posted 08-09-2000 03:38 PM
More on Confidence from me:
Do you ever get discouraged on your road to success with women? Does it seem like you're always going 2 steps forward, 1 step back?
Take heart! You�re simply in step with the natural rythm of progress! Progress toward your goals is never going to be a straight line, there are always bumps in the road to send you off course. The trick is to avoid getting discouraged and get back on track. How?
It's our thinking that either motivates us or doesn't. There are ways of thinking that create self-motivation.
* Know that you are a Don Juan!
That�s right! Every man has the capacity to be successful with a woman. Find your inner Don Juan. To experience this level of thinking all you have to do is commit to using your imagination! As adults we have become used to using our imaginations only for worrying. We visualize worst case scenarios all day long. Worry is a misuse of imagination, it was designed for better things. Use your imagination to create and acheive things that worriers never dream of acheiving. Use it not to escape reality, but to create it. Be creative in your approach with women, don�t just blindly follow what other have set. You would be surprised as what you can come up with.
* Have Goals.
Those with no central purpose in their life fall an easy prey to petty worries, fears, troubles, self-pitying and unhappiness. Create a vision of who you want to be and live in that picture as if it were already true. Be clear and specific. Don't let your goal be too small or vague(ie., Date the top of the line, don�t settle for less). It will not be reached if it fails to excite your imagination.
* A goal without action is a daydream.
As stated, JUST DO IT. Don�t sit around and contemplate on how or when you�re going to do it � JUST DO IT!
* Make each day a masterpiece!
That�s right, don�t sit around in front of your TV or computer all day, go out and do something for crying out loud! Focus on what you want and it will come into your life. Focus each day on what you are doing, not on the past or on the future. Focus on now.
* Don't give into fear!
General George Patton said, "Fear kills more people than death." It's true! Fear kills us over and over again. You need to find something(rejection, women) you fear and do it! See what happens. Fear is something that has held you back from doing things that would help you reach your goals with women. As a shy person you shrink back from calling a prospect on the phone or talking to some chick you met at the club or elsewhere. In life we begin fearing what others think of us, afraid of looking bad we stopped taking risks. We can leave that behind by facing the fear that holds us back. Start talking to people you meet anywhere, even the bum next to you in the bus! If you survive this it will make you stronger and much more confident. Give it a try!
[This message has been edited by Adonis (edited 08-09-2000).]