Nice Guys vs Jerks

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Regarding the nice guys vs jerks topic..... If a woman wants to be treated crappy, and doesn't appreciate someone who has class, manners, and knows how to carry himself, etc.... Why would I want to be with her?

I consider myself a nice guy, but I am dating two women at the same time. I really don't have enough time on the weekends for the both of them. And I can still get more dates if I want to. Just like in sales a deal takes on less importance if you have more potential deals in the pipeline. (You can tell that I have a sales background). A person is more desperate if there are fewer options for them. Develop the options.

Date more than one woman at a time. If you go out with more than one women at a time then they each take on less importance. You wont be worried or concerned about being a nice guy. Date more than one woman at a time until you are ready to commit. The operative word is YOU.

Not every woman is relationship potential. After dating several women I have found this out. This may sound harsh but I am much happier dating two rather than one. If I had more time I'd date three. When one acts weird I have the other one. And vice versa. Every women is different and when you date enough of them you will realize that you don't want to treat each one the same.

Some you don't want to treat with as much respect because they don't respect themselves. Some have major issues. Some are only good for one thing, and some not even for that. One you may be available for more often than the other, and if one speaks to you more than twice a week then that's a lot. It depends on the woman and the relationship you have with them.

Who says that the woman actually deserves you. You know who you are, they don't. I have seen it happen several times with friends and family when women forgo the nice guy who is steady and stable and opt for a guy who treats them badly. It normally ends in the women reaching her older years alone, unhappy, and sometimes physically abused. I even know of an instance where the woman was killed by the "bad-guy."

Give your nice tendencies to someone who will appreciate it. I have found that mostly it is older women, but there are some younger women who are mature. There are plenty of older women who look just as good as younger women. You've seen them. You think they are in their early 20's until they reveal their age.

Also keep in mind that many women don't want a serious relationship, or a commitment. How can you tell? Why do you think that women go out with married men and make passes at men who they know are married. Or how about women who later in the relationship find out that the man they are messing with is married, and then they say "I just can't stop seeing him because I love him."

I know that if I found out that someone I was in love with lied to me for the duration of our relationship I'd fall out of love. And probably very quickly. And besides, if a person is not around much how can you not think they are seeing someone else. No one works that much. Not in my book.

The women may have even been in a marriage that didn't work and doesn't want a serious relationship yet. The point I feel is important is to only commit to the person who you've gone out with for a while and feel comfortable with. Not with the first woman you date coming out of a cold spell. Let them earn your heart just as they want you to earn theirs. I say this because a quick commitment is cliche - ish of being nice.

How do I know what I am talking about? I know because I was the typical shy guy. I was the guy who didn't go to my HS prom. I didn't get dates. I was an A student. Good in math. Low self esteem - until I entered sales several years ago and learned. Life is like selling. The important lesson I learned is that it is the nice guy who wins the sale. The nice guy is the person who people can trust. It's the nice guy who the boss comes to and says "would you like a raise?" It's the nice guy who women feel comfortable with. Be nice. Nice meaning courteous, respectful, and considerate. But don't let people walk all over you. Know when to put your foot down.

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