Nice Guys vs Jerks

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I'm a woman and I don't see how any guy out there possibly thinks that a woman would prefer a jerk over a gentleman.

Women like men who are considerate, sexy, smart, strong, and manly. But never mistaken any of it for jerkiness. That's a total turn off. Perhaps those guys who were getting laid a lot attracted women who weren't interested in anything too serious. That's why there jerkiness worked for them. Who knows?

Everyone likes to be pursued - because all of us are insecure about something. Women love jerks because they find something in them that they think that they can only see - they know that even though a guy is a jerk sometimes that it generally isn't all the time and any smart woman would leave a man who was a jerk more often than not.

The problem is though that both men and women do not know when to stop being the jerk and start being the nice guy/girl. All long term relationships have some of this - its a balancing act that occurs in a relationship - it is what makes it interesting. People like to be surprised - even if it isn't always good and the jerk thing comes into play here because jerk like behavior is not predictable.

People have gotten spontaneity and excitement confused with bad treatment because they are so freaking repressed - the bad treatment causes a roller coaster of emotions and it is exciting to them.

The trick is to create the excitement externally - together - this is why people share experiences - and people who do fun and exciting things together have a tendency to have happier relationships.

I should say too that it is all in perception as well. I dated jerks my whole life and my lover now is really a nice guy. However  I do find things and certain behaviors of his to be jerk-like and annoying. But mostly I think it's in my own head and a experience that I am creating myself because of my past experiences with jerks. So my expectations are for him to be jerk-like and I manage to find things that could be twisted into that.

Just my 2 cents

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