Nice Guys vs Jerks

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I am a single, attractive, college-educated, independent 28-year old woman. I don't drink, do drugs, engage in promiscuous sex, or have children (or diseases), so by most people's definition I am "baggage-free",  "pulled together".... and a NICE GIRL.

I can totally relate to what all those "nice guys" are talking about when they say they are routinely rejected for the way they treat women, because I get the same treatment from men! Men can't stand nice women! They find us prudish, arrogant, cold-hearted, and categorize us as a "goody two-shoes". To the average man, we are the very antithesis of sexiness and charm.... we're the kind of woman their mom would love them to bring home, and it completely turns them off.

My last two boyfriends dumped me because I was "too nice". They said they didn't have the moral strength to be with me. Am I supposed to take this as a compliment? Is this my cue to turn into a smothering, clingy, white-trash crack whore because it might make me "more exciting"?

Sorry, but I would give my right arm to meet a nice guy. I WANT someone who's respectful, humble, modest, and dependable. I WANT someone who won't make fun of me because I like my parents. Boring is okay by me, because my life is not exactly thrilling, either. But frankly, I think the "nice guys" are looking for "bad girls".

"Women in their 20's love the thrill of the chase and the challenge of the guy who treats them lousy!" 

Yeah, that is absolutely correct. I, being a woman in the 20 age bracket, love to have men only want me for sex. I only want a man who never returns my phone calls and would rather be out with his friends than me. Life isn't like some episode off of SEX IN THE CITY, not ALL women want losers and not all women like the chase. Why would a woman want a man that treats her like she is worth less than gold? 

All is ever hear from my friends is "why can't men treat me better?" Well, maybe it's because men are made to believe that if they treat women like crap, then they will get somewhere. Too many times I have heard the frustration from both sexes. Men wonder why women treat them like dirt and act like bitches, and women wonder why men are act like jerks and treat them like garbage. 

The reason for disrespect by a gender, can come from many sources: pain, hurt, fear and rejection. It is human nature to want love and commitment and unless people lack an emotional heart, then it is preposterous to think that any person wants to be sought after like a trophy.

The bottom line is that not all women in their 20's want to hunt and go for the kill, like some lioness. Women know that men are simple creatures and that they live off of sports, sex, and simplicity. Men on the contrary, know little about woman except the fact that we are complicated creatures. 

By reading articles informing men that it's okay to treat women bad because: "the worse you treat these young women, the more their attracted to you," is a blatant statement. Telling the men of generation X and Y that it is okay to treat their future wives and one day mothers-to-be like garbage is ludicrous. Men do not need to listen to fraudulent claims. Not all women in their 20's love the thrill of the chase, most women just love the thrill of a good man. 

Just wanted to email you and tell you my thoughts on the nice guy issue.

I date only nice guys. Most women want to date a nice guy. But men are being classified into two groups, nice or jerks. That doesn't cover the subject. People are more complex than that. Neither sex can be grouped into just two groups. 

The "NICE GUY" is often a man who doesn't have a life. And neither sex is attracted to this type of person. A truly nice guy is hard to find. A true jerk most women don't want. I think we try to make people fit into a category instead of getting to know them. You can't always know what a woman wants based on another woman's choices.

I love a nice guy. To me nothing is sexier than a guy who has the guts to say he really likes me on a first date. And yes I do continue dating him! I must clear one last thing up "Nice guys do FINISH last" and I find that to be very sexy! He is the one I'll see again.

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