posted 06-14-2002 07:34 PM            

He goes on to say the reason it happens it's because they can't come up with something on the spot.

What does he suggest?

I think this has actually been hinted at in many articles in these forums and the DJ Bible, when they mention "if you don't know what to say, just say 'hi whats your name?'" and so on, but never really spelt out as DeAngelo did

"The answer is to have ONE DEFAULT THING TO DO IN
EVERY COMMON SITUATION.

One way to start conversations with women.

One way to ask for emails and/or phone numbers.

One way to take things to a physical level.

One place to go out with a woman...

...etc., etc., etc...."

So that if you don't come up with anything, you'll at least have _something_ to do or say. And as you get more and more success, it'll eventually become easier to come up with unique things to say/do.

posted 06-15-2002 12:05 AM            

One thing I notice is that a lot of people worry so much about an "awkward silence" arising in a date. If the thought is really that hard to bear for you then perhaps you should come up with a default course of action to deal with this, for example, on the drive home with a hb if you and her begin to grow silent, your default course of action could be saying "hey, I have a question for you" and follow up with an open ended question, which may turn into another conversation.