Nice Guys vs Jerks

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Well I consider Myself To be a Nice Guy. My problem stems from the fact that no matter what I do I always end up in the friend zone. Women, very attractive women give me the "I love you so much" and then the dreaded "we could be brother and sister" comment. Yet I see them repeatedly with men who do nothing but stomp on them. Then they come back and cry on my shoulder. Why is it that a women will take me (which I think is exactly what they are looking for) and then tell me "I would be with you but I don't want to destroy our friendship". Now this is totally without prompt. 

They say these things out of nowhere. And when I ask them "Sounds like you've put some thought into this" They give me the "yeah I think about it all the time". My thing is this... Why is it that they can be with men who will destroy them emotionally with no response, but cannot see what is staring them right in the face? And in your opinion will this dog ever get his day?

A Male mentions here the ads by Women Seeking Men which ask for a "sometimes silly," half-crazy," or "occasionally foolish" guy who's "a bit of a jerk" (actually).

Why? Could it be because the women seem to value or ask for "humor" more than "good character," "polite manners," of a "considerate gentleman" or a "nice guy?"

Also, could it be because the "occasionally jerky" behavior shows that the males are inferior to themselves? The ladies can then feel superior, rather than subservient to, intimidated by and less powerful than males, as conditioned by our society, whenever males act like humorous (inferior) buffoons before these self-anointed "special" princesses expecting to be indulged at free dinners by jester jerks.

I think that women are not attracted to "nice guys" because the nice guys are willing to do anything for that person before the relationship is started. Girls like nice guys but they need someone who is confident and knows what he is doing. Most women do not want a nice guy that will do anything they want automatically. They want to earn it, like playing a game and getting points.

Another thing is how "nice guys" and " jerks" portray themselves when liking someone. Nice guys tend to pamper the woman and, well.........you know, be nice. Jerks tend to play hard to get. Doing this makes the girls believe that there is something good about this guy because he isn't going dog crazy over her. That makes them want him more because people tend to want what they can't have. 

I personally believe that there is a happy medium. I used to be one of those "nice guys" and whenever I liked a girl, I would become her friend, not boyfriend. So then I tried the jerk routine, but the relationships lasted only a couple of weeks. So I decided to play hard to get and then when the relationship is started, I begin the nice guy routine with the flowers and candy. So far it has worked because I have met this wonderful girl named Candice and the relationship has lasted 19-months so far. We are deeply in love and we are planning to get married.

So to all those "nice guys", take my advice. Who knows? It might work for you.

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