Nice Guys and Sexy Bad Boys
This week Iím going to do something a little bit unusual...
First Iím going to ask you to consider something, then Iím going to give you a little bit of homework.
This week is all about ACTION!
Hereís the thing I want you to consider first:
I was reading an article on AOL entitled "Whatís Wrong With Nice Guys?" Hereís a little quote from the article:
...Do Women Date Naughty Guys but Marry Nice Ones?
This notion sounds an awful lot like the irritating good-girl/bad-girl distinction that men continue to make. Still, it does contain a nugget of sense. Since women truly are conditioned to be "good girls," sometimes we feel uncomfortable with or guilty about that pure burning "I must have him!" feeling. Thatís why we sometimes seek out a bad boy to serve as the object of these desires, says Cleveland psychotherapist Belleruth Naparstek, creator of the Health Journeys series of guided imagery tapes. "In order for the deliciousness of pure lust to be íokay,í it has to be for the symbolic bad boy who has nothing to do with the rest of your life. With him, you can crank up your animal impulses, worry-free," she says....
Interesting, isnít it?
Now, I personally disagree with the idea that women "seek out" Bad Boys because they need somewhere to project their guilty lust... and I disagree with the idea that thereís something "wrong" with the fact that women are attracted to Bad Boys...
But the point is that the "mainstream" psychology and behavior world is starting to accept the idea that women are ATTRACTED to "Bad Boys". It will probably be another ten years before anyone with a degree puts two and two together and says "Hey, maybe women feel ATTRACTION for Bad Boys for natural, evolutionary reasons, and thatís why Bad Boys are considered ísexyí..."
Hell, maybe I should say it... Oh, I already did.
Point is, thereís something to the idea that woman donít feel that powerful GUT LEVEL ATTRACTION for "nice" guys who chase after them and kiss up to them.
Women do, on the other hand, feel that magical emotion called ATTRACTION for BAD BOYS.
Of course, I donít believe that you MUST be a jerk, or abuse women in order to make them feel attracted to you. Thereís a much better way...
PART 2: THE HOMEWORK
OK, hereís what I want you to do...
If you own my eBook "Double Your Dating", go to chapter 4, and read it again.
If you own my Advanced Series, Iíd like you to go to Day 2, Section 1, and review again.
(If you donít own these yet, then you need to get them immediately! Youíre cheating yourself if you donít invest in yourself in this area... really.)
Now, I want you to do something CONSCIOUSLY this week.
I want you to do the following with the next 5 women that you talk to over the next few days... (these should be women that you would be interested in dating):
1) Smile all the time.
2) Be very nice, cordial, and friendly. Use no sarcasm, and donít tease.
3) Act as if you really "like" the woman youíre talking to... and as if youíre "interested" in her.
4) Give her lots of compliments.
5) Optional: Politely say "You probably have a boyfriend, right? Can I take you out sometime?"
Pay careful attention, and notice how the women respond to you.
Now, I want you to try something different with the NEXT 5 women you talk to...
1) Donít smile very often.
2) Pretend that youíve known her for 20 years, and that youíre TOO comfortable around her. Tease her for something that no one teases her about... like the way she dresses, etc.
3) Pretend that sheís interested in YOU, and has been pursuing YOU, and that youíre resisting her. Make jokes about it and say things like "I just donít think things are going to work out between us".
4) Give her NO compliments of any kind. If she gives you any, say "Thatís a cheesy pick up line. Canít you think of something more original?"
5) Optional: Say "Hey, do you have email? Good. Write it down here..."
...and pay attention to the difference.
If you really "play it up", youíll notice a HUGE difference between the first five women you talk to and the next five.
During the first set of five, when youíre being a "Nice Wuss", youíll see the looks on the womenís faces that say "Oh, no. Another guy who ílikesí me. How can I get rid of him politely?..."
During the SECOND set of five, youíll see the women opening their mouths with the "half smile, half oh-no-you-didnít-just-say-that look". Youíll feel a TENSION in the air. Youíll notice that some of the women will actually look at you as if they canít believe what theyíre hearing.
If youíre particularly sharp and funny, you might just have one or two of them say "I like you... we have to hang out sometime" within the first few minutes of the conversation. You will NEVER hear that when youíre playing the "Nice Wuss", by the way.
(SIDE NOTE: I went out with some friends last night, and I was taking pictures of some of my friends... when I overheard this girl talking to her friend. I took what she and her friend were talking about, and I teased her about it... and within no more than 60 seconds the girl was saying "Ohmygod, I like you! We need to hang out sometime...". Really.)
Do your homework! And have FUN while youíre at it.
...and by the way. If you havenít downloaded your copy of my eBook, and ordered your NO-RISK copy of my Advanced Series, then get to it...
Youíll learn more in a few hours of studying my materials than most guys will learn in their whole LIVES about how to attract women.
Both come with a 100% money-back guarantee, and itís a REAL guarantee. If youíre not thrilled, and you donít meet more women, just send me an email and say "I want my money back", and youíll get it. No questions, no hassles.
You can download the eBook here right now:
Iíll talk to you again soon.
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