Dating Questions Women Ask You and How to Answer!
Women are extremely smart in the dating world. They tend to have a set of dating questions they’ll ask every man they begin seeing.
These questions are razor-sharp... and can work against you.
That’s why you MUST know what these questions are — and the motivations behind them IF you not only want to succeed with women, but also not fall victim to their personal agendas.
Most women know what benefits they want from men. That’s why they have these standard questions they ask men as soon as they get the chance. These dating questions allow a woman to save time by getting the information about you she needs quickly...
... for the purpose of these questions is to figure out whether you can give a woman the benefits she’s looking for — and which specific ones.
But when you become aware of what women are really after with these dating questions, you empower yourself.
Because you’re aware of what they’re really doing, you give yourself the power to define the dynamic of your relationship rather than letting her do it — which is what happens if you don’t recognize where these question are coming from and how to deal with them.
Though being aware of the specific dating questions can definitely help you identify what a woman’s priorities may be, it isn’t nearly as important as understanding the intentions beneath them.
The Intentions Women Conceal from Men...
Women have two personal reasons for getting together with men: the external benefits and the internal benefits they receive.
Beneath the benefits, you’ll find an emotion. Really, it’s the feelings underneath the benefits that women are ultimately after.
Ignore this single fact, and the dating world will eat you up alive and spit you out broke or heart-broken.
So let’s take a closer look...
External benefits are things like material possessions or opportunities that save women time and effort, which give them feelings ranging from security to luxury. While internal benefits are things like adventure and challenge, which give them feelings from excitement to pleasure.
And just like these two general motives, men also fall into one of two general categories: either providers or lovers.
What you’ll discover is that providers offer external benefits, while lovers provide internal benefits.
So the reason women ask you these dating questions, really, is to discover within moments whether you’re a provider or a lover. That way, she knows how to frame you in her life... and also what the best approach to seducing is...
... in other words, getting the benefits.
Now, here’s the real secret to dealing with women, starting from the moment you get a woman asking you these questions...
A Poor Provider or a Lavish Lover?
You want a woman to be with you for WHO you are, right? And the ONLY way to do that is to communicate that you’re a lover.
If there was a currency for ’love’, providers would be very poor.
Because women aren’t with them for who they are as a person. They’re mostly there because of the external benefits they receive.
Providers can ALWAYS be replaced! They’re expendable to women.
So if you answer a woman’s dating questions directly, you’re communicating that you’re a provider from the beginning of a possible future relationship — which means a woman will conceal her true intentions from you in order to leverage you and get the benefits through you.
But if you refuse to answer these first date questions (in a special way I reveal here), because you now understand the intentions underneath them, you communicate you’re a lover.
Then women stay with you for the internal benefits you offer them, which not only means it’s for who you are as a person — rather than for being a means to an end, like a provider — it’s for the relationship itself.
It’s personal — not business, like the relationship with a provider.
Now that you have the understanding required to identify and see the true intentions underneath them, here are the questions themselves...
Finally, What Are These First Date Questions?
... and how do you handle or respond to them so that a woman doesn’t see you as a provider, and thus, leverage you in the process?
Because you want to avoid that — at all costs, right?
These questions come in all shapes and forms. The key to identifying them is to stay alert, with a questioning mind.
Whenever a woman asks you any kind of PERSONAL question, especially when it doesn’t seem to fit in the conversation, get a little suspicious about it. Question her motive: "Why would she ask me that? What does she REALLY want to know about me?"
Generally, women want to know how much money you make and your dating history because these are the 2 major clues to revealing the benefits you can offer her.
She wants to know how much money you make to identify what external benefits she would get by getting together with you.
- Where do you work?
- What do you do for a living?
- How much do you make? (A very bold question, indeed.)
Guys who brag about their jobs or money, though they may think they’re impressing a woman, are really making themselves an open target for manipulation.
And she wants to know your dating history to identify what internal benefits she’d experience by getting together with you.
- How long has it been since you had a girlfriend?
- What’s your relationship like with [another woman’s name]?
- Are you seeing anyone else? (Another bold question on a first date.)
Guys who talk about their past relationships reveal their views on women and their approach to relationships, which tells a woman EXACTLY how to seduce him into giving her the benefits she wants on her terms.
So the key to answering all of these questions is to use any of the various methods I discuss in my Get Quality Women! Dating Program. But a simple one that works well with most of these dating questions women ask is...
"Wouldn’t you like to know," with a mischievous smirk.
Be smart in the dating world. When a woman asks you any of these questions, don’t give her anything!
Article © 2007, Jay Julio