What Real Alpha Males Don't Want You to Know
Have you ever seen a group of men competing for a woman's attention?
Have you seen them showing off, blocking each other, and generally all trying to be the biggest jerk around?
Have you perhaps even been a part of this competition?
Then have you ever seen a man who is NOT involved in the competition, simply come up, say a few words, and walk off with that woman?
We see it all the time. In fact, we, or our students, are often the ones walking off with the woman.
That man who walked off with the woman was the "alpha male."
And if you are trying to become an "alpha male" yourself, the odds are that the REAL "alpha males" are LAUGHING at you.
The "alpha male," in case you do not know, is the "top dog" in a dog pack (or the "top animal" in any group of animals, like the "top monkey" in a monkey troop).
According to biologists, the alpha male gets "priority access to limited resources."
That means he gets the best food. That means he get the hottest females.
It's priority access. The other guys have to wait their turn in line... if they get a turn at all.
So here's what happens....
Men who want to succeed with women hear about this "alpha male" idea, and decide that they need to become more "alpha."
They figure that if they can just be the "top dog" among men, they'll get the women they desire.
And they figure that the way to do this is to push around other men, act tough, and to generally become a world-class jerk.
They think a lot about "being alpha" and "appearing alpha." They worry about it. They argue about it on internet discussion boards.
But it's all a trap.
You see, if you spend your time worrying about being "alpha," and have tried to push other guys down...
Then you are NOT an "alpha male."
There's an actual, scientific name for what you've become. That name is:
And if you've fallen into the trap of becoming an "alpha wanna-be," you can be assured of one thing:
The REAL "alpha males" -- the ones who ARE getting the women you desire -- are LAUGHING at you.
If you want to know WHY the real "alpha males" would laugh at your attempts to become "alpha" -- and how the REAL "alpha Men" got to the "top of the heap," and thus get the girls -- then you'll want to read the rest of this article right now.
Here's the Fact That Real "Alpha Men" Don't Want You To Know
TRYING to be the "alpha male" -- that is, pushing other guys around, acting tough, and worrying a lot about how "alpha" you are -- actually makes you LESS "alpha."
That's right -- being an "alpha wanna-be" actually makes you LESS alpha, and LESS attractive.
This is an important point, and we want you to really get it, so let us put it another way, to make it absolutely clear:
When you worry about competing against other men -- that is, how "alpha" you are -- you actually make yourself LESS "alpha." You make yourself LOSE the competition.
But here's a strange truth....
The man who comes up "out of nowhere" and walks off with that hot woman, while everyone else is competing and showing off and trying to look tough, is NOT caught up in "trying to be 'alpha'."
Because he's not part of the competition, he can simply concentrate on being his best, most romantic self.
He can "bypass" the other men who are caught up in the hopeless task of "out alpha-ing" each other.
It's a little bit like a fight scene in a Kung-fu movie.
Have you ever seen a Kung-fu movie, where two gangs are fighting each other, but there's one guy standing off to the side, not participating?
He's not caught up in competing with the other "alpha-wanna-be" men.
He's not trying to prove himself, or show off. He's just
Then, near the end of the fight he swoops in and makes one or two decisive moves, and finishes the fight.
That is the path of the true "alpha male."
Here's What To Do
Stop worrying about being the "alpha male." (We guarantee to you that real "alpha males" are not worrying about it.) Stop worrying about competing against other men.
Spend your mental energy on something that really matters -- on HOW you interact with women.
Let us tell you a brief story about our client Joe.
Like many men, Joe was sick of trying to learn complicated techniques, and sick of competing with all the other "alpha wanna-be's" for a chance to try them. Does that sound familiar to you?
So, after getting some coaching from us, he decided to try a different way.
We advised him to take ONE SIMPLE "success with women" skill -- in this case, curiosity -- and to spend a couple of weeks becoming a master of it.
He took our advice, and spent two weeks become expert at asking interesting questions to women.
He didn't worry about "being alpha." He didn't worry about getting the phone number. He only thought about getting curious about women and asking great questions. He practiced curiosity with every woman he encountered.
Within a couple of weeks of focusing on building this simple skill, he could see ANY woman and ask her an interesting, conversation-starting question.
Once he mastered that, he moved on to "showing romantic interest." He chose a couple of flirting moves, and practiced them on every woman he encountered.
By simply adding a new skill every few weeks, Joe quickly started succeeding with women beyond his wildest dreams.
And that -- simple as it is -- is the real secret of "alpha men."
Real "alpha" men don't think about being alpha. They don't think much about competing with other men. True alpha men are not trying to "prove themselves."
They are, quite simply, men who have done the work to be good at expressing their romantic selves. They have mastered a few fundamental skills so well that few men can "beat" them.
It's that simple.
So why are we telling you the "alpha male" secret?
We are telling you because we are sick of men driving themselves crazy trying to be "alpha."
To give you an example --
Recently we got an email from a man asking to be unsubscribed from our newsletter list.
He claimed we are "not as alpha as we think" because we have recently criticized some of the techniques of some of our competitors.
Here's what you need to know about that:
We don't tell you about the pitfalls in some of the trendy success-with-women ideas that are making the rounds to try to look "alpha." We couldn't care less about that.
We also also don't do it to be jerks.
We do it because we spend too much of our lives working with men who's success with women and self-esteem have been destroyed by their trying to use hopeless techniques that will never work for them.
We end up cleaning up the mess, and we're tired of it.
If you're already a professional performer, hypnotist, or actor, then great -- paste on some new fake personality and go after the women. But if you are a normal guy, then you'd better look for the simple, effective solutions that will work FOR YOU.
For the past ten years, we have been helping men just like you get the success they want with the women they desire.
Our program "How to Talk to Women" may be just the thing for you.
To find out more, visit
Whatever you do, don't waste your time as an "alpha-wanna-be"... get real skills and simply become the alpha male!
Ron Louis and David Copeland
Ron and David are dating coaches. How to Succeed With Women has sold over 40,000 copies. They have been featured in magazines such as Cosmopolitan, Playboy, YM, Maxim, GQ UK, Swank, Gallery, and Players. They have also been on the Rosanne Barr Show, the Issac Hays show, To Tell the Truth, Fox News, CNN, UPN, and ABC.