Nice Guys vs Jerks

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I am a 29-year-old male and I believe wholeheartedly that jerks are at the top of the food chain when it comes to women. I was a nice guy for years and always got the shaft by the women I was pursuing. About four years ago I wised up and did a complete 180 in my attitude. Now I enjoy myself with a couple of women who won't leave me alone, while at the same time having a great time meeting several other women who DO NOT want to be just my friend.

It would seem that women have a Florence Nightengale gene. They seem more attracted to Jerks because they feel they can change him. This would give them a sense of accomplishment, of need. They could point to him and say "Look! See how I've changed him from a Jerk to a really nice guy." 

If you're too nice they don't respect you. They ass-ume that you have no backbone and won't be able to defend yourself let alone them. As much as women of the '90's consider themselves, well women of the '90's, they still cling to ancient ideals of what is attractive. Strength is good, but the term is fuzzy. Is it physical, mental, spiritual, emotional or financial strength that is so appealing? And if you believed yourself to have all of these, what need would you have to seek it out in others?

One could reason the that SOME women lack the above mentioned strengths and confuse it with the jerk behavior of SOME guys. 

I choose to be a good guy. I am nice until it's time not to be nice.

ANY WOMAN THAT PREFERS JERKS TO NICE GUYS IS NOT SERIOUS ABOUT ANY KIND OF PROFOUND RELATIONSHIP.------70 YR OLD MALE

I believe that most women enjoy dating jerks for the thrill. How else can you explain women like Carmen Elektra marrying Dennis Rodman or Pamela Lee marrying Tommy Lee. These women are among the most beautiful in the world who could have any guy who would give them the world and yet they choose these jerks. I can't believe how many times guys that have girlfriends cheat on them with other girls who know that they are already attached. It's gotten to the point where I now say that I have a girlfriend just because it seems to appeal more to women.

Hey I don't get it either: but I've seen it too many times not to believe it. For some reason if your nice, decent, chivalrous, etc... you're in second place to the jerk. Maybe it's what mom wouldn't like that turns women on???

Chivalry isn't dead. (He's sitting there shaking his head dumbfounded.) But nice guys will always keep trying. I'm sure willing to listen to anyone else's opinion.

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