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Positive Association

by Dr. LuvSex

One of the keys to getting the girl is also the easiest.

To get anywhere with a girl, she must first think of only good things when she is with you, thinks of you, or sees you. This is best accomplished by developing a "positive association" with you and her thoughts. Creating this positive association gives you her trust and makes her feel more connected to you.

Positive association is best created early in the relationship by "speaking the romantic language."

Humans naturally try to relate to any person they are communicating with. Therefore, when you describe certain feelings or situations, a girl will try to put herself in that situation (mentally) and try to recall a time when she felt that way.

When you describe happy, carefree events to her, or ask her questions that bring happy thoughts, a girl feels happy and associates you with that happiness.

Many questions can trigger these happy thoughts; some such questions are:

  1. What do you think it is like to soar through the air without a care in the world?
  2. What is your happiest memory?
  3. What do you think true love is really like?
  4. How do you really know when you are in love?
  5. What is your idea of a truly romantic evening?

You notice each of these questions has certain "buzz words" that trigger happy thoughts: soar, w/o a care, happiest, love, and romantic. You should make sure your questions are open-ended and contain at least one "buzz word" to trigger the happy thoughts.

Practice the "Positive Association Method" and you will build rapport with more women and have them fawning all over you.