posted 06-29-2001 06:34 PM            

We're walking towards each other in the hallway so I stop her.

Me: Hi, what's your name?

Her: Tanya

Me: Hi Tanya, I've been noticing that you're by far the loveliest girl that works here and I wanted to meet you.

Well that was all it took. She was very flattered and got all flustered at this point. She threw out "Thank You!" and then, as if she wasn't sure what to do, took a couple steps in the direction she was going and then stopped and took a step back to talk to me. I just made fluff talk asking about her job and what not. The great part was how I was all cool and confident while she was clearly a bit nervous. She talked a little too fast and made slightly exaggerated hand gestures and head movements, signs of nervousness.

Now I'm just a regular guy and I was dressed in a t-shirt and slighty dirty jeans. And here was the Hottest Babe around acting as if she had just met the greatest stud in the world.

posted 06-29-2001 09:01 PM            

I am curious about one thing though.. Did she ask you for your name? Just wondering.
Again, nice work.

DJ Monk

posted 06-30-2001 04:35 PM            

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Originally posted by Man Of Adventure:
Gets me thinkin though..girls at school would just think Im trying to hit on them if I say that stuff probably,I mean its not the kind of thing I would say.Im Mr.Serious to them. I just dont see why it matters if I am serious.Anyway still good post.Ill just tell the *****es at school to **** off then

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I think the deal with girls at school is they are so immature that if you pull what what NoMoreNiceGuy did, and be perfectly honest, you can be intstantly labeled: loser, player who isn't successful, stalker, or weirdo, unless you have good looks!

posted 06-30-2001 09:40 PM            

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Originally posted by hydroponically inclined:
I think the deal with girls at school is they are so immature that if you pull what what NoMoreNiceGuy did, and be perfectly honest, you can be intstantly labeled: loser, player who isn't successful, stalker, or weirdo, unless you have good looks!

And if you've tried that on a girl @ school, she's definitly going to tell her friends. And the label sticks! Crappy deal, but I guess that's life.

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posted 07-01-2001 04:12 AM            

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Originally posted by hydroponically inclined:
I think the deal with girls at school is they are so immature that if you pull what what NoMoreNiceGuy did, and be perfectly honest, you can be intstantly labeled: loser, player who isn't successful, stalker, or weirdo, unless you have good looks!

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Guys, whoa!! Stop thinking like that. That's the biggest damn mistake I made for most of my life!! And so many other guys make that mistake in thinking that and it holds them back! I just wished to god I had woken up earlier than this.

What you're thinking is that using the approach I described is coming on too strong, that it would scare the girl away. And that is why you probably prefer more causal type of approaches. THAT IS THE WRONG WAY TO DO IT!

Think about it every other guy out there is doing the "causal" approach and frankly the women are unimpressed. After all, what makes you any different than any other guy to talk to her? When you do the causal approach, Nothing. But when you do the type of approach I describe you stand out as someone different, bolder. Also, this ISN'T coming on too strong. That's your way of looking at it as a guy, that's not what women think when you do it.

First of all, asking her name is very important to her. A womans name is much more important to her than a man's is to him. Asking for it right off is showing that you care about who she is. She doesn't see it as an immediate sexual come on. You're just been friendly. Also, throwing out a compliment immediately makes it seem more sincere. You're saying it because you noticed before you even approached her. If you say a compliment after the conversation started it sounds like you're just throwing it in to try to seduce her.

And as far as it working on high school girls, I just now had an experience that may show that you are mistaken in thinking that it wouldn't.

I just came back from a wedding dance. A relative of mine. They weren't any women for me to hit on because they were all either relatives or were taken. But I danced a few dances and was having a good time. On the dance floor I noticed this one young girl that I didn't know, I would guess she was no older than 17. She was dressed very sexy and was wearing the shortest skirt I've seen in years. She was dancing very seductively but I got the feeling she didn't realize she was doing it. It was as if she danced that way alone in her bedroom to her favorite music and didn't realize how it looked in public. So anyway, later she was standing on the edge of the dance floor looking out like she wanted to dance some more. Now I don't hit on 17 year olds but since this was a wedding dance I wanted to keep things hopping so I went up to her and said "Hi, what's your name?" She seemed a bit shocked for a moment, but in a good way that a stranger was showing an interest in her. "Stacy" she replied. "Well Stacy, would you like to dance" It turns out she was kinda of shy and could only shake her head up and down to say yes. So we went out and danced. During the dance I tried not to make too much eye contact so she wouldn't think iI was coming on to her but I noticed when I did look at her she was giving me some good eye contact now and then and she was doing the same seductive kind of dancing she was before. When the song ended I said "Thanks for the dance Stacy, you're a great dancer" and then moved into the crowd to mingle. Throughout the night I noticed she was watching me as if she wanted me to come back and talk to her. I would have if she had been just a little bit older.

Mind you now, I'm almost twice the age of this girl but just because I had done a friendly, confident "What's your name?" approach, it made her interested in me.

posted 07-01-2001 12:43 PM            

It's so true, a name is important, nobody wants to be a number.

posted 07-01-2001 10:53 PM            

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Originally posted by Man Of Adventure:
...Heres one thing that I say that may help if you may feel attracted to her...

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MAY feel attracted to her?!?! That is an extreme understatement my friend!!! This chick was HOT and dressed so damn sexy I still can't stand thinking about it. On top of that she was a natural redhead, another super plus for me. And when I said she danced seductively that was another major understatement. She danced sexier than about any woman I've eve seen dance. She would twist and move her body up and down while sliding her hands all over herself. I only danced with her once last night and I've been going around all day with a damn boner everytime I think about her!!!

All day today I kept thinking maybe I should have gone for her. She is sexually legal in my state. (16 not 18 like most people think) But of course, that's just not the thing for me to do.

posted 07-02-2001 03:41 PM            

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Originally posted by Man Of Adventure:
Gets me thinkin though..girls at school would just think Im trying to hit on them if I say that stuff probably,I mean its not the kind of thing I would say.Im Mr.Serious to them. I just dont see why it matters if I am serious.Anyway still good post.Ill just tell the *****es at school to **** off then

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- You are trying to hit on them.

posted 07-02-2001 11:51 PM            

how about you don't hit on every girl.
then you're not a player, you're a challenge.

posted 11-05-2001 05:20 PM            

I just used this technique this Sunday and it worked great for me. For those looking for a intro, this works fine.

posted 11-17-2001 09:03 PM            

Any ideas?

posted 02-24-2002 11:04 PM            

What's the best way to get up to this point?

I mean, I usually end up trying to say stuff like this but it comes out: "Humina humina uh uh huh ummm, uh uh, humina, ::GULP:: uhhhhh..."

So how does a person gt to this point, and do it without showing nervousness?

When I'm a little nervous, I get the shakes. I don't know why, so it's damn near impossible to NOT show nervousness, no matter how much I've tried...

So...how does a person do this and get away with it?

posted 03-26-2002 12:09 PM            

1) You're giving her a compliment, she gets them all the time.