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Nice Guys vs Jerks
I picked that up from Lex & Terry (Jacksonville, FL radio show). Try it sometime. Watch people in the bar. He's not being a jerk. He just doesn't really care. His actions say "I want you, but I don't NEED you." And, she works harder for his affection. Nice guys are B-O-R-I-N-G and P-R-E-D-I-C-T-A-B-L-E. Two things that turn a woman off. Jerks can sometimes even be nasty, but they seem to carry that nastiness with a touch of excitement, which is why most women will be attracted to a "jerk." This usually lasts until most of these women are in their late 20's or early 30's. They are also attracted to the jerk because of the challenge to change them. Nice guys can initially give off an aura of being possessive and jealous which always turns women off. Most women will later realize that nice guys are smart. It takes a long time for most women to come full-circle on this principle. Nice guys are willing to provide security and comfort right from the beginning. Problem is, women in the beginning, aren't looking for that. Women who don't wise-up until it is too late are the women with the drunk, battering, uneducated, unemployed husband. Now she has three kids and she herself is uneducated. She is uneducated because her abusive husband always "controlled" her against ever being smarter than he was. He was a jerk, and still is. And now divorced with three kids, she says, "Why can't I meet a nice guy?" Answer: They were there all the time years ago. Now with all your baggage, they are smart enough not to get involved with you! I see this story unfold on a weekly basis. I work as a police officer and handle many, many domestics. Her kids will probably grow up to mimic the same negative experiences because domestic violence is a learned behavior. The son will smack his girlfriends and wife around because that was good enough for his mother. Dad did it all the time. The daughter will attract the same type of man her mother did. He will remind her of her father right up to the point of divorce. Hello, I am a 20 year old male, and always been considered a nice guy. It is my opinion that the reason women like jerks and not nice guys, is because the girls that feel that way, usually have low self esteems and believe that they are not worthy of a relationship with someone that treats them good. Well that is my opinion. I'm a 25 yr. old MALE who is the typical "nice guy". I was always the "nerd" or "bookworm" type in school and have a very hard time meeting women. I think women are attracted to jerks because they want a "bad boy" type. They want that James Dean from "Rebel without a Cause" or Danny Zucho from "Grease" or Fonzi from "Happy Days" type. They want the danger and excitement that seems to be there surrounding these types of men. Women often overlook us "Kermit the Frog" types or the "Seymour" from "Little Shop of Horrors" types. I don't think women think that guys such as us know how to do or be "exciting" or "dangerous". The problem with this is that it begets the question "how do you know we aren't exciting or dangerous if we're not given a chance?" If anything, us shy guys are often better lovers and can give women that romance or something special that they are looking for. We also do know ways to be even more dangerous than the "bad boys". For many of us it comes thru reading books or articles in magazines or just typical past times that women don't think we have. I think if women would realize that if they stopped complaining about not having a "nice guy" and started dating one, they'd be a lot happier.
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