posted 08-24-2001 05:47 PM
In an earlier post someone asked me to give some tips; how I used to attract, approach......did I flirt?, did I use "Kino", etc.,.......
During most of my twenties, I went out with probably close to eighty-odd different women. Some of them I banged, some I didn't. Some were very beautiful and intelligent, others were useful only to help clean my appartment. I never went out with anybody who couldn't laugh (at least not for long)....
Availability was always a prime ingredient. I didn't really let them having a "boyfriend" put me off, but being married was a no-no.....I never wanted to deal with a pissed-off hubby! I did hit on an engaged chick once, she was tempted, but backed off......I advise not wasting time on engaged chicks.
I'm a pretty nice looking man. I know it means alot when trying to attract women. Alot of you guys want to attract and meet gorgeous women but you may not look like such a prize yourself. No doubt there's a bit of a double standard at work here. Some guys actually believe that if they read the right book, or learn to say the right thing, that they can have their pick of great looking chicks, no mater what they, themselves, actually look like. Forget it. Good looking women are attracted to good looking men. You can be the funniest, coolest guy around, but if you have zero physical appeal then you better lower your standards. Bad teeth without a cheerful smile is probably the single biggest turn-off for most females. Get your teeth as white as possible, avoid bad breath and always keep your hands sparkling clean also. Women look long at a man's mouth and hands, if they notice something they don't like, you have a big strike against you.
I usually went for "eye contact times two".....I'd notice a girl that looked good, make direct eye contact and smile. I wouldn't say "Hi" unless they were close by.....later, I'd look again, direct eye contact with a smile. If I got a smile back in return both times, I made my move.
I'd walk up and say, "Hi, my name's Michael, what's yours?" When I got their name, I'd use it constantly, women think their name is the most important word in the world.
It's pretty simple, really. I talked to them. Women love to gab and be listened to. Why do you think all those goofy talk shows have a mostly female audience?
I'd ask, and then listen. "You come here often?", "Have you worked here long?", etc.,...it always worked like a charm. I'd occasionally get blown off....it never really bothered me. They didn't even know me, so who cared? I always figured they were just dumb and couldn't help it. You have to forgive stupidity. They just didn't know a good man when they saw one.
I'd try to set up a date right then. It was more exciting. I'd get a phone # for confirmation. I'd call about a day before the date. If they acted wishy-washy, I dropped them immediately. I'd say, "Well, it's been nice talking to you, so long." Click. I had no patience whatsoever with the faint of heart. Many, many times, I got called back. But I always told them I had other plans. Looking back, I guess I was kinda cruel. I just never believed in kissing a woman's *ss.
Keeping one was easy. I always had a "hands-off" policy until they touched me first. Once they started touching me, it was flood gates open.
I never talked about sex. Didn't need to. They already knew what I wanted, but also knew I could be patient enough to wait for it.
Once I started banging them, it was even easier. I always ravished every chick I ever made love to. I know they appreciated it. I used alot of massage. Marknola said (in words to this effect) that a woman who is having wonderful love being made to her figures that her lover must really love her. I don't think I ever really realized this, but I don't think I've ever heard anything more true. Very brilliant.
That's about all I can say. I was never afraid or even nervous. Why be afraid of someone 5'6", 125 lbs.? If somebody that little scares you, you'd better grow some balls, quick time.