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bondjamesbond

Don Juan
posted 08-20-2001 10:32 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for bondjamesbond     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
I haven't been here for a few days (I have a family, you'll understand someday) so I thought I'd check out some of the most recent postings to see if anybody has been "enlightened".....

Some of the stuff I'm seeing is quite sad.....I feel bad knowing that so many young guys (or guys of any age) are having so much trouble with such a simple thing as meeting women. I guess I didn't realize what a problem it is for so many. Since I can no longer "spread my seeds" amongst the willing females of this earth, I can at least spread the word of how to best go about doing it.

The biggest obstacle most of you fellows are are facing is fear.

Of what, I have no idea!

Maybe because we are constantly hearing about how women want to be treated as equals it's causing some of you to be afraid of offending them. Perhaps some of you grew up very close to your mother(s) and think every woman you ever see should be treated the same. Maybe you think women are "delicate" little creatures that feel sex is filthy and degrading; that they all have a halo over their heads, that they're angels.

Maybe you're afraid of yourself, of getting depressed after you get rejected, and feeling certain that nothing will ever change.

I don't really know. But I do know this. Fear can paralyze you. It can protect you, yes, but it also keeps you from living your life to the fullest.

A great many people don't die. They simply cease to exsist. To die, you must first live. I kinda hate to say this, but some of you guys aren't living. You're just existing.

Some of the junk I've been reading here,ie., "Play hard to get to attract more women", "Be a mystery", "how to know she likes you",etc.,...is nothing more than your own insecurities coming into play.

I never played "hard to get" in my life. No woman that I ever hit on found anything very mysterious about me.....I'm certain they knew what I was after within seconds after meeting them, unless they were retarded.

I'm a guy. And what I always wanted from a woman was sex. To screw. Bang. As often as possible. And with as many as possible.

I didn't want companionship. I didn't want a friend. I wanted to f**k. And to do that, I needed a woman.

Women come in very handy for that.

Wanna know a little secret? It's all they want too.

Wanna know something else?

They're better at it (f**king, that is) than we are. They can do it all day, if they desire. We can't.
It's because they're so damned good at it that they're constanly looking for a "stud" lover. When they do find him (if ever) they will do ANYTHING for him.

Women just need to see a guy use a little finesse. They need to get to know him just a bit before they spread those legs.

Men are different. Most of us couldn't care less if a chick is wanted for murder in four states if she looks hot. We're ready to do it, right now, yesterday!

The best advice I can possibly give you guys is this:

Never, never, NEVER, apologize for your desires as a MAN. The good lord gave you that schlong between your legs for more than just peeing.......

For crying out loud stop being afraid of offending every chick you see. There's a huge difference between going up to a girl you don't know and saying "Hey, let's f**K!" as opposed to simply smiling, saying "Hi", getting a smile back, and then approaching her and introducing yourself.

Start smiling and making some direct eye contact, for Christsakes! Is it so very hard? If she doesn't return your smile maybe she's just a stuck-up b**ch or whatever. Forget it.

Don't let the "I've got a boyfriend" crap deter you so quickly. Be a little persistent! When a girl used to tell me that, I always said "I don't want to go out with your boyfriend, I want to see you!"

If a guy comes up while you're talking to her, ask him for a coin......Take it and toss it about fifty feet or so and say "Fetch!"....

Start having some balls. Rid yourself of all those useless fears.

If some chick rejects you, and she isn't married, she's just stupid and doesn't realize what a great f**k you'd be. Don't take it so personal, they can't help it that they're stupid.

If some chick you've been seeing for awhile starts screwing you around, don't obsess about her like some wierdo stalker. Stop being so afraid you'll never meet anybody else. Dump her *ss in the gutter and let the moron she thinks she's in love with deal with her. You don't need this crap in your life. It interferes with getting f**cked. Always remember, when you get f**cked, it should feel good!

Guys, confidence comes from within, not from without.

Start going for it! Hell, what have you got to lose?

The Holy Bible says "Rejoice, young man, in thy youth".......

You're not gonna be young forever, guys.....

Best Wishes and go get them babes, (I wish I could go with you!)

IP: 24.140.2.143

DonJoey

Master Don Juan
posted 08-20-2001 10:59 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for DonJoey     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
Spoken like a true man, and I mean that.

I think the problem these days is that most of us have been raised in a feminine world on feminine ideals.....
We have social rules and laws that make all women think that a guy approaching for a phone number is sexual harrassment and guys beleive it..they fear it.
Gone are the days when it was common and acceptable for a young man to go "sew his wild oats", now we're expected to do something else, but most guys dont know what that is.
Guys are too busy being guys and forgetting to be a man...a real man...too busy worrying about 'what if' instead of just doing.

IP: 203.110.135.193

RAMBO DANJER

Don Juan
posted 08-21-2001 02:06 AM     Click Here to See the Profile for RAMBO DANJER     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
You are not the master... I AM ****ER.

RAMBO - DANJER rulles all mother ****ers.

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"JOHN RAMBO LOVES NO ONE"-JOHN RAMBO

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PortugueseMeatball

Master Don Juan
posted 08-21-2001 03:43 AM     Click Here to See the Profile for PortugueseMeatball     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
This is DJ Bible material.

IP: 131.169.230.38

Josh

Don Juan
posted 08-21-2001 04:51 AM     Click Here to See the Profile for Josh     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
You are so right Bond! But then I totally agree with DonJoey as well. I believe most men are really confused and girls being so damn independant doesn't help either.

I think maybe in a couple of years from now, the 90's and 00's (?) will be looked back on as the wonder years for many men. Women tell us they are in need of sensitive men and men believe it. Then when the men turn sensitive, they're being used to spill all their bf trouble crap on.

Thing is: I've told some female friends of mine about this site and the speedseduction site without telling them where they could find it -men only I told them- and they both totally disagreed with the things I learned here. In fact: I had arguements about it with them. They weren't ****material to begin with anyway.

Then I looked at this girlproblem site where all the girls give bad advice to those AFC's.
Either they have no clue what they want or they're enjoying themselves too much seeing all those frustrated guys walking around making all the wrong moves.

IP: 212.127.183.106

bondjamesbond

Don Juan
posted 08-21-2001 07:47 AM     Click Here to See the Profile for bondjamesbond     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
Don't bother asking a woman for her (mostly useless) opinion regarding these matters. From the time they've been little girls they've been taught to never seem eager for sex.

How do I know? I'm raising a daughter.....I know what her mother tells her.

Forget about all the "independence" junk also......What they all really want is to be banged. Hard and often.

The only time I ever asked any girl for advice was when I went clothes shopping at the mall. I would look for a hot looking salesgirl to help pick what looked best on me. I'm sure you know what else I had on my mind.

Some guys know all this simple stuff, but they become a creep.....can't take "no" for an answer, always calling or coming around. They've somehow convinced themselves that if they "Just say that right thing" that a chick will fall at their feet.

A real man knows when to walk away and stop wasting time. The idiot will drum up a hundred reasons in his head why a chick is acting cold towards him but will never accept the bottom line: She doesn't want to f**k with you.

Before you get to bang one of them, you have to get used to the routine. They just want to get to know you and don't want to come across as too horny. They're all afraid of being thought of as a slut.

I don't want to sound like I was "God's gift to women" or some nonsense like that, but I never, and I mean never, was dumped by a chick once I had started screwing her. I did it right. Alot of guys do it, give them a kiss, then go turn on the TV to watch NASCAR or the NFL.

Learn to do it right and you'll have them eating out of your hands. It can be damn hard to get rid of them. If you guys think it's hard to meet them, just wait till you want to dump one that has fallen in love with you. It can be scary as hell!

Don't pay any attention to all their BS......just be a man, things will change for you soon enough!

Later......BJB

IP: 24.140.2.113

Don the Legend

Master Don Juan
posted 08-21-2001 10:57 AM     Click Here to See the Profile for Don the Legend     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
Bond,

Great post man. Very well said.

Somehow you seem to simplify things what shouldn't be that diffucult for us DJ's. Yet we seem to think too much and not act.

Thanks for the inspirational post!

Legend

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"I have always believed that when a man gets it into his head to do something, and when he exclusively occupies himself in that design, he must succeed, whatever the difficulties. That man will become Grand Vizier or Pope"..... Casanova

"You are what you are, You are where you are, by what goes into your mind, you can change what you are, you can change where you are by changing what goes into your mind" ....Zig Ziglar

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Rico

Master Don Juan
posted 08-21-2001 12:39 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for Rico     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
The bottom line is that most guys that came to this site, got rejected a few times and became gun shy! At best this place should be just the kind of support every AFC needs because we can see that this kind of shyt happens to everyone. Get some balls...get off you azz and mack! That can be really hard for a lot of people because they are so damn insecure about themselves. Puzzy will make you get over those insecurities, but remember boys...every no gets you one step closer to a yes!

IP: 166.90.192.98

Monkey

Master Don Juan
posted 08-21-2001 12:46 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for Monkey     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
While I agree with some of your points Bond, I cant agree with your repeating idea that the ONLY thing women want is sex - give them a bit more credit. I mean I personally want a lot more than just sex from a relationship.

Another thing, one of my past gfs and I had AMAZING sex, I could give her orgasms all night long, but we split up because we wanted different things from life. She actually admitted that she probably wouldn't ever get better sex but she was willing to give that up for other things. If it was as simple as you say we'd still be together - banging away right now!

IP: 212.126.156.71

Neophyte

Master Don Juan
posted 08-21-2001 02:17 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for Neophyte     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
Good points Bond, but Monkey is right. It's not ALL sex they want. I agree they want it also, even that bad as we guys do. ... but sex isn't the thing.

Cya,
Neo

IP: 212.239.169.147

bondjamesbond

Don Juan
posted 08-21-2001 02:58 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for bondjamesbond     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
Monkey: I respect what you're saying, no sane person wants to do nothing but screw. But the vast majority of the guys reading the posts on this site are very inexperienced when it comes to dealing with women. The best way to deal with fear of women is to understand what you're both after to begin with.

Try this------go up to any strange chick and tell them you'd like to be friends.....and that you're a celibate! I'll let you guess how interested they'll be in you!

Perhaps without meaning to, you've confirmed what I said earlier about a woman not "dumping" you if the sex is great....."WE wanted different things from life"........That sounds like a far cry from getting "dumped", sounds like more of a mutual agreement to me. I didn't say that you will have a life-long relationship with them,ie., never split up,.. I only said that I was never dumped by a chick for somebody else. It was always me who did it or it was a mutual thing.

Neophyte: I respect you a great deal also....I've read several of your posts and they're very concise and thoughtful, as well as written with great clarity. But ask yourself this---Why do girls spend so much time trying to look as gorgeous as they can? To impress their Grandmother? Not hardly. They're hoping they can attract a STUD LOVER.......not to get to know a man so they can sit and discuss the geo-political significance of Africa.

Remember what they want guys, it's essentially the same thing as us......

Later...BJB

IP: 24.140.2.142

marknola

Master Don Juan
posted 08-21-2001 07:08 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for marknola     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
Bond, I think you are correct, but women expect more out of sex than we do. Where we think of sex like pizza "when its good its great and when it's bad its still pretty fu*cking good". Women are of the thinking that any man who takes the time to fu*ck them in the right way, must be in love with them. I've seen it happen. Women don't want sex, they want great sex. Far everyone who does not know what "great sex" means to a women. it is the kind of sex, when the focus is compleatly on her. Foreplay is the meal and fu*cking her is the deseart.

IP: 65.81.45.32

bondjamesbond

Don Juan
posted 08-21-2001 07:44 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for bondjamesbond     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
marknola:.......To put it simply, I couldn't agree more....I can add nothing to what you've already said.

Later>>>BJB

IP: 24.140.2.106

Neophyte

Master Don Juan
posted 08-22-2001 10:55 AM     Click Here to See the Profile for Neophyte     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
Why do girls spend so much time trying to look as gorgeous as they can? -

...attention! Even girls with a boyfriend do want so: they love attention. But you are right, they also want to attract hot boys. So attraction would be "attention's" companion.

marknola: right!

Cya,
Neo

IP: 212.239.169.178

gekkoca

Master Don Juan
posted 08-22-2001 11:18 AM     Click Here to See the Profile for gekkoca     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
So Bond...
HOW DO YOU APPROACH WOMEN!
DO you flirt,are you persistant,do you use KINO?
Would love to hear more..........

IP: 216.130.76.108

Kane

Master Don Juan
posted 08-22-2001 12:12 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for Kane     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
quote:
Learn to do it right and you'll have them eating out of your hands. It can be damn hard to get rid of them. If you guys think it's hard to meet them, just wait till you want to dump one that has fallen in love with you. It can be scary as hell!
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Bond is right. This is SOOOO true! My ex from TWO YEARS ago STILL calls me... and every once in awhile requests another "session".

Kane

IP: 198.39.6.173

PortugueseMeatball

Master Don Juan
posted 08-24-2001 04:09 AM     Click Here to See the Profile for PortugueseMeatball     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
quote:
Originally posted by Josh:
... girls being so damn independant doesn't help either.

It's called "evolution". Guys, you've to learn to adapt, find new ways to get to the girl you're dreaming about... You've to use your brains if you want to help your balls.

The problem is because girls are becoming more independent from men, we aren't doing the same. A few decades ago, the future of a woman was to get married, have lots of children and not complain. Men had the security of knowing that if they had good financial security, they could walk up to the girl's father and "buy" her daughter. Any woman trying to go against this would be considered an outcast. You've to agree nobody likes to be on this situation. If it were the opposite and women ruled over men, we'd be very annoyed as well, I guess.

So since things have changed, we have to adapt to the new situation, we've to evolve. IMHO, this Forum is doing a fine job directing young (and occasionally the not-so-young) in the right evolution path. We're being taught to not let our hearts fall in the schredder.

Women are becoming independent? Then we must do the same. Don't let the women step on your hearts and aspirations, men. Learn from your mistakes and evolve...

IP: 131.169.230.37

Ko-B

Master Don Juan
posted 08-30-2001 01:22 AM     Click Here to See the Profile for Ko-B     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
A girl friend of mine once told me, "You just don't know how horny we really are. To tell you the truth, we're just as horny as you are, but we just don't show it."

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vadrill

Don Juan
posted 08-30-2001 09:52 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for vadrill     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
Bondjamesbond, it sounds as though we are about the same age and have had similar experiences, though I'm now divorced.

I too have a daughter (the apple of my eye), and by simply listening to her, I've realized that even at 16 years old they are indeed preconditioned on the tools in handling males.

In reading some of your posts it's apparent your wisdom comes from age and experience. A great mixture.

There are a number of great posts that I've seen on this site (Pook, Neophypte, Maranathman, et.al. forgive me folks for those I didn't mention).

Your posts, like the aforementioned, are quickly being regarded as offering up some of the most insightful and sage advice that I've read.

Again, age, wisdom and experience are a great tool to have.

Thanks


IP: 12.4.48.184

edlova

Don Juan
posted 09-01-2001 12:31 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for edlova     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
This is the best f'n post ever!

IP: 160.36.116.92

The Writer

Don Juan
posted 09-02-2001 04:42 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for The Writer     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
Bond, there are things I could say, but you've said them better.

IP: 128.32.78.179

Classic

Don Juan
posted 09-04-2001 09:27 AM     Click Here to See the Profile for Classic     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
I swear I've read this post everyday since BJB posted it. Thanks BJB for the excellent posts!

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Dr_Feelgood

Master Don Juan
posted 09-05-2001 08:01 AM     Click Here to See the Profile for Dr_Feelgood     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
James Bond. Even though I think your post is fantastic, and I've read it several times, I disagree with you on one thing.
You say that being a mystery, playing hard to get, etc. is all about insecurity. I call these things being a challenge. And, yes, you can overdo it, and have a girl dump you because she thinks you're playing games.
However, in my past few relationships, if I understood the concept of challenge, the relationships would have lasted longer. Instead I got dumped. I was seen as "too nice, too sensitive, desperate." Not because girls didn't know my intentions. They knew I wanted to f**k them. I came on very strong when I approached them, and went out with them. That's the problem. I came on too strong. That scared them off. Guys who do this are seen as emotional sluts. Guys who are ready to get married or fall in love right away. Girls see this "love" as insincere, and it scares them off.
Yes, girls want sex as much as we do. But, no matter how you look at it, they view relationships differently. You may have heard that men use romance and affection to get sex, while women use sex to get romance and affection. I think that illustrates my point in one way.
Challenge isn't about insecurity, or manipulating or seducing women. It's a way to keep nice guys from being "too nice". It's a way of giving guys some self-control, and control in a relationship. It keeps guys from calling everyday, spilling their guts out, and coming across in a way that will make them seem weak or desperate. Whether you guys want to admit it or not, 90% of the time, she controls the relationship. For most of us, 90% of the time, she dumps you. Most guys have too much ego to admit this is true, but you all know it is.
James Bond, I think if you honestly look at your relationships, you'll see that in some way you were a challenge. If not, you must look like a movie star. But, even that is no gaurantee that you'll do the right thing with women. I've had a lot of women compliment my looks, body, etc. But, I still screwed up, because I came on too strong. I kissed their butts, because I had no concept of challenge.
I honestly think challenge is very important if you're looking for more than a one night stand. But, like I said you can overdo it. It's something I think many guys need to practice. Like I said, I think your post is fantastic, but I think you underestimate the importance of challenge.

IP: 4.54.48.112

RockandRoll!

Master Don Juan
posted 09-05-2001 11:30 AM     Click Here to See the Profile for RockandRoll!     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
yes! if you lose the challenge you lose the game.but when your going through the puppy love stage theres no challenge involved there.theres no mystery....what is the explanation on what makes puppy love work?
please reply to this one!

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bondjamesbond

Don Juan
posted 09-05-2001 09:21 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for bondjamesbond     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
Hi Dr Feelgood..(Great name, btw, sounds like we should be in a movie together)...I love your post....Beautifully written, very concise.....you oughta be writing more tips!

I'm pretty sure that you and I are approaching the context of what I said about "insecurities" from two different angles.....I expressed what I think is the biggest obstacle for alot of, if not most of, the guys reading these posts; that is to say, that needless fear is blocking so many of them from APPROACHING women initially. I'm certain you'd agree that there is a huge difference.

Keeping a women (if you want to) is an altogether different matter from going out and attempting contact, etc.,......I had read several posts to the effect that to get a woman's attention initially you should be a "mysterious, hard to get, aloof sort of guy".......I think any guy with this attitude will spend many, many nights with his penis in his hand. Kinda like going fishing in your bathtub; you can do it, but you won't catch anything.

Once you've made good contact and are interested in developing something long term with a chick then I strongly believe that the "mystery" part has to kick in. There really is no other way. You spill your guts out, they're gonna treat you like a schmuck!

There is no doubt in my mind that I was seen as a challenge by many of the women I've known. You know why? Because they all knew that I had, or could easily get, somebody else.

The greatest confidence builder in the world for a guy is to be seeing/banging multiple chicks. It's like having alot of money in the bank. It's the lack of this that causes so many guys to behave so pathetic when they do find a chick to go out with. They make her a rare commodity, kiss her @ss, do favors, buy gifts, etc.,....only to be cast aside later like so much leftover garbage.

Before I met my wife, I never had a LTR.....I didn't want one, hell, I never even refered to any of them as my "girlfriend"........The only women I've ever been friends with were all much, much older than me (like my mothers age) or someone I had no sexual interest in whatsoever. I've always felt that men make better friends.

There is really nothing else I could possibly add to what you've said about "coming on too strong" once a "relationship" has begun.....you've summed it up as close to perfect as can be.

I don't think we're in disagreement Doc, we're just talking about different stages.......

Best Wishes>>>BJB

IP: 24.140.5.186


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