Nice Guys vs Jerks

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Generally, I prefer nice guys; I mean, nobody likes being treated like an idiot or a doormat. It's just, sometimes I'd like to go out and do something different, unusual, slightly insane..... and most nice guys I know have absolutely no sense of adventure. I don't want to insult them, but some of them are kind of set in their traditional ways. Which makes them come across as rather boring, even if they aren't necessarily. Of course, with most jerks, you have to convince them it was their idea in the first place, but they're a bit likelier to go along with it. It's also the sense of danger, of not being quite in control. The age-old fascination of playing with fire, or grabbing the tiger by the tail.

As a woman, I can say that I think most women do prefer nice guys with a lil bit of jerk mixed in...otherwise nice guys get boring. But too much jerk is just too much and I'll dump a guy if he's a big jerk. So a combo of the two is the best. :)

I am a woman and I have to agree that for some ridiculous reason we are attracted to jerks. Maybe because they are somewhat intriguing and their affection has to be earned and of course for better or worse, things are never boring when you date a jerk. The problem with nice guys is that they are just too easy to get. They don't propose any challenge in the "mating game."

Although I was formerly a jerk junkie, I have found a wonderful "nice guy" and our relationship is better than anything I could imagine with a "jerk." So my advice to the nice guys is don't come on so strong, play the game a little, show that you're not afraid to live on the edge but make it clear that the woman will always be treated with respect and adoration when with you.

I, too agree that woman seem to be more interested in a man who doesn't seem interested in them. I am guilty of this. I have had many nice guys pursue me and always go for the "jerks". But something caught my eye, that if men show some kind of jerk-like characteristics every once in a while then a woman will be interested. All men in one way or another are jerks, nice or not. So men don't have to intentionally be jerks on occasion, it just comes naturally.

By the way, I am not a lesbian and I don't hate men, I have just accepted them for what they are!!

Simply, the mother instinct in a lady wants to help the jerk. All of the other guys are nice - a very vague term.

Married to a man who became a jerk when he became disabled. After 8 years of no sex, 3 of no kisses or hugs, and slaving on-call 24 hours a day while he yelled his head off at me and ordered me around and woke me up up to 5 times a night, he is temporarily in a nursing home and I am having a torrid affair with the nice guy, husband's best friend, who I met 10 years ago and have always thought if I were free I would grab. After a comment from him that I questioned him on, we found out that we cared.

He discovered it the night I flipped my car and he did not know if I were hurt, alive or dead and husband did not know either but only asked his aide to find out if the car was still drivable. Which would you pick. I get 100 kisses a night (and as a extremely obese woman) it has to be love for him to be so wonderful and so caring and so sweet. Cannot be with him much but just to think of him gives me shivers. All the single women passed him by, buy every married woman he knows thinks he is tops.

Took him a long time to get over having his best friend's wife, until she decided for divorce and he had not caused it. Gets tears in his eyes when he remembers how unhappy and lonely he was before and how happy I make him. Even if friends find this oh well. Did my time. My turn. Have a great day.

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