posted 04-21-2002 04:39 AM            

There's this fifty year old guy that goes to my gym, that has been doing American Freestyle karate for the past 30 years.

Recently we've begun to spar. I took Tae Kwon Do awhile ago, but his style is completely different, so I am basically re-learning everything when I fight him. I get my arse kicked every time.

Call me crazy, but there's something fvcking exhilirating about it. After I spar, I feel a great sense of relief and adrenaline that probably gives me a temporary artificial DJ-glow.

You know the feeling...right after an orgasm...when life is just peachy and women can go to hell and every stress or concern has dissolved...same with martial arts.

It's also a great confidence builder...whenever you dedicate yourself to ANYTHING and see yourself improve, your confidence skyrockets.

It's a hobby to keep you busy, it's stress relief, and you get good exercise. Possibly the most all-encompassing DJ activity.

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"...the better to seduce you with..."
Tao of Steve

posted 04-21-2002 09:54 AM            

During those times, I was incredibly confident, centered, full of joy, and more myself than ever. I did great with women on the few occasions that I actually had time for them.

I think that's the big key. Whether it's martial arts or something else, it NEEDS to be something you're very passionate about. I lost my passion for martial arts and quit practicing when I needed it most, when my life become too complicated.

I have other passions, including outdoor activities, other sports, and art/architecture. But, for anyone looking to find something to be passionate about, that will never bore you and always leave room to grow and improve... You can't go wrong with martial arts. I'm partial to the Chinese Internal Arts, but you have to find a style that appeals to you.

posted 04-22-2002 01:17 AM            

Myself? GoJu-Ryu karate (Okinawin � not Japanese), Tai Chi (Yang) and Pau-qua(working on the 5th qua)

IF you like martial arts, take up salsa lessons. The Chicago/New York stuff if you can find it. The moves I have seen are amazing and full of martial possibilities if one looks close enough. That and it is one hell of a lot of fun.

Did I mention that if you salsa, you can pull some seriously hot ass without even trying?

:-)

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Originally posted by DeepBlue:
So that is the thing I'm especially hoping we can get some insight into. What sorts of practical things can a man do, to increase his odds of finding women that he is highly compatible with? It's a challenging question.

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Ok. Here�s my take.

Passion�. Passion�. Passion.

Know your passion in life and pursue it.

If a woman comes into your life who shares your passion, you can observe her and see how serious she is about LEARNING NEW THINGS and GIVING SOMETHING A GOOD TRY before deciding it's not for her.

People today don't stick to anything if they have only a passing interest in it. The same goes for relationships I think.

If a woman comes into your life with HER OWN passion (separate from yours), you will recognize if it is authentic because you will see something in her that you recognize in yourself.

People with a life passion also have a passion for life itself. What are the qualities of a person with passion?
- detemination
- conviction
- depth
- complexity
- compassion
- empathy
- loyalty
- honor
- respect
- openness
- articulate

All the above qualities will exist in someone who has a passion that they use as a lodestone to guide them through life�s complexities. If someone has more than one passion, you will find that there is one that is foremost. All the others exist to supplement and enrich the core passion.

Someone with passion can converse and ruminate on just about any subject. You only need to FIND ONE THING YOUR GOOD AT to discover your passion. For some they discover hula hooping at 5. When this passionate hula hooper talks, she can equate hula hooping to living a full and satisfying life.

How do you choose a passion? Not easily. You have to pick something and stick with it. Not for a week, a month, a year. A passion in life is a life choice. I feel you will know if you have found it if after 5 years you still have the same "jump" to do your passion as you did the very first day you tried it. If you pass this test, there is a good chance you are "stuck" ;-) for life with this passion. Something that makes you truly happy.

For me, martial arts has had a tremendous impact on my life and attitude. I have always known I was a passionate person, I just did not have a vehicle to express it.

And you know what?

We all have the capacity to bring passion into our lives.

If I would have had the opportunity to be exposed to martial arts as a kid, I know I would be a very different person today. But that is not the point. The point is I have found a passion NOW, two in fact, that really make me happy. Just the other day my sensei asked if I was on SPEED or something because of the high energy and spirit I had after the practice session. I said, "Nope, I love this stuff. I feel great". I have also noticed a change in the way people act around me, men and women.

Find your passion.

When you know your passion, you can start to look for a woman with passion.

When you find her, you will know if it is authentic because you recognize yourself within her.

If you both have a passion in life, there is a good chance you have many of the same attitudes to life and happiness.

All that�s left is to make a choice to share each others passion for life, one day at a time.

Is there a guarantee that you will be together one week, one month, one year from the day you first met?

Of course not.

But a woman with passion will give you one hell of an honest try, and also realize that life is too short to waste on someone she has no passion for. You will know if her heart is set on you.

Trust your gut until SHE PROVES YOU WRONG by her actions, not words.

Then move on.

That's all I have to say on your subject Deepblue.

Maximus