posted 03-12-2002 01:42 PM            

When to call a girl you just met

Generally, anywhere from 2-10 days after getting her number depending on several things. The only thing you should not do under any circumstances whatsoever is call the same day or the next. The earlier you call the more desparate you will seem, but the higher the woman's interest level is the less she will think that. If a girl has an obviously high interest level, 2-4 days is appropriate. If you wait longer, you may end up in a situation where you have to rebuild her interest level in you. It is up to you to determine what her interest level is and whether or not to let her wait.

Since a good percentage of the women you meet will not be super high interest level right off the bat, it's good to wait 5-10 days to call some of them. This may seem like a long time, but in my experience it is better to call too late than too soon with a woman of questionable interest level.

Also, it's good to call two or three days before you plan to set up the date.

Answering Machines and Caller ID

During the first week of attempting to get a hold of her, don't leave a message and (in the U.S. and wherever else it's available) always dial *67 to protect yourself from caller ID. The only problem here is that some companies are offering a feature which automatically routes *67 calls to voice mail.

If the number is getting old (a week to 10 days) and you have not managed to reach her, bite the bullet and leave a message and here is how, "Hi it's <your name>, from <place you met> on <Saturday>. My number is 555-555-5555. It's too bad I couldn't get a hold of you. I was hoping we could...<click>". Hang up mid sentence, guaranteed to get a return phone call if she has any interest in you whatsoever. Never call her again if that doesn't produce a return call.

Also spend very little time on the phone in the early stages and don't call to BS, just to set up dates.

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posted 03-12-2002 02:12 PM            

thats why I has been saying we need a topic orientated DJ Bible..

ALL the stuff in there is GOLD, but you have to read the whole thing at once.

and if you are looking for sth quick and a certain topic, you cant find it.

your post would be the perfect start

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posted 03-12-2002 02:18 PM            

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Originally posted by PoachR75:

I second the motion.
This is the definitive answer to the question.
Tricky, the mid-sentence hangup is intriging -- I bet this is a great idea and will work, but I can't figure out WHY. Any theories?

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Mystery. She can't handle not knowing what you wanted to do with her.

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posted 03-12-2002 05:19 PM            

Well, trickynick took care of that! Kudos!

Gipper

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posted 03-13-2002 09:44 PM            

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Originally posted by trickynick:
It's too bad I couldn't get a hold of you. I was hoping we could...<click>". Hang up mid sentence, guaranteed to get a return phone call if she has any interest in you whatsoever.

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FVCK YEAH, that rules Nick. I never thought of that, but that's great.

I wanna say though, that newbies seem to always think the girl has a high interest level. Always err on the side of waiting longer. I see so many guys posting on here who think she had a high interest with no proof of it whatsoever. Don't confuse YOUR high interest with hers! (read the sig)

Great tip though. Bible?

posted 03-14-2002 11:30 AM            

Topic: Calling a girl http://www.sosuave.com/ubb/Forum1/HTML/010580.html

I have posted an outline for a topic oriented bible over in suggestions and feedback:

Topic: Bible additions http://www.sosuave.com/ubb/Forum4/HTML/000191.html

feel free to expand on it. I just wrote that stuff up as I thought of it. I haven't had time to look up the posts to fill it in with, though they are already here, somewhere.

As Neo said, he doesn't like including things except stuff in Tips, that's why a lot of material isn't in the bible.

posted 03-24-2002 08:59 PM            

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Originally posted by derWichtigste:
you are RIGHT, tricky...

thats why I has been saying we need a topic orientated DJ Bible..

ALL the stuff in there is GOLD, but you have to read the whole thing at once.

and if you are looking for sth quick and a certain topic, you cant find it.

your post would be the perfect start

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That was my goal in creating an FAQ. However, nobody seemed interested in having it done.

posted 03-25-2002 12:47 PM            

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posted 03-25-2002 09:23 PM            

Longer is better. (lol)

Hey Nick, do you have IM? email me your sn :-P

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posted 04-03-2002 12:10 AM            

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Originally posted by trickynick:
leave a message and here is how, "Hi it's <your name>, from <place you met> on <Saturday>. My number is 555-555-5555. It's too bad I couldn't get a hold of you. I was hoping we could...<click>". Hang up mid sentence, guaranteed to get a return phone call if she has any interest in you whatsoever. Never call her again if that doesn't produce a return call.

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Tricky,

How has the mid-sentence cutoff technique worked for you? For example, did it work better on those you thought had high interest vs. low interest?

I am going to have to add this one to my bag of tricks. Another thing I like to do during the end of a first date is say in a real excited voice, "Hey I was going to tell you...." and then mention that you forgot what you were going to say and laugh it off. She will be left wondering what you were going to say.

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posted 04-03-2002 01:48 AM            

I've come to more-or-less the same conclusion.

posted 04-04-2002 05:01 PM            

I was calling a girl last night who I've gone out with twice, and it's been really difficult to judge her interest level so far.

She's always at cheerleading and whatnot until pretty late on weekdays, so I got her voicemail, and just said "Hey HB, it's DJ Fantastic. We need..." *click*.

Well, she called back pretty quickly and was on the verge of crying, because she thought I was saying "we need to talk" and got cut off. Oops, anyway.. I guess that solved the "is she interested" mystery. Now I just decide if I want to be with someone that emotional..

posted 04-05-2002 04:24 PM            

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Originally posted by Bonhomme:
Except that I wonder about the mid-sentence hang-up. Most of the gals I date are *extremely* intelligent, and I think they would see through that as if it were thin, clear glass.

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This is my "problem" too... Any thoughts on this?

posted 04-05-2002 04:37 PM            

In repsonse to the people who have expressed concern that many girls will be able to see through this, I agree with you to a point. Yes, a large number of girls will be very suspicious that the mid-sentence termination of the message had been artificial but that does nothing to change the fact that it gives you the best chance for a return phone call. Do you seriously think that if you call a girl whose number is going stale on you that a boring dippity-do hum-dee-dum message would give you a better chance for a return call than such an unpredictable tactic as this even if she is onto it?

It works, end of discussion.