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Nice Guys vs Jerks
Throughout what evolutionary psychologists call the Environment of Evolution Adaptedness (EEA), females had the most reproductive success with those males that could physically defend them. Thus females came to prefer those males that were physically strong (meaning they could overcome an enemy physically) and those males that were socially strong (meaning they could overcome an enemy by marshalling the support of their allies). Today the same tendency exists in women. Women want a man who, if needed, can defend her. But one very significant difference between then and now, however, is that then the male would almost certainly be forced to prove his physical strength, whereas today the probability is that the male will never be forced to physically defend the female. What this means for us guys in the year 2000 is that instead of showing our potential woman that we are tough by the way we fight, we show her that we are tough by the way we TALK about the way we fight. The bottom line for us is, we must show strength. A concrete way of doing this is by during your FIRST date with your would-be lady, utter a certain five words. These five words may not seem much to you, but they will trigger a sea change in your would-be lady with respect to her feelings for you. The five words are, said sincerely: "I'M NOT AFRAID OF ANYTHING." Find a good occasion to say them. I bring up the subject of movies, then turn it to horror movies and ask her about her favorites. Inevitably she'll ask whether I was scared by such and such a movie, and...BINGO! There's the opportunity. Capture your would-be lady by showing you're a man who will satisfy her foremost need: to be protected. I am a guy whom has always been referred to as a "nice guy." I recently got dumped by my girlfriend of 5 months for a "jerk" who is notorious for treating girls like crap and cheating on them. I have been told by many girls that I am better looking than this other guy, and even my ex-girlfriend told me that I was the perfect boyfriend, and that we were perfect for each other... in her little speech while she was breaking up with me. I have only one explanation as to why women choose the jerk over the nice guy: Women are just plain stupid! Ok now I'm going to express my opinion taken from a girl but delivered by a guy. Women love the Jerk guys because of one thing DRAMA!!! Women feel that they can be the one person to change the "badboy." But the "badboy" never changes, only on his own, if he wants to. Women love the tear covered pillows, and time waiting for him to call. But between the ages of 20-30 is when the women understand that all that "drama" is just a major pain in the ass. And they start dating that "niceguy". But the teenage girls don't get it yet. They'll pick the niceguy for a friend but the jerk for a boyfriend. Guys don't give up! Just be nice but make her want you by playing hard-to-get, and by not seeming to be too anxious to be with her. Just my opinion and hope it helps.
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Dating Questions Women Ask You and How to Answer! Laugh Your Way to a Great Sense of Humor How to Make Meeting Women Easy The Kiss Close - When, How, and What To Do How to Tell a Woman That You Like Her How to Eliminate Your Fear of Women The Little-Known Secret to Skyrocketing Your Success with Women
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