posted 11-29-2002 05:30 PM
I hate to admit it; but I see myself in this
piece. I can't tell you how bad I had Nice
Guyitis.It all ended with the woman I am currently seeing. I knew she wanted sex outright from the gate; but I (and please don't laugh) wanted to get to know her prior to f***ing
her.
She gave me a couple of opportunities to redeem myself, and I still neglecting to give her the pounding she craved.
Next thing I know, she de-emphasized the
attraction she initially expressed that she had for me and started calling me "friend."
It is the absolute worst! Now, though I know her well, she has withheld any sexual
favors, and commenced to telling me about
sexual experiences she had with guys who
did not "beat around the ****ing bush."
A direct quote. What did I do?
First I promptly let her know that I can
be an ******* . I initiated an heated
argument with her, and when I had her going
full blast I said: 'I did not call you for
this, and hung up."
I took Pook's advice. I rescripted my behavior. First, I stopped pining after
her. I stopped calling. I made certain
that she knew other desirable women were
in the picture.
If she called, and I saw here number on the
caller I.D., I didn't pick up. After all,
I'm busy.
If she left a message, I returned it when
I got around to it. When we do hang out,
Now, I am extremely aggressive. Boldly grabbing her ass, I am the master of innuendo, and I keep her in suspense.
I am no longer Mr. Predicatability, I fight
every temptation to be nice. This has worked
like a charm.