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What Should You Do When a Woman Is "Too Busy" for You?

by Victory Unlimited

Girls who are “too busy” to see you are just that. They are too busy to see “YOU”. Why I say this to you should be obvious:

Do you think for one second that if you were some famous celebrity, athlete, or actor that she liked, that she'd still be too busy to get with you?

I think not.

The reality of it all is that women put guys into categories. When they think of certain guys, the categorize them this way:

  1. Guys that I'll get with whenever I find the time to.
  2. Guys that I'll NEVER really get with, but I'm either too non-confrontational or inconsiderate to ever tell them that — so I'll keep them around just to use them as tools to stroke my own ego.
  3. Or…guys that I'll DROP EVERYTHING to get with — even if it means missing partying with my girls, calling in sick for work, or even if it means that I have to share him with other girls!

Now that you're privy to this Intel, the best thing for you to do as a man who is interested in ANY girl, is to do a quick assessment of your situation to determine which category of guy you are to her. If you're still unsure which category you fit in, here's a hint:

If she's put you in any category other than category 3 — then you'd better lock, load, and mobilize your dating/relationship forces towards another more eligible, more agreeable, more available, and more enthusiastic chick.

There's nothing like getting with a girl who WANTS to get with you. Accept NOTHING less. And until you find it…you should “soldier on”.

Out of either confusion or unspoken desperation, some guys may be reluctant to eject from these types of situations. Some may say to themselves:

What if I'm being too hasty? What if I'm not giving her enough time to really get to know me? What if she's one of those girls that just has to "grow" to like me?

Well, to those guys, I'd like to say, “I agree”. Sometimes a girl can grow to like you, but most of the time, how a girl initially responds to you represents her most honest appraisal of you. So the thing is...if you're the recipient of a low level of interest and enthusiasm from a girl that you want, you should probably ask yourself a few questions:

  1. Is this REALLY the way I want to start off a possible date/relationship type of situation with a girl?
  2. Would I rather have a girl who had to "grow" to like me as opposed to one who had an obvious and measurable degree of attraction for me from the beginning?

Your answers to these questions will help you decide what's right for you. I'm sure that nearly every guy on earth who has reached adulthood has had some girl really, really "into him" before. Now, that chick may or may not have been a girl that he wanted, but regardless of that, he still knows what it feels like from experience to have a certain degree of what I call "SWEATLESS VICTORY" with a woman.

Sweatless Victory is what you experience when you meet a woman that is clearly more eligible, more agreeable, more available, and more enthusiastic about you than the average, lackluster chick. Sweatless Victory is what you tend to get when you're with a woman that WANTS to get with you.

Women who have a strong attraction for you in the beginning are usually more consistent in their good behavior towards you, more accessible to you when you want them to be, and play fewer head games with you overall.

Now, this is not to say that there aren't girls out there that you don't have to invest a little time into seeing where their heads are. Some girls are worth this effort. However, there's a difference between investing time into seeing where a girl's head is at as opposed to wasting time trying to get her head to where you want it to be.

This is always an individual choice for every man. BUT — a good way to tell when you've crossed the line from investing time over into wasting time is when you find yourself doing things to get a girl that makes you start thinking less of yourself for doing it. Whenever the choice is between you getting a girl or keeping your self-respect — then keeping your self-respect will always serve you better in the long run.

Then, there are still other guys who will say this to themselves:

What about girls who really are too busy for me? What about girls who really do live extremely busy lives? Shouldn't I give them extra-consideration before I just write them off?

Well, if you're one of those guys, to you I would say this on the subject of busy women:

You may say to yourself that this woman or that woman is just naturally really, really "busy", and this may be true. Nevertheless, there'll come a point when you have to ask yourself:

Am "I" getting the kind of time, the quality of interactions with this girl that "I" want?

You see, you have to make sure that your needs and wants are being reciprocated by any woman with whom you associate. This remains a true statement throughout every stage of the “getting to know you” process. Never forget that in the end it doesn't really matter whether or not it's another "guy" taking up her time or if it's her other legit priorities taking up her time. If you are not getting the kind of time you want with a girl — you lose. But make no mistake: You'll lose not because you're a "loser", but because you would have knowingly signed up for less than what you want.

Again, I stand firm on my earlier assessment that women who are really interested in you will find the time to get with you — and they'll make that happen with very little effort exerted on your part.

So keep girls who are “too busy” for you in your peripheral vision, and only stop, turn, and look back in their direction when they show you by their consistent actions that they have chosen to "un-busy" themselves — for YOU.

Soldier on.

About the Author: The Victory Unlimited Show is a “tongue-in-cheek”, self-help show for men that's reminiscent of programs from the Golden Age of Radio like The Shadow, The Green Hornet, and Flash Gordon. However, rather than telling stories of fictional adventurers, during each broadcast, the host codenamed "Victory Unlimited", answers dating, relationship, and life strategy questions by addressing them with a motivational, military-like intensity.