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Nice Guys vs Jerks
The Joan Cleavers are gone and thankfully so are the bra-burners so we're reaching a happy medium and our women folk are at last coming into their own. Only thing is they still aren't fully self-realized and it appears they are still in the 'feeling out stage' of discovering this irresistible power they have over us of the 'weaker sex'. It still continues to amaze me on just how unaware they are about who really is in control of relationships. Jerks are often exciting and the nice guys are boring and predictable. However, the security the nice guy represents will Always win in the end, security being the #1 important thing to women (Loyalty for men). These trends WILL change over time as women become more aware of their personal power and assured of their influence, based on history that is. I'm in a position that often enables me to see women at their most vulnerable and therefore honest and it continues to be a rewarding experience as I discover myself in this journey. I teach and share what I personally most need to learn and at 34 years old I suspect I haven't even scratched the surface with this fascinating sex. Believe it or not, one of my most powerful influences on human psychology and interpersonal relationships has been former Pres. Ron Reagan! His example of mastering the art of COMMUNICATION-sincerity, humility and genuine interest in his peers has made a remarkable transformation within me. Being a good listener is important of course, however without some character, passion and good instincts to close - it is virtually useless - what are you listening to? Eventually you'll come to an impasse and all you have is a woman who believes you pay rapt attention to her. OK, now what? If you follow what she is sharing you'll gain her trust - super important - but again that won't make you 'successful'. As I shared before it may be as simple or in-depth as you wish to explore. The 'jerks' don't come off as desperate and that adds to their seeming self-worth in our counterparts eyes (confidence may be the #1 attractive quality) while the poor unsuspecting 'nice guy' who really does have self-esteem isn't aggressive enough and therefore doesn't project that confidence. Take your pick or choose your own attributes rather. I honestly think that jerks do have an advantage in terms of getting a girl's attention because nice guys are putting them on a pedestal which shows that they themselves have low self esteem. I've always been told that it's good to show a girl that you want them but not that you need them. I admit as a guy it is turnoff if a girl is trying to make me feel high above her. Jerks are able to get with a girl but it's a question of whether or not they can stay with them. In my opinion, if a jerk is with a girl already and eventually changes into a nice guy he will stay, but if he remains a jerk he'll have his fun and then lose the girl. What I'm looking for is how to be someone in between. I don't want to treat a girl like dog meat and at the same time I don't want to worship her like a goddess. I want to learn how to treat a girl as an equal and if you know how please email me back and let me know. Thanks I have to agree, women like jerks. When I am the attentive, polite, gentleman, expressing sensitivity, women are never interested. When I go against my nature, and act like a jerk, women love it.
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Dating Questions Women Ask You and How to Answer! Laugh Your Way to a Great Sense of Humor How to Make Meeting Women Easy The Kiss Close - When, How, and What To Do How to Tell a Woman That You Like Her How to Eliminate Your Fear of Women The Little-Known Secret to Skyrocketing Your Success with Women
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