posted 05-24-2002 03:14 PM            

• Always sit so that everybody easy could look at you. The ideal position is if most of the people sits in a half circle, and you are sitting in the center. Try to get as many as possible into a discussion and than turn over to telling them a funny story. If your story seams interesting enough you will get everybody�s attention, and this will make the chicks wet for you.

• Announce that you want everybody�s attention. This is as simple as saying loud: �I want everyone�s attention!�. Now everyone is looking at you and expects you to have something good to tell them. If you are at a birthday party, you could make a funny speech for him/her. Or you could do a little funny appearance. (Don�t be afraid to look foolish.) A guy I know asked for everybody�s attention just to show them his ugliest grimace. Everyone was laughing.

• Take the command and arrange fun activities. Use the method above to get attention. Could anyone help me with fun activities for a party? Maybe some kind of fun game? The important thing is that everybody should participate. Make funny and witty comments to people who possibly don�t want to take part and make them come along.

• The most important tip is to be happy and enthusiastic. Smile and laugh. Be interested and interesting. A boring person will never get any attention.
  

If you have anything to add or any concrete examples, please post them.

Good luck at your next party. Be well prepared and you will make the chicks crazy about you.

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posted 05-24-2002 09:26 PM            

I mean it's great if you are, but honestly, some people, no matter how much they change, learn, improve, and learn some more, they will never be that type of Person who can be the "center of attention." at some party.

Just like some people will never make it in sports, some people will never be a great writer, some people will never be able to make a living as a salesmen, etc etc etc ....no matter how much they practice or try, it's just not the way it is.

posted 05-25-2002 04:24 AM            

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Originally posted by pjam:
I don't agree with the whole mentality of you have to be the "Center of Attention".

I mean it's great if you are, but honestly, some people, no matter how much they change, learn, improve, and learn some more, they will never be that type of Person who can be the "center of attention." at some party.

Just like some people will never make it in sports, some people will never be a great writer, some people will never be able to make a living as a salesmen, etc etc etc ....no matter how much they practice or try, it's just not the way it is.

Yes, go up to many different people and talk, go up to many different woman and talk, but some people are not the "Center of Attention" kind of person.

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Your mentality is a great way to avoid improvements. I'm not that kind of person, so why try?

So, what kind of person are you? Is it something deep inside of you that define who you are? We like to think that. We want to be able to say: �This is me.� Or �This is not me.�, but I don�t think that�s possible.

You are not what you are saying. You are not what you are doing. You are not even what you are thinking. Because you can think about your own thought process, and you are able to change it.

�not that kind of person� is bullsh!t! You can�t find anything about you who actually define who you are. Everything is changeable.

posted 05-25-2002 04:41 AM            

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Originally posted by Turbobird:
Back to this �center of attention� thing. I�m not an expert about it, and I was hoping for more ideas from you guys. What do you do to get and remain the attention?

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you need charisma. thats all pretty much. i can decribe it as a trait where every time u speak every one listans, or when you are the skroungest kid at a get together and noone has the balls to mess with u. i dont know how u aquire it though. this is why im looking forward to masters "how to become an alpha male " part of boot camp

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posted 05-25-2002 04:52 AM            

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Originally posted by future marine:
you need charisma. thats all pretty much. i can decribe it as a trait where every time u speak every one listans, or when you are the skroungest kid at a get together and noone has the balls to mess with u. i dont know how u aquire it though. this is why im looking forward to masters "how to become an alpha male " part of boot camp

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I think that a charismatic person is nothing more than a person that is enthusiastic about everything and can start interesting topics. Charisma isn�t hocus pocus.

posted 05-25-2002 07:14 AM            

-70% of what people notice is how you look.
-20% is how you sound.
-Only 10% is what you say.

I agree, some people are naturally the center of attention without trying to be so. Some practice at it.

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"Conclusions arrived at through reasoning have very little or no influence in altering the course of our lives. Hence, the countless examples of people who have the clearest convictions and yet act diametrically against them time and time again; and have as the only explanation for their behavior the idea that to err is human." Carlos Castaneda - The Fire From Within

posted 05-25-2002 07:37 PM            

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Originally posted by Retro:
Just remember that there is a very thin line between being the center of attraction and being the fool of the party.

Ive many times seen guys who try to get all the attention and they end up making an ass out of themselves. Thats because they dont know where to stop and keep on exaggerating thier action until it becomes annoying. Be careful and smart about your actions and never lose your charm. Oh and dont get too drunk people.

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Yeah. I think you are absolutely right! I have to confess that I think I have passed that line sometimes. Could you guys give examples of what people do to pass that line?

I think I passed the line once when I was hitting on all the chicks. I knew that they rejected me cause they knew all the others had rejected me, but I continued to hit on them and asking for numbers. Now days, I talk to everybody and concentrate more on having fun than getting numbers.

How do you guys think that a DJ should act? Is it good to for example sing a funny song? I have the worst possible singing voice and I can�t dance. Do you think it would be advantageous for me to do a show that is guaranteed to make everybody laugh? I know that Clint Eastwood never would have done anything like that, but could being able to make everybody laugh work as social proof?

posted 05-25-2002 08:51 PM            

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Originally posted by pjam:
I don't agree with the whole mentality of you have to be the "Center of Attention".

I mean it's great if you are, but honestly, some people, no matter how much they change, learn, improve, and learn some more, they will never be that type of Person who can be the "center of attention." at some party.

Just like some people will never make it in sports, some people will never be a great writer, some people will never be able to make a living as a salesmen, etc etc etc ....no matter how much they practice or try, it's just not the way it is.

Yes, go up to many different people and talk, go up to many different woman and talk, but some people are not the "Center of Attention" kind of person.

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pjam,

posted 05-27-2002 01:57 AM            

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Originally posted by ESPN:

pjam,

You are wrong, as NLP says you can do anything.
Am l saying that if you practice golf your entire life you gonna play like Tiger Woods?
No
I am saying that you can Maximize you potential and live with that.

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posted 05-27-2002 02:20 AM            

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Originally posted by backbreaker:
I don't agree with that. NOt because I would be scared of making an ass of my self at a party, but because I am not going to go out of my way to be somethign that I'm not.

And what exactly are you? How do you define �you�? If you have traits that isn�t effective, than you should go out of your way to improve them.

When I do go to parties, I go not to meet women, not to be the center of attention, but to dance(i love to dance), and see friends, and play spades(if there are any ).

Good. I enjoy myself too. But I know that being the center of attention is effective for attracting chicks, so I try to make that a part of my personality.

I mean if you are that type of center of attention person, then by all means, go ahead.

If you are that kind of person? Here we go again... What you think, you shall become. It�s nothing about you that cannot be changed. Even the way you think can be changed.

Like i was at a club on day and I saw this cutie of a waitress, and she was the best dancer in the club by far, and she was dancing by herself, and all these guys were stirring at her like some goddess or somethining. The friend I was with ( a girl) was like "why don't you go up there and dance with her" in a joking fashion, so I said "ok". and I did. And we had a grind session in front of the whole club (we were on a stage). We had a good time, and even though i hadn't found this site, i knew she was interested, and could have gotten her number if she wasn't busy.

Good done.

So If you can do something you feel confortable doing to get attenion, then do it. but don't make an ass of yourself just to impress some tramp.

Yeah. This is important: Don't make an ass of yourself. I think that the most important thing is to really enjoy what you are doing. They have to get the impression that you do what you do to just to have fun, and not to impress.

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posted 05-28-2002 04:24 PM            

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Originally posted by backbreaker:
For one, I know exactly who I am. For instance, I am not going to get up in front of a crowd and start yelling, BUT if they had a dance contest or a hot body contest or something like that I would be the first to enter. Or if we were at a party and someone wanted to sing, I would play the paino for them.
What I am saying that by going out of your way to be the center of attention, you are saying to yourself that these women here are really important and I have to attract them. That is not the attitude a real dj has. I mean dont' get me wrong, of course I want chicks, lots of them, but I refuse to make an ASS out of myself to get them. If i see a babe I want I don't have to go and yell and make an ass of myself, i will just go talk to her if i want her that bad.
But whenever you do have a chance to "show off" what you can do, do it, it's good, but don't go out of your way and make an ass of myself to get attention. if you do that you are worse then thoose so callled drama queens we rant about all the time.

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Okay. I see what you mean now, and I agree with you. It could make you look desperate and stupid if you don't have something to say that everybody is interested in. However, there are several occasions when a funny speech for example would be appropriate.

posted 05-29-2002 12:45 AM            

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Originally posted by Turbobird:
Okay. I see what you mean now, and I agree with you. It could make you look desperate and stupid if you don't have something to say that everybody is interested in. However, there are several occasions when a funny speech for example would be appropriate.

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Ok we are on the same page now.. and even with that.. if you actually have something funny to say.. go ahead, but if you don't.. please don't make an ass of yourself just to try to impress someone, the girls should be trying to get your attenion, not the other way around

posted 05-29-2002 09:51 AM            

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Originally posted by Turbobird:
Back to this �center of attention� thing. I�m not an expert about it, and I was hoping for more ideas from you guys. What do you do to get and remain the attention?

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posted 05-29-2002 10:56 AM            

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Originally posted by StuartScott:

How do you post a tip that you don't even know works. Huh?

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I don't consider myself an expert in anything, but I want to share my ideas with you guys, and I hope that you too share your ideas with us, StuartScott.

I don't think people should have to be legitimated experts to post here.

posted 05-30-2002 06:39 AM            

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Originally posted by Turbobird:
I don't consider myself an expert in anything, but I want to share my ideas with you guys, and I hope that you too share your ideas with us, StuartScott.

I don't think people should have to be legitimated experts to post here.

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Well it's better to post from experience, what you've done and what you've seen done, not just to post what you think might work. I can tell from reading a lot of amateurs posts that they just post some stuff that they've never tried themselves. I've been to many parties and I haven't seen some of the stuff you posted. Maybe we just go to different parties, i don't know.

Anywayz.
Look in tips for my post on how to get girls at parties.

posted 05-30-2002 02:08 PM            

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Originally posted by StuartScott:
Well it's better to post from experience, what you've done and what you've seen done, not just to post what you think might work. I can tell from reading a lot of amateurs posts that they just post some stuff that they've never tried themselves. I've been to many parties and I haven't seen some of the stuff you posted. Maybe we just go to different parties, i don't know.

Anywayz.
Look in tips for my post on how to get girls at parties.

[This message has been edited by StuartScott (edited 05-30-2002).]

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I have looked at your tip and commented it.

I don�t totally lack experience. I�ve seen or done most of it. However, I don�t really know if it was helping me getting girls or not.

On a party this Friday, two more guys and I will sing a really funny song I have written. I will do most of the performance, so the attention will be mostly on me. I am also the one who will present the song and make some jokes about the Eurovision song contest before our song. Lets se how it goes.

posted 05-30-2002 03:53 PM            

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Originally posted by Turbobird:
I have looked at your tip and commented it.

I don�t totally lack experience. I�ve seen or done most of it. However, I don�t really know if it was helping me getting girls or not.

On a party this Friday, two more guys and I will sing a really funny song I have written. I will do most of the performance, so the attention will be mostly on me. I am also the one who will present the song and make some jokes about the Eurovision song contest before our song. Lets se how it goes.

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