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Nice Guys vs Jerks
Like that great scene in the original Star Trek series where "KAHN " grabs the woman's arm and pushes her away saying "GO... OR STAY. BUT DO IT, BECAUSE YOU WANT TO." I bet every guy who saw that scene felt like yelling out "SCOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOORE! lol Great topic! A few years back, I came up with a simple, non-scientific survey that clearly demonstrates that this strange phenomenon is genuine. I asked ten women I know, if they won a dream date with a Hollywood movie star, would they pick Sean Penn, or Ron Howard? Nine of the women picked Sean Penn over Ron Howard. I then asked the ones who picked Penn, which one would they rather have raise their children? Each and every one of them turned around 180 degrees, and chose Ron Howard, except for one who got angry about it and refused to speak to me for the next month. I think the people who are citing human evolution as the cause are on the right track, but they need to take it one step further. Human biological evolution has not kept pace with the evolution of human society. Most human females still tend to find attractive those traits which were advantageous to survival in the stone age. In an era of computers, satellite TV, and nuclear weapons, those traits are no longer advantageous to survival, but our mating instincts have not changed to reflect these changes in our physical environment. Therefore, the Ron Howards of the world find themselves at a very distinct disadvantage when it comes to passing on the genes to the next generation. So what does the nice guy have to do to get laid in this confused day and age? Well, if we continue to find attractive in females those traits which were advantageous to survival in the stone age, we'll probably continue to find ourselves coming in last. We need to set our sights considerably higher than that, and seek out the significant minority of women who would prefer see the human species evolve to a level that matches that of our technological development. If we can do that, the future will belong to us, and the Neanderthal riff-raff will simply fade away into oblivion. As a guy I think that the difference in being a jerk and a nice guy is subtle and it has to do with being able to accept rejection. A nice guy will first try to be friendly with a women so that she likes him for who he is. But he does not come off as being interested in the woman romantically in order to reduce the chances of rejection. Women see this and in turn state that they only want to be friends if he tries being romantic, since the nice guy initially came across as a friend. A jerk on the other had will state his intentions right off the bat and its up to the woman to decide whether she is also interested. But at least here she knows where he stands. A woman will either be interested in a man or not when he comes off as being interested in her romantically. Being nice and hiding your true intent only serves to position men as not really being interested even if he is. When he tries to be romantic, he is not seen as genuine. It's important to let a woman know that you are interested in her romantically while giving her the impression that you will not smother her and try to sleep with her right away. Kiss her on the first date. Touch her hands, her back. Tell her you find her attractive and so on. Every time I followed the scenario I scored. And when I didn't, I did not get laid. In summary tell her right off the bat what you are thinking and what is on your mind, and be a little aggressive without being overbearing. Good luck.
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