Nice Guys vs Jerks

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Sorry, but its no more true that women prefer jerks than it is true that men prefer bitches.

The thing is, the nice guys who are with a woman are not out there complaining that women don't like nice guys. The nice guys who are not with a woman will express their loneliness, in a nice way, from time to time. The jerks who are not with a woman never complain about it. They lie and say they do have a woman, or many women, or they don't want a woman. Nice guys don't lie like that.

The truth is that nice guys are alone from time to time. The truth is that there are plenty of people out there looking for the right one. Keep looking, you will find her.

PS. You are a guy, right, so looks are very important to you? Lets say you think you could not be with less than an "8". I know huge compromise is not possible, but just try to accept a "7" or a "6" perhaps. Women get a lot better looking TO YOU after you know and love them. Give it a try. If I had a brother and he was a nice guy, the above advice is what I would have given him.

I am a woman and about this issue I have 3 important words, CONFIDENCE, CONFIDENCE, CONFIDENCE. Nice guys don't lose heart. You don't have to act "Jerky" or stupid. Just show confidence in your self because it's really very sexy. Once you do that you can steal your dream girl away from all the plain old "Jerks":) 

I know. For the past 10 years I've dated nothing but jerks, creeps, emotionally unavailable BOYS and MEN. The reason? (by the way, I JUST figured out why I've been a loser magnet in the last few months) is simple. I was AFRAID of finding a nice guy because then I would have to allow him to actually see me for me. I would have to stick around and DEAL with real life issues. I would have to "temper" my temper and actually have a conversation with the guy! 

I never knew how to communicate effectively so bad boy types were perfect. They didn't WANT to hear me! We never had to show one another the real US. They just wanted one thing mainly and I had such low self-esteem at that time that I discarded boundaries and let them have their way! How pathetic! I also was a stickler for LOOKS. He HAD to be tall, dark, light eyes, and gorgeous or I wouldn't even look at them. Most had drinking problems, were late, disrespectful and rude to other people in general not to mention cheaters and liars and thieves! 

I finally WOKE UP, made a conscious decision on my 29th birthday to stop the DRAMA -- a lot of it is about drama and chaos -- nice guys seem boring when boring usually means stable and grounded -- and find a decent, respectable, trustworthy man. I did. About two months later. Now we live together and things are awesome. I will admit that at first I was so used to the drama that I sort of pushed him away. He was sooooo wonderful that I felt I didn't deserve his goodness. Now our affection for one another has grown tremendously and... the M word is a topic of conversation now.

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