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An Unexpected Attraction Secret

by David DeAngelo

In my never-ending quest to get to the root of what it is that creates the magic known as ATTRACTION, I came upon an idea that really struck a chord.

I realized that there was a common thread running through many of the concepts that I discovered while studying guys who were naturally successful at attracting women.

At first it wasnít obvious to me, but the more I thought about it, the more the pieces came together.

Hereís the point I realized:

Many or most of the qualities, behaviors, and communications that make women feel attraction are connected somehow to displaying social status.

Letís do a little refresher course on how ATTRACTION works...

  1. ATTRACTION isnít a choice. Attraction isnít some obvious logical process that happens because we choose it. Itís an EMOTION that is triggered in RESPONSE to certain things.
  2. If a woman feels the emotion of ATTRACTION, then almost nothing else matters. No amount of pressure from friends or family, thinking about it, reasoning, etc. will do anything about it. Once ATTRACTION is present, it can override all logical decision making processes.
  3. If a woman DOESNíT feel the emotion of ATTRACTION after sheís had the chance to interact with you, then thereís really nothing youíre going to be able to do about it. You canít convince a woman with logic to feel attraction. It just doesnít work that way.
  4. If you study ATTRACTION, and how it works, youíll begin to see trends, processes, and predictable patterns that happen.
  5. Women are attracted to men for very different reasons than men are attracted to women. Yes, they share some common reasons for attraction, but for the most part they are VERY different.

All in all, I really believe that you have to set up the "relationship" with a woman correctly from the VERY BEGINNING if you hope to have it turn into something romantic. If you donít set it up right from the start, itís difficult or almost impossible to change things later on.

As youíve probably read in past articles, women are NOT attracted to weak guys. Women donít like WUSSIES.

So What DO Women Like?

Well, to answer that question, letís take a look at some pop psychology that weíve all heard about.

Here are a few terms that youíve probably heard:

  1. Status Symbols
  2. Approval Seeking
  3. Conspicuous Consumption

These are terms that are used all the time to describe common patterns of human behavior...

Status symbols are those things that we obtain to show others that "who we are" and that "weíre somebody".

This can be anything from cars to clothing and even the way we talk.

Approval seeking is when we try to get someone who we think has status to "approve" of what weíre doing, our motivations, or our reasoning.

Conspicuous Consumption is when we go out of our way to spend more money than necessary, buy more than we need, or otherwise display to others that "we can afford it".

Driving a Mercedes, wearing designer clothing, and eating at trendy restaurants are examples of conspicuous consumption.

Again, youíve probably heard these pop psychology terms a thousand times... but did you ever stop to think about what they all have in common?

I already let the cat out of the bag...

Itís Status.

And the more I look at how ATTRACTION works, the more I realize that STATUS is one of those keys that triggers it for women.

The wonderful thing about STATUS is that ITíS ALL IN THE MIND.

Sure, there are "external" things you can do to show women that you have status, but NOTHING is more powerful than BEHAVING like you do.

So why would women feel ATTRACTION for men who have STATUS?

Thatís a great question. And the answer to that question has led me on a quest through some fascinating new research thatís being done...

But letís just say that Iíve proven to myself beyond the shadow of any doubt that STATUS plays a huge role in this puzzle.

So whatís the OPPOSITE of status?

You guessed it...

BEING A WUSSY.

And as youíve probably heard me say a million times...

Women arenít attracted to wussies.

So what are some things you can do to show that you have that INTERNALLY CREATED status that causes women to feel an UNCONTROLLABLE ATTRACTION for you?

Well, one of them is to use the technique I call being "Cocky and Funny".

This is where you tease, flirt, bust on, and generally give a woman a hard time. Of course, you can also be Cocky and Funny about things other than her...

But the point is that when you make funny, arrogant comments... while at the same time acting completely calm and natural (like you would with a friend), you project that you are TOTALLY COMFORTABLE IN YOUR OWN SKIN.

I have an exercise for you...

This week while youíre out and about, see if you can find some police officers who are taking a break, or walking around.

Iíve noticed that police officers have a particular way of holding themselves, walking, and driving that SCREAMS the message "IíM IN CONTROL HERE".

Know what I mean?

And guess what... women LOVE police officers (or any man in uniform who acts like "heís the man").

Police officers do something thatís amazing... they use their uniform, position, and body language to CREATE the "high status" response from those around them.

You know whatís cool? YOU CAN TOO...

Next, Iíd like you to think about how you behave when youíre around an attractive woman.

Do you hold your head high, your shoulders back... and maintain a totally cool, calm demeanor?

Or do you act nervous, apologetic, and like youíre trying to impress her?

Try This...

Next time youíre talking to an attractive woman, start making jokes that hint at the idea that sheís a "lower class" person. Remember, I said jokes.

Tease her about her clothes being purchased second hand... tell her that you hope she has a good job, because you donít want to marry a woman who hasnít paid off her trailer home yet... when she tells you what she does for work, accuse her of lying and just trying to impress you and that you secretly know sheís homeless.

This is all very subtle, but without saying anything explicitly about yourself, you can create a situation where a woman sees you as a "high status man"... just by the way you communicate.

In summary:

Take a look around you... the guys who are successful with women all project that they have HIGH STATUS... whether they do or not.

And the guys who ARENíT successful with women project that they DONíT have high status... even if they do.

Youíll be hearing more about this from me in the future, as itís such an important concept. But for now just start paying attention to whatís going on around you. Youíll be stunned at what you see.

And of course, if you want to really take your understanding of women and your success in the dating world to a whole new level, I recommend that you check out my Ebook and Advanced CD Series. Iíve spent a lot of time and energy learning how and why women are ATTRACTED to some men, and not to others, and in this series I go DEEP into the topic. When youíre finished reading and listening to it you will feel, for maybe the first time in your entire life, like you finally GET whatís going on in womenís heads.

Iím excited about it, and Iím getting some amazing letters back from the guys who have listened to it. Just go to:

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Iíll talk to you again soon.

Your Friend,

David DeAngelo


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