How to Get a Womanís Phone Number and Email Address Within 3 Minutes of Meeting Her
Let me start off by telling you something interesting:
Iíve personally stopped focusing on just getting phone numbers. Iíve found that EMAIL addresses are far better (I still get the phone number too, of course).
Let me explain.
I perfected the art of getting phone numbers a couple of years ago.
If a woman is single, I can walk up to her and get her number in about a minute or two (if Iím in a hurry). I found out later, after working like a mad scientist on this that getting phone numbers alone doesnít equal success.
You see, women have many different reasons for giving out their phone numbers. Some love the attention of having a lot of men call them. Some like to turn guys down. Some are actually interested. But the universal feedback that I get from men, and in my personal experience, women act different on the phone than they do in person.
When you call a woman for the first time, sheíll often start acting stand offish or even worse, just plain rude. Itís almost like sheís a different person than the one you met.
Iíve found that getting an EMAIL address is not only easier, but it gets more positive responses later on. Itís almost as if women appreciate it that youíve taken the time to think about what youíre going to say when you write an email to them, and they think of you more like someone they know.
The other benefit of email is that it can be written and answered anytime.
If you call, you have to actually reach them. But an email can be answered anytime. And Iíve found that emails are answered FAR more often than voicemail messages.
Hereís The How To:
After Iíve talked to a woman for about 3 or 4 minutes, Iíll often say something like "Well, it was nice meeting you. Iím going to get back to my friends."
They usually donít know what to do, as theyíre used to guys clinging to them. Most of the time, they say "It was nice meeting you too..." Then, just as Iím turning to walk away, and we kind of disconnect, I turn back and say "HEY! Do you have email?"
The "HEY!" is a bit surprising, and "Do you have email" is non-threatening. In fact, Iím technically asking her if she HAS email, not if sheíll GIVE IT TO ME.
If she says "yes," I take out a pen and paper and say "Great, write it down for me" and I have her write it down. (This is great, as I just treat the íyesí that they give me as a yes to get it from them as well. And theyíve almost ALL gone along with it so far.) Then as sheís in the middle of writing, I say "Write your number down there too."
When you ask for email, itís very low risk for a woman, so sheíll think "Fine, Iíll do that." Most women will give out an email address without thinking about it, because they know that they can choose later to just not answer.
The magic of asking them to write their phone number down WHILE theyíre in the middle of writing down their email is all about the psychology of human behavior.
Sheís already mentally said "OK, Iíll give you my email address"... and sheís in the middle of writing it down. When you say "And just write your number down there too" itís only NATURAL to just write it.
In other words, itís a MUCH smaller step than giving out the phone number all by itself. It took me a LONG time to figure out this simple move, but it works like magic! You will have women writing their phone numbers down without even thinking twice.
Hereís a great add-on to make sure youíre getting a real phone number and not a pager or voicemail:
As sheís writing down her phone number I say "Is this a number that you actually answer?" If she looks at me and hesitates, or says that itís her "voicemail or pager number," then I say "Look, write your real number down. Itís going to be OK, Iíll only call you nine times a day..." They laugh and usually give me their real number.
Now, if she answers my first question and says "No, I donít have email" then I bust on them and say "Well, do you have electricity?" This is a GREAT opportunity to use humor.
Then I say "Well, OK then. I like email better, but Iíll take your regular phone number. Itís so damn hard to reach people on the phone these days."
Just realize that all you have to do is ask.
Like I said, Iíve tried all kinds of things. And Iíve gotten hundreds of phone numbers. And I use this exact sequence every time I talk to a woman and I want to get her phone number. Iíve gotten to the point where I can often do this in a minute or two - no kidding!
Now that you know the sequence, write it down with the words and the steps, and rehearse it in your mind over and over until you know exactly what to say for each step and each response.
Many guys have asked me "But what do I tell her as a reason why I want her number or email?" Iíve never had a woman ask me. If you ask, and they give it, then she knows why you asked. If she doesnít give it to you, then she also knew why you asked.
Just assume that this is the case.
If you ask every time, and you do it in a smooth, assuming, calm way, youíll get a lot of emails and phone numbers.
Note: Carry a pen on you at all times. I prefer the Fisher Space Pen (chrome) because itís small, classy, and women love it!
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David DeAngelo is the author of "Double Your Dating - What Every Man Should Know About How To Be Successful With Women", and has taught thousands of men how to be more successful with women and dating.
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