Seduction Is Like Comedy
David Copeland is taking a comedy improv class. Here's a list of ways he's noticed that seduction is like comedy improvisation. You may find this point of view useful in your next interactions with women.
1. GET FIRED UP.
Stretching, working out, jumping around and tongue twisters like "she sells sea shells down by the sea shore" get you into your body and charge you up mentally. This gives you energy in your body and loosens you up.
2. BE "YES, AND."
"Yes, and" means that you take what the other person offers in a conversation (or in an improvised comedy sketch), and accept it, and use it, and build on it. It essentially affirms the other person and creates a connection and "juice" in the interaction.
Many guys have a "no, but" orientation when interacting with the opposite sex. They get so into being right and showing off that they don't take what is offered them in the conversation, but instead shut it down or use it as an opening to shift the conversation to their own boring topic.
3. MAKE THE OTHER PERSON LOOK GOOD.
In flirting and seduction, most guys are trying desperately to look good. That's unnecessary, because the woman you are flirting with doesn't so much care about how you look as she does if SHE looks good.
Both in comedy and flirting, you are not trying to "win," or to "look good," or to defend your position or opinions or ideas. If you can make the other person feel like a winner, you will seem like a winner to them, and that's what starts building a real connection.
4. YOU ARE NOT COMPETING.
Both in Comedy improv and seduction, even if it seems like you are on competing teams, you aren't. You have the same goal of a memorable, spontaneous interaction. You aren't trying to win, you are trying to build an interaction that can be genuine and fun, and therefore intimate and bonding.
5. TAKE RISKS.
Playing it safe won't make it comedy or romance; you have to take chances. Not every attempt at a joke ends in laugher, and not every attempt in flirting ends in romance. But it's part of the game.
6. LET GO OF YOUR OUTCOME.
Neither flirting nor improv are about trying to be funny; they are about flow and unrehearsed self-expression. Holding your outcome too tightly kills it: Trying to be funny is not funny. Trying to be seductive is not seductive. (Trying to be seductive can be funny, however.)
But after you have reviewed the guidelines before going into a flirting interaction, let it all go. You have to give up your "plan" to have the spontaneous flow you need for improv and for flirting.
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