone this. There may also be that if a woman is at a weakened moment (stress, loss etc.), a manipulative person can get his fingers in her. The nice guy doesn't mean you can be walked on! Being nice, Compassionate, Understanding; being this is not a weakness, for these are my greatest strengths! Now I must say this!: * If being a man who seeks the highest honor, But I know this is not true........ We are just not looking in the right direction. If you are these, stand tall, be confident, you are strong! Let it show! I am the nice guy. Girls have turned me down with the excuse that I am too nice. Then I got to know this one girl. I liked her, and was very attracted to her. She at first wouldn't give me a chance, she just wanted to be friends. Then she fell in love with how being with me made her feel. Then she fell in love with me. Now I look back on the girls who told me I was too nice and they seem less than me. Today I wouldn't give them the time of day. So to all the "nice guys" out there take a look at the girls you want and then ask yourself if this girl deserves you. The way I've been able to perceive it, a major, if not only, reason why women prefer jerks to nice guys is because the jerks, in all their smug superiority, display more confidence than nice guys, who actually worry about what impression they make. Also, the nice guy's attention sometimes makes a woman feel better about herself to the point of starting to wonder whether she could do a lot better than this particular nice guy. The jerk, however, may do something close to the opposite, and convince the poor girl that he's the best she can get. Of course, the solution is not to become a jerk, but to do a little self-improving to make yourself the attractive nice guy, as opposed to the just nice guy. Men aren't the only one who think with their hormones. Just thought I'd let my opinion be heard on this nice guys versus jerks debate. I'm 18 and I think I've got it figured out. Girls don't go for jerks because they like jerks, they go for jerks because they're confident in themselves. It's CONFIDENCE that attracts them like flies. That and a little unpredictability, a little excitement. I think the proper approach is be an unpredictable, exciting, confident nice guy. It gives them what they want, you get to be yourself and not an asshole, and you could actually develop a real relationship. I was a notorious strike-out with women until I got my first girlfriend. That gave me a big dose of confidence and guess what? Now all of a sudden the ladies can't keep their eyes (and hands) off me. Guys, here's my advice. Do something to increase your confidence. Snowboard, drag race (on a strip, please), climb a mountain, skydive, anything. I recommend drag racing in particular. Yeah, it's unbelievably expensive, but if you can afford it, it is a great confidence builder, you get to drive an awesome car as part of the deal, and there's just sort of a "bad boy" image that goes with drag racers. It helps with attracting women, and it helps you get in with the guys you want to hang out with too. This is experience talking here.
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