Call Her Right Now
As soon as youíve read this message, pick up the phone and give her a call.
Invite her out for coffee or a drink at a place youíve both been to RIGHT NOW. Be specific and be immediate. "Hey, whatís up? Iíd like to go down to Java Village and get a coffee with you. You interested?"
Call her now. Invite her out now.
By doing this you make it plain that youíre interested in her and that you want to spend some time with her but youíre not fumbling over anything.
More than likely she WONíT be able to go out on the spur of the moment. If she declines, tell her you hope sheíll change her mind and that youíll be down there for a little while if she does (donít specify how much time). Then leave and go have a coffee. When youíre done with the coffee, leave and enjoy the rest of your day.
If she negs you on the invitation and doesnít show up then you have BIG TIME credit in this relationship game. You are under no obligation to call her again. Do not talk to her until she calls you or you see each other in public. Youíve put yourself on the line and have made yourself perfectly clear. Youíve also made up for any unintended cruelty.
You donít want to be mean to this girl but youíre not her puppet either. If she doesnít show up itís probably because she couldnít or because she was too damn nervous. Donít take it personally.
Before you call:
Think about this girl. Think about what makes her attractive to you and play a little fantasy out in your head.
Think of her lips, her eyes, her breasts, her body. Think of the things she does and says to make you hot for her (Donít get carried away, the idea is to save that sexual energy for the phone call so that it comes through in your voice).
Smile knowingly when youíre on the phone with her. Your smile comes through in your voice. If youíre too nervous to crack a suave smile, grin from ear-to-ear.
Do NOT let her make other plans (e.g. "No, I canít make it today but what about Wednesday."). You are not at this womanís beck and call. You want to go out now. You donít know what youíll be doing the rest of the week. You hope sheíll make it but if it doesnít work out this time itís in fateís hands for the next meeting.
This is being the good kind of Jerk. This is being the strong, confident man. Youíre a little rude not to give her an option but youíre not being cruel or mean. Even though youíre being forward youíre flattering her by making it plain that you want to go out and spend time with her.
...what are you doing still reading this????? Call her, damnit!