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terminator911

Master Don Juan
posted 07-08-2001 03:33 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for terminator911     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
How to Handle Rejection From Women

Rejection, rejection by a woman, rejection by the woman, the woman who
has captured your thoughts, the woman whose smile sends shivers of
warmth down your spine, the woman whose touch you dream of ... this
icy doom fills you with dread. It is the utter desolation of
helplessness. It is the worm of self-doubt. It is the gripping fear
that warns you to abandon hope.

Rejection is a part of everyday life. People are turned down for
raises, refused promotions, declined for loans, and passed over for
recognition. Rejection is not final. Rejection is not ruin. Indeed,
rejection can be the precursor to eventual success.

There is nothing personal about rejection. It happens to everyone.
It is part of "the cost of doing business". It is intimately
connected with risk taking. Every worthwhile endeavor at some point
involves the risk of failure. This is what makes life interesting.

It is only by risking our persons from one hour to another that we
live at all. And often enough our faith beforehand in an uncertified
result is the only thing that makes the result come true.

Consider a rejection as a "second opinion" of sorts. The woman who
rejects you might well have sounder judgment in the matter of a
possible relationship than you. She may have compelling reasons for
her conclusion that you are ill suited for each other, saving the both
of you a great deal of future grief. This does not, of course, mean
you are worthless as a person, just that she was not meant for you,
and that you should find someone else.

There are techniques that can remove some of the sting from the fear
of rejection. Simply "scoping the situation out", proceeding in small
steps, rather than taking the grand plunge all at once is a prudent
method of risk management. Asking a woman you have just met to become
intimately involved with you is an enterprise almost certain to fail.
Asking her to share five minutes over a cup of coffee is a more modest
proposal, one much more likely to meet with her approval (after that,
she may hint, or even let you know outright if she is willing to go
farther). Tackle tricky situations in small increments.

When you do face rejection, and you will, accept it with good cheer.
Bounce back and try again (presumably with a different woman).
Continued life experience will desensitize you to the trauma of having
doors slammed in your face. You learn to survive. You learn to go
on. You learn to keep trying.

Since everything in life is but an experience perfect in being what it
is, having nothing to do with good or bad, acceptance or rejection,
one may well burst out in laughter.

Don Diebel www.getgirls.com

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Persuader

Don Juan
posted 07-10-2001 10:26 AM     Click Here to See the Profile for Persuader     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
Agrees teminator. Being a sales manager and trainer, one of the hardest things to teach to recruits is how to deal with rejection. And a lot of what I teach regarding sales, also applies to real life situations.

One of the techniques I tell my sales force is that rejections are not personal, they are not about you, they are about the other person. Don't think of it as a rejection, instead appreciate it for what it is. For whatever reason, this other person is saying "we are not a good match". Therefore if you are rejected, simply say politely, thank you for not allowing me to wasting my time so that I can move on to someone who deserves what I have to offer. Then walk
away. Not only does this put a more possitive association to the rejection in your mind, it also confuses the hell out of the other person and may even make them wonder that maybe they just missed out on something.

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Drew

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posted 07-10-2001 06:24 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for Drew     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
Yea. Rejection is part of the game and it's a great thing to be in the game!

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hydroponically inclined

Master Don Juan
posted 07-10-2001 09:34 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for hydroponically inclined     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
When I got rejected, it blew me away for like the whole day. Hehe, I was like "fuuuuuuuuuuuuuuck, I got shafted! Can't get any worse than this! fuuuuuuuuuuuuuck" I kept mumbling shyt like that to myself for like the next day or so.

Then I went into, "well, at least I know now" phase, stil kind of blown away... Then it was like "fukk, ok, she doesn't like me, fukk that shyt. Who cares, she doesn't like me, then she doesn't like me. If she doesn't like me, I won't like her back. That's one less person she doesn't have liking her!"

Hehe. That was like my revenge, hehe. Not very good revenge though. Better than nothing. If that's not enough, then that's too bad, just deal with it.

And rejection is part of the DJ game. It's gotta happen, don't let it destroy you.

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ChrisFl

Master Don Juan
posted 07-10-2001 11:09 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for ChrisFl     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
>The woman who rejects you might well have sounder judgment in the matter of a
possible relationship than you.

Better to believe she just lacks the good sense to realize what a catch you are. The quote above borders on making her superior to you. She probably doesn't know you well enough at the time to judge a potential relationship.

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DonJoey

Master Don Juan
posted 07-12-2001 11:34 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for DonJoey     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
If they reject you they werent worth knowing anyway.....and besides, you have to look at it from this angle - you probably wouldnt go out with every girl who approached you (ok maybe you would) but the same way you would reject someone who doesnt meet your criteria, the same happens to us. The main thing to remember is to not take it personally as its their loss....especially if they dont even give you the chance to make your sales pitch, or are rude. You dont want someone like that anyway.

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krakhed

Master Don Juan
posted 07-13-2001 11:09 AM     Click Here to See the Profile for krakhed     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
More than likely, a woman will EVENTUALLY reject you in one way or another. That's why it is so important to keep trying to meet new women and keep going for those home phone numbers.

WITH QUANTITY you will forget all the rejections because there will always be another woman or women to move forward with.

Even if I am dating a girl I think is awesome, I keep going for phone numbers because you don't know what tomorrow has in store for you. You never ever know.

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Ralph Bellamy

Don Juan
posted 05-21-2002 01:16 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for Ralph Bellamy     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
[QUOTE]Originally posted by terminator911:
[b]How to Handle Rejection From Women

eventual success.

The woman who rejects you might well have sounder judgment in the matter of a
possible relationship than you. She may have compelling reasons for
her conclusion that you are ill suited for each other, saving the both
of you a great deal of future grief.

Sounds like we're giving her too much credit here, which is one of the very things that leads to guys taking rejections too personally. If she tells you that "you're not my type" just based on the way you said hello, she's too shallow to waste another moment of your life. She probably has a dumb reason to reject you, and it's her loss, too bad.

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T Dog

Master Don Juan
posted 07-31-2002 04:13 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for T Dog     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
Eventually you will have a success. You have to get thru 10 NO�s before you get that one YES!

So as soon as you get one NO your only nine NO�s away from your next YES.

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wheelin&dealin

Master Don Juan
posted 08-05-2002 12:30 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for wheelin&dealin     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
Remember your successes. Forget(but learn from) your failures.

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YoungCorporate

Don Juan
posted 08-05-2002 08:53 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for YoungCorporate     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
Rejection is what seasons you for the game. And imagine if you scored with every girl you hit on, it would get boring after awhile.

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mistyc

Master Don Juan
posted 08-25-2002 01:37 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for mistyc     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
every girls is practice for the next

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