Nice Guys vs Jerks

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I'm a man, and I think I know why jerks get more women than nice guys. One is attitude. I think that when people think that when you're a "nice guy", it really means that you're clingy and submissive in a sort of way. A "jerk" is someone who moves with the attitude of "yes, I can and will have you, but if i don't then so what?" which suddenly makes the WOMEN the pursuer rather than the pursuees. This is related to cockiness, but more importantly self-confidence, which I notice a lot of "nice guys" lack. 

Another is androgyny. From what I heard from a summary of a Men' Health article ("How to make women hate you" or something like that), "nice guys" tend to think that showing sexual interest or being sexual at all will be threatening to woman and therefore won't do it. "Jerks", however, will. This is important because sexuality indicates your sex or something like that and if you aren't sexual then you come off as androgynous, which is a turnoff. 

Change these attitudes and you turn from a "nice guy" to a nice "guy", someone who is in the middle ground between needy sniveling boys and mean bastards. I'm not saying that all men who think they are nice guys have the aforementioned traits, but more often than not... Well, that's just my opinion.

Why do some women dislike nice guys and want jerks. Well, it depends on how you define jerks. First off a jerk is not a man who beats up a woman. A jerk is not someone who is extremely undependable and openly flirts with other women while on a date with a woman. A jerk is not a guy that's jobless or homeless or just treats a woman like complete dirt. Let's call a spade a spade my friend and all of the aforementioned men are losers. 

These guys can't keep a woman and lose women on a regular basis. Like my pop told me, "even a broke woman doesn't want a broke man and women love respect and they seek out men that give it to 'em". If a women stays with a guy who disrespects her than she doesn't respect herself and you shouldn't want her anyway. 

Now there are some women out there, a small percent, who do like nice guys. You know what my definition of a nice guy is? Is the courteous type that pulls out chairs and open doors a nice guy? No he's a gentleman, you're supposed to do that sort of stuff. Women define nice guys as the guys who they can walk over. Like the poor, stupid jerks who contemplate suicide when their woman leaves them, "I can't live without her", what a loser. The guys who obey their woman's every command like a goddamn genie, these are the nice guys women despise. 

Now you're saying to yourself why wouldn't a woman want a guy like this? Well I'm gonna tell you why. Men like that are weak and needy. If your readers are reading this and they fall into that category, they need to quit it. Women like gentlemen. They also like men who set their own rules and have their own beliefs. 

I'll give you an example of a guy who gets jilted for being nice. I recently got a pinup calendar of women in swimsuits from a buddy of mine. His girlfriend wouldn't allow him to keep it in the house. Is he a schmuck or what. He pays the bills and she sits on her ass all day and she's dictating policy? Had that have been me, she would have got the hell out and I would have kept the calendar. You know why, because of principal. 

I also guarantee that she'd be coming back three days later saying how sorry she was. Now two things came of this incident, one, she won't pull stunts like that again and two, she knows that I'm strong and I stand up for what I believe in. Was I being a jerk? She probably called me a jerk as she was leaving. Does she love me more now? Yeah, because women love strong minded men. 

All you fellas out there, do not let women walk over you. If they threaten to leave, $%ck 'em. If a woman really loves you, she wouldn't leave you for something trivial anyway. You're better off without her. As she's leaving, thank her for showing her true colors. Basically, women admire physical and mental strength. They don't want someone they can control, they want someone they can respect. The most important thing is that when you become this guy, you also respect yourself and you like the guy that's living inside your skin.

Well, I have to say that I don't believe girls prefer jerks over nice guys. I've been a nice guy all my life, (subjectively speaking and considering I'm 23 its not long either) and haven't had any problems getting girls. I believe single girls like nice guys, the problem is that most nice guys turn into a jerk overtime. And so, when we see the girl with the jerk we always wonder why the hell she ever went out with him in the first place. I'd, be lying if I said I was immune to it, the mutation, .... but it happens in less degree to some.

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