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Dating Women Is Expensive, and I Don't Have Any Money

by Ron Louis & David Copeland

Question:  I feel like I can't ask out the woman I'm interested in because I'm broke - I'm in school, so don't have a full-time job.

I want to ask out a girl in my math class, but I don't have money to take her anywhere nice! Also, even if I did get the money for a first date, I wouldn't have money for the second date, or third date, if things went well on the first.

My mates all say that money doesn't matter, and all that matters is how she feels when she's with me, but I don't know. I feel like if I take that attitude, I won't have a chance.


Answer:  This is a great question, because it highlights several important points.

Does it matter if you don't have money when you are setting up a date with a woman?

It turns out it does NOT matter -- IF you set up the date properly.

IMAGINATION is the most important part of setting up a date. Most women really don't care whether you have money or not. That may seem shocking, but it's true.

What women do care about is HOW YOU MAKE THEM FEEL.

Having money is one way to make women feel good. But it is certainly NOT the only way. If having money were the only way to make a woman feel fascinated and attracted, then hot women would only date rich men. And, because that does NOT happen, we know that there is more to the equation than cash.

In fact, many men who do have money screw up, because they rely on their money to get women to desire them. This works for some men, but there are a lot of good guys who have plenty of money, but who can't get a date.

You need to be able to give a woman an EXPERIENCE. You can do this with money - but sometimes it works even better to do it without money.

Stop thinking money, and start thinking about the experience you can give her on this date. What are some things you can do that are cheap, or free - but that could create great memories?

You could...

  • Take her to the museum
  • Take her on a walk in the park
  • Go to the zoo
  • Go rollerblading
  • Go to an interesting talk together at your university - Just make sure that it's NOT something that will make her feel bad, and IS something that will make her feel good. So YES, take her to a flower-arranging demonstration, and NO, don't take her to a talk about the dangers of date-rape.

..use your imagination! You might make her dinner at your home, or, if that's too expensive, simply have ice cream together on your front steps.

In any event, your first date with her should probably be simply going out for coffee. You should pay for her coffee, but that shouldn't cost more than a few dollars. If that goes well, consider setting up something more imaginative, and fun...and CHEAP!

Mae West once said, "A man can be short and dumpy and getting bald but if he has fire, women will like him." A man with "fire" gives women good experiences that they remember. And those experiences do NOT have to cost a lot of money.

Best of luck!

About the Author: Ron and David are dating coaches. Their book How to Succeed With Women has sold over 40,000 copies. They have been featured in magazines such as Cosmopolitan, Playboy, YM, Maxim, GQ UK, Swank, Gallery, and Players. They have also been on the Rosanne Barr Show, the Issac Hays show, To Tell the Truth, Fox News, CNN, UPN, and ABC. For more great tips on meeting and dating women or to ask a question go to howtosucceedwithwomen.com.