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How to Eliminate Neediness and Desperation From Your Personality

by Panashe Mabika

If you are a regular guest at SoSuave.com, I'm sure by now you are well aware of the fact that women are not attracted to guys who crave too much attention from them and despair around members of the fairer sex.

Simply put neediness and desperation is an instant turn-off for women.

So yeah, if you are an aspiring Don Juan you must never display traits of neediness or desperation to women such as calling her often, pouring out all your feelings when you barely even know her, etc.

"Aaah, I already know that," or "Easier said than done" you might be saying right now.

The Best Way to Eliminate Neediness

Without wasting much time let me introduce you to the best technique you can use to completely rid yourself of the needy-and-desperate you that sets women on their heels every time.

To erase the neediness and desperation that's setting you back in the dating game you must adopt one important principle: LEARN TO LIVE WITHOUT WOMEN.

I deduced this from a core principle of mine: To attract women you must learn to live without women.

You must be saying to yourself "WTF?" or asking yourself "What does this have to do with eliminating neediness and desperation?"

Allow me to explain.

Women Can Smell Your Desperation

You know most guys cannot survive without that one call or text from a certain girl each day and act as if their own happiness depends on that one girl. Most guys can't stand being single and will completely freak out or break down if they get dumped or a relationship ends.

Weak, desperate, needy, clingy, and desperate guys carry this mindset around and it's a big reason they don't have the success with women they really want.

Whatever is happening in your mind shows up in your behavior — WOMEN SMELL YOUR DESPERATION!

So instead of being needy, if you're not freaking out and OK with not having a girlfriend, women will see you as laid back, cool, collected, calm, and confident and it'll earn you cool points with the ones you want.

You must never depend on any girl for your own happiness. As such, your life must be stress-free, blissful and happy even without women. Never "need' a girl or woman to be happy.

Take a Break From Dating Women

Honestly, life has millions of things to offer other than the female sex. Indulge in these worthwhile activities. Take a break from dating women for a while.

  • Read more and subsequently improve your vocabulary and knowledge.
  • Be informed on current political, social and economic issues.
  • Dedicate some of your time to your family (and trust me, you'll never regret this!).
  • Go out and meet other people, both women and men from all walks of life. Never mind the age, background or culture. This will not only widen your social circle but gives you several perspectives on life that will one day prove useful.
  • Work on your style and fashion sense.
  • Take note of your body and work towards improving your health.
  • Find one thing you can do better than most people and make something of it.
  • Work on the things you are bad at.
  • Start a business, put everything you've got into it and watch it grow (you'll love it when you start to see the dollar bills rolling in).
  • And in everything you do don't be fazed by failure.

You'll be happy with yourself and where you are in life because all your successes did not "need" a woman or a working relationship.

Attractive to Women

You might be asking yourself "How exactly is this attractive to women?"

If you don't want to come across to a woman as a needy and desperate guy, you must be comfortable with a life excluding that very girl you are trying to attract.

It's simple — once you get the hang of living a dating-free life, you come across to women as a guy who is sure of himself, confident even without a working relationship, and very different from the rest.

Besides, once you are happy being single, girls will notice and wonder how come you are so sure of yourself and will naturally want a share of your happiness. If you are comfortable being single you'll convey the message that "Baby, whether you reject me or not, I don't care because I don't need you to be happy".

She will know that saying no will be her loss not yours because you don't "need" her.

Once you get at that stage where you are perfectly happy single, it's the women who'll be doing the chasing.

So yeah, if you wanna be a chick magnet, remove girls from your life and start pursuing other things.

Learn to live without women.

Just don't stay single for too long. Because there are way too many girls on this earth and life's too short. So you'll have to juggle dating and other activities.

About the Author: If you have comments or questions you can contact Panashe Mabika at panashemabika@gmail.com