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Nice Guys vs Jerks
I am a nice and attractive guy who gets no attention from girls. It really pisses me off because guys like me get no chances from most girls. But I manage to stay patient because I know the girl of my dreams will come in the future (hopefully soon). Nowadays most girls like the jerky type of guy who treats them like worthless objects and gives them no respect. It is really pitiful how most girls cannot see the light about jerks. But when it comes to nice guys, most girls see them as just a friend. Recently I had a friend who was telling me about her relationship with her ex-boyfriend. She told me that her mate was not treating her right and they were not seeing each other. A week later, they were back together again. And this is what makes me want snap! Why would she get back together with her ex if he was not treating her right? She was looking and talking at someone (me) special who would treat her with nothing but love and respect. But with me being the nice guy, I was given no chance. To all the nice guys out there, don't give up on hope. At one time, I almost thought that there would be no opportunity of me finding a young lady. But now I think there is reason that I will find that special lady. One word: "Confidence." I am starting to build a little confidence although I have a long way to go. It may get frustrating at times but don't go to the point where you totally lose control of yourself. Hang in there. Good luck is bound to come for you. This is regarding the Nice guy-Jerk controversy. Just want to confirm some of the claims with first-hand experience. I'm 22, an Aerospace Graduate student and considered myself in the past to be a nice guy, and still a nice guy. Recently, I'm working weekends as a bouncer. (I'm a fully qualified Ju-Jitsu 1st Dan Black Belt, but getting some free sex on the side is part of my agenda too). The truth is I can't keep the women off me. I don't know how many numbers I'm gathering, cause I cant keep track. Why not before when I was a nice-guy and concerned for my female friends? My reasoning is that the theory of Male Dominance/Machoness or jerkiness is in effect. One girl even spelled it out for me the other night at this club I was working. Her words were something to the effect of: "90% of girls would go out with you because you're the bouncer, but you're also really good looking and sweet," or something like this. Well, now that I think about it, she's right. I see fat, ugly, bouncers who just got out of jail picking up girls all the time, whereas they wouldn't stand a chance if they weren't bouncers.... why? Because they're "tough-guys." In my case, I am both very polite and considerate (towards women and men, except on a bad day, when I don't give a f**k). Seeing this it seems to turn them on. It's the mixed signal theory where women see that you're a 'tough guy' and a 'nice guy' at the same time - the classic Humphrey Bogart thing. SO the bottom line is: Be tough (or if you're not, look tough and act tough). This isn't to say become a bouncer, because it is not only dangerous and risky, but also very foolish, and not worth it, unless you have the skill. Even then. Personally, I'm a bit of an adrenaline junkie, so I don't mind. Another tip - flaunt the things you're good at or like to do, or your accomplishments. But don't lie, so that upon confrontation, you're open-jawed. (i.e. I'm a pilot, and I mention this to chicks I date because I love flying and it's a part of me. It's my only hobby. And it's something not all do and so is an attention getter.) Hope this helps. We all have a lot to learn so don't worry, you'll get there if you try. It's a matter of educating yourself about these things. I believe and I'm far from it, but the 'real Don Juans' (like the movies) have learned many hard lessons and have keenly observed others and the mistakes they make. It's like Aviation. You don't want to be in the NTSB accident report. You want to read it and learn from other's mistakes. Good luck !!
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