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StuartScott

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posted 05-16-2002 11:15 AM

Yeah, I heard he was a good poster but I couldn't find any of them and he erased all of them from the Bible like a Biitch. Were they good posts or just a bunch of BS.

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ESPN

Master Don Juan

posted 05-16-2002 12:44 PM

You can find one of his posts on the hall of fame

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bartender

Master Don Juan

posted 05-16-2002 01:31 PM

I think I have all of 'em. I'll post those in 'Anything Else' later today.

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Neophyte

Master Don Juan

posted 05-16-2002 05:33 PM

I know Red-xL still reading things on the forum from time to time.

His posts were good, but he removed them because he had some private things to take care of.

I alread asked him to post them again, because it were his posts. He never did.
I have them, but won't post them. It's not upto me to do that.

If they are reposted by Red-xL in the tips forum, I'll add them to the DJ Bible.

Cheers,
Neo.

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Drew

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posted 05-16-2002 05:37 PM

He said it's cool if others repost his posts... he doesn't have the time to repost them himself.

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bartender

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posted 05-16-2002 08:03 PM

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Originally posted by Drew:
He said it's cool if others repost his posts... he doesn't have the time to repost them himself.
Anything Else.

That's what he said so here it goes. I'm too lazy to make it look good but it better than nothing right?

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REd-xL
Master Don Juan posted 08-01-2000 09:21 PM
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This technique requires no more effort than asking one simple question: Are you ticklish?
All you need to do now is read her body language. If her body demonstrates open gestures, this is very good. Open gestures indicate playfullness, comfort, and trust.

If, on the other hand, her body language remains closed, it means she has yet to be open to you or is not interested. This is by no means failure but rather a test to see how you're stacking up against her.

Key points to remember:

Open gestures include: open palms, widened legs/feet, leaning forward, etc...

Closed gestures include: crossed arms, crossed legs, leaning back, etc...

Don't try this until you've built a modest amount of rapport (although some can pull it off as an opening line).

If her gestures are closed, don't give up; all it means is that a little more work is required until she can become comfortable with you.

Don't base everything solely on her body language; her facial expression is just as important.

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Dee-Zy
Master Don Juan posted 08-02-2000 03:21 PM
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I don't get it,
do you ask her then check tha body language?
or you just look at tha body laguage?
or ...
I just don't get it

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guitar player
Master Don Juan posted 08-02-2000 07:38 PM
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I think he means that you should first check the body language. Then proceed if everything looks good.
Maybe I'm wrong, but that's how I understood it.
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Vassago
Master Don Juan posted 08-02-2000 10:21 PM
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I like this. Good post Red!
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LittleDon
Master Don Juan posted 08-02-2000 11:57 PM
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Vassago, where ya been man? i was begining to wonder. i figured u ended up stickin to your ss boards. glad to have u back
Good tip REd-xL. this is a good way to find out how a girl feels about you. If she likes you it will be somewhat obvious through her body language. Girls use kino a lot if they like you.

LittleDon

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ArthurFiggis
Don Juan posted 08-04-2000 05:28 PM
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I'm not ticklish at all, and some guys interpret that as I don't like them. I'm really not ticklish.
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Don Juanita
Master Don Juan posted 08-05-2000 12:19 PM
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This is true. But let's switch it up. Try tickling her.
If a girl don't like a guy she wouldn't let him tickle her. But if she likes him she'll have fun with it.

Juanita

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Ryan
Master Don Juan posted 08-05-2000 02:46 PM
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Originally posted by REd-xL:
This technique requires no more effort than asking one simple question: Are you ticklish?
All you need to do now is read her body language. If her body demonstrates open gestures, this is very good. Open gestures indicate playfullness, comfort, and trust.

Key points to remember:

Open gestures include: open palms, widened legs/feet, leaning forward, etc...

Closed gestures include: crossed arms, crossed legs, leaning back, etc...

Don't try this until you've built a modest amount of rapport (although some can pull it off as an opening line).

If her gestures are closed, don't give up; all it means is that a little more work is required until she can become comfortable with you.

Don't base everything solely on her body language; her facial expression is just as important.

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Fantastic REd,

I can clearly c that u r a good student of NLP.

I would like 2 discuss NLP w/u and other serious students of the art.

I have been studying NLP from an audiocassete program by NLP Comprehensive, and find kinda interesting and I've stuff like: New Behaviour Generator,Discovering your mission and Achieving Goals,Creating Rapport and Persuasion techniques but I still can't find the link between NLP and seducing women?

Also, what is your Rapport Detection Alarm?
What non-verbal cues warn u that ur losing rapport?

Well, I've done the Elimination of Phobias and Fears thing w/the whole [i]1st position,2nd position, 3rd position.

thanx

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REd-xL
Master Don Juan posted 08-06-2000 12:06 AM
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Well, to begin, I've never studied or used NLP before. I heard about NLP a year ago and found it too complicated and impractical to benefit from.
You want to know my secret?

SELF-HYPNOSIS!

I posted a message about it a couple months ago, but no one replied. If anything, self-hypnosis has turned me from a "dyme" to a "BigDon" in the last six months.

I would also include the full comprehension of body language into my success. I miracoulously stumbled upon this one web site with everything to know about body language after searching for months on end. That is how to succeed, my friend.

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Ryan
Master Don Juan posted 08-06-2000 12:18 PM
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And the website is?
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REd-xL
Master Don Juan posted 08-06-2000 02:18 PM
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Oh sh!t, sorry.....forgot to post website. http://members.aol.com/nonverbal2/diction1.htm#The NONVERBAL DICTIONARY
Rx

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HB_Hunter
Don Juan posted 03-03-2001 01:11 PM
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this site is a bitt complicated n contains huge amount of info red.....
i prefer u as well as allen thompson n krynster..but i do beleive it's exaggerattin
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Chocolate-Tai
Don Juan posted 03-04-2001 11:48 PM
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Good points. I totally agree.
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IntermediateDonJuaner
Don Juan posted 03-05-2001 09:13 AM
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Wait,Wait and just wait!.I am lost right here!Referring to what red-xl said,observing the body language is important but how do we analyse their body language as sometimes,they tend to cross their legs for one moment and put them down later.Body language could be difficult to follow up as women could change them anytime they want and I think it is quite confusing

And by the way,what is ticklish? How do we tickle a woman?Pls explain.

Hey LittleDon,referring to your statement,I would like to ask about the kino that girls use when they're interested in you.Is it really a proven sign that girls will use kino a lot on you if they're interested in you.I am confused about it but I think women do also give other signals besides kino.And if a woman doesn't use kino on you,does it mean she isn't interested?Is it really necessary for a woman to use kino in order to give out signals that they're interested.?

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posted 05-16-2002 08:05 PM

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Master Don Juan posted 08-11-2000 10:31 PM
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Fact: Communication is 93% non-verbal.
So you want to master NLP? Great, then you'll be 7% of the way!!!

I have mounds of success with women and have yet to begin studying NLP. The alternative choice? Body language!!! Above being an essential communication tool, it's really fun to learn; unlike NLP, long and arduous. If you want the URL to the ultimate site, here it is: http://members.aol.com/nonverbal2/entries.htm

Enjoy!

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Lil' Pervert
Don Juan posted 08-12-2000 05:20 PM
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Sh!t!!!! This site is totally awesome! I've been looking for something like this forever. Great post!
LP

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Master Don Juan posted 08-12-2000 06:32 PM
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thanx man
I owe u 1. If u eva need a hotmail account hacked, just call me

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REd-xL
Master Don Juan posted 08-01-2000 09:21 PM
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A majority of the guys in here who have experienced this will undoubtably agree with me: Once you've made love, just plainly having sex will rarely do it for you.
This is why you might want to consider trying to achieve a long-term relationship rather than option for multiple one-night stands. Based on my own experience, sex has just never been the same since I broke up with my long-term ex.

Not saying you should get a long-term girlfriend, but I would recommend it if you really want to feel the full extent of sexual passion.

Lastly, never get drunk if you plan on having sex. This one's self-explanatory.

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Peak
Master Don Juan posted 08-01-2000 09:38 PM
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Tooo drunk = Mr Floppy won't stand up to attention.
By the way Viagra doesn't negate the effects of being drunk in this regard. My friend tried it and it didn't work!

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Devlar
Master Don Juan posted 08-01-2000 11:54 PM
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I have to agree, if you have a long term g/f she knows the how you like it so your better satified.
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Joshua_Black
Master Don Juan posted 08-02-2000 12:22 AM
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Agreed. I have a problem of going on dates (ok, this really isn't a problem to complain about) and girls seem to want to jump all over me and it just isn't as great as being intimate with someone you really care for. (pardon my bad grammar there...) Anyway, I can almost become bored with a girl who wants to jump my bones after a date. Makes me think they are easily won over and I question their character. Maybe I use too many Don Juan tricks on them?
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Devlar
Master Don Juan posted 08-02-2000 01:10 AM
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quote:
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Originally posted by Joshua_Black:
Maybe I use too many Don Juan tricks on them?
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You have much to learn grasshopper

ahahahahahahha....

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Master Don Juan posted 08-02-2000 12:36 PM
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A couple of years ago I would have told you to shut up, you don't know what you're talking about. Back then I couldn't stand to be with the same girl in the same room, it had to be somebody different. My motto then was: "I like different cereal every morning, the variety pack please." I broke up with short term GFs becaus of this. Nowadays, my emphasis is on "Quality" not "Quantity."
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REd-xL
Master Don Juan posted 08-11-2000 10:42 PM
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posted 05-16-2002 08:08 PM

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REd-xL
Master Don Juan posted 08-01-2000 09:21 PM
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Have you noticed that guys that generally receive the most respect from other guys are the ones that get girls all the time?
Regular guys who have problems with girls generally align themselves with alpha males for reasons of status, acceptance, and the hopes of using the alpha male's friendship to pick up on his stellar success with girls.

Wanna be the alpha male?

Here's how: Whenever you're surrounded by other guys (95% have trouble with women), flirt with nearby girls. Do this often enough, and the guys who used to laugh at you will start to slowly begin laughing with you! Girls love a guy who can garner respect from others.

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Master Don Juan posted 08-11-2000 10:43 PM
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Master Don Juan posted 07-29-2000 04:46 PM
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Here's some general tips and secrets to eye contact...
Good eye contact must be complimented by a genuine smile, or else you'll just be staring, which makes anyone feel uncomfortable. Now don't always smile, cause that just makes you look insecure, but smile at the key points.

Along with staring, never do it for more than 4-5 seconds, as this bypasses the comfort zone.

Mirror her eyes: pay attention to her eye brows and mimic the emotions of surprise or sadness (to "feel her pain") when she describes a story. It works best if accompanied by a little nod at these points of influction.

With the thing about eye contact at the mall, why waste your time trying to get a girl's attention by staring into her eyes? When I pass girls, I stop them by excusing myself and asking them if they like a certain type of music. Then they ask, surprised, "Why?" Then I tell them I saw a unique rhythm in their walk and go on to introduce myself...

This is just one example of how to approach a girl. I wouldn't recommend using it becuase things have to be sporadic for girls to take them genuinely.

Pupil size is very important in attraction. If they dialte (grow larger), this is a sure-fire sign of attraction. If they pupate (grow smaller), that's not a good sign.

Pay attention to blinking; both frequency and amplitude. If she blinks more often, this is indicative of anxiety or discomfort: bad sign. If her blinking is slower, it means she's relaxed and at ease, so she's in a good position to be swooned by you.

A quick shudder of the eyes means indifference or heightened interest (you'll be able to tell the difference by the brows). If her blinking is long and slow-moving, she may be seductively trying to grab your interest.

When you make initial eye-contact, and if she looks down then away, that's interest. If she just looks away or gawks back glazily, it doesn't mean anything. But don't stop trying.

Eye contact is essential to building rapport with someone. It brings to life the essence of emotion, attraction, confidence, and acknowledgement. Not a bad package......

Just remember, eye contact alone won't cut it. It's the whole package that counts, but eye contact will enforce many of the most important facets of affection and rapprot.

Use it wisely, genuinely, and seductively to reach your aim...

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Baldie
Don Juan posted 07-29-2000 05:11 PM
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Great post Red! Thank you for sharing it with us.
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REd-xL
Master Don Juan posted 08-11-2000 10:44 PM
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Master Don Juan posted 07-12-2000 04:44 PM
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I work as a host at a restaurant in the San Francisco Bay Area, and many gay guys come into the establishment. Because I'm really open-minded, I'm really friendly and talkative with them.
One day, I had this malicious urge to f'uck with a gay guy's head by hitting on him. I acted like I was interested in him, and I started flirting with him.

I began to notice how I didn't have any problems speaking with him about anything. Because I was having fun, and I didn't feel any of the pressures that can sometimes weigh me down when I talk to a girl, the words came out fluently and seamlessly.

This is where something revolutionary occurred to me: I discovered that the key to approaching girls is to have fun with yourself. Make it a game! There will be no pressure and it will be fun rather than gut-wrenching.

Which brings me to my second point: You must change your perception of the outcome when you approach girls. A while ago, I used to approach girls with the image of us f'ucking like two wild cats in heat. Because this was the goal I gave myself, there was more pressure on myself to attain this level. That pressure would sometimes make it too hard for me to approach the girl in the first place.

Then my mom (psychologist) told me to lower my standards of the outcome. Not pessimism, but rather to think of the worst thing that could happen. Then it clicked in. I looked back on my failures and realized how simple it could have been had I thought of it as such.

Just think about it: You see that hot, exotic-looking girl. You decide to approach her, and you picture the two of you banging like dogs till dawn. You approach her and fail miserably, all becuase you put so much presuure on yourself.

Next, you notice a similar-looking girl at the other end of the room. You decide to approach her, but you instead picture her ignoring you. Wait, you think, she's going to ignore me? Heck, what's there to lose? So you approach her, and, surprisingly, she acknowledges you. Wow, you think, this is a whole lot easier than I thought it would be.

Now, when you approach girls, make it a game and imagine the worst that can happen.

This plan works for me and has a high success rate. And no, I didn't close the deal with the gay guy.

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Pedro
Master Don Juan posted 07-12-2000 06:45 PM
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That is very nice to think of it. But you should think it another way.
If you think she's going to ignore you, you might think "So why will I go there???"

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Hidden-Danjer
Moderator posted 07-12-2000 07:44 PM
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Originally posted by Pedro:
That is very nice to think of it. But you should think it another way.
If you think she's going to ignore you, you might think "So why will I go there???"

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But where will hat get you?

You say you SHOULD think like that?
What a load of bullsh!t.

Red, You have done well mattey, an excelent piece of advice if I gave ever seen one!

Must remember this one!

And the "gay guy" example you gave was perfect!

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Pedro
Master Don Juan posted 07-12-2000 08:58 PM
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What I said is if you think the worst will happen, you might think that going there will be a lost of your time.
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LittleDon
Master Don Juan posted 07-12-2000 09:57 PM
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nice tip, although i think me approaching a gay guy might be a little more gut-wrenching than approaching a girl hey, i guess flirting with gay guys is just your thing, go get it!
LittleDon

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REd-xL
Master Don Juan posted 07-12-2000 11:16 PM
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To Pedro and the other Dons who don't quite understand the logic behind this method:
By thinking about the worst thing that can happen, you realize how silly it is to let the pressure corrupt you when you approach girls. You know you want to approach her, but the constant thought of the two of you gettin' it on puts an added burden on yourself, making it harder to approach her.

Here's another example: When you're going for the close, ask yourself this, "What's the worst thing that can happen if I ask her for her phone number?" She might say no. Golly, what a loss. It's the end of the world, right? Nope. If that happens, you just move on, no harm done.

The key is not to expect it, but to let yourself understand that there's no reason in the world for you not to attempt it. I love psychology.........

Oh, and Little Don, I'll take you up on your offer. Just remember, I don't use vasoline on the first date.

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LittleDon
Master Don Juan posted 07-13-2000 02:03 AM
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oh come on, you wouldnt want me to get a rash would ya?
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Adonis
Master Don Juan posted 07-13-2000 07:21 PM
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What about when all the gay guys hit on you?!? what do you do then?!? I live in Sacramento just 90 miles north/east of San Francisco and I often come down to hang out with friends - but Sh!t my brains if there isn't any gay guy comming over to hit on me... What then?!? I don't enjoy this sort of stuff and I certainly would not flirt with a Homosexual to practice on hitting on women....
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REd-xL
Master Don Juan posted 07-13-2000 08:54 PM
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Another clarification: My advice wasn't to hit on gay guys, but rather my own sacrifice at doing so to understand that if you make it a game, it becomes a lot easier to approach women.
Don't be afraid if gay guys hit on you. It's happened to me a couple times, but I take as more of a compliment than a threat. After all, it's just another iffeminate being finding you attractive. I just say no thank you, I don't walk that way, and they're totally cool with it. Just don't let it get to you and take it as a compliment.

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Don_090
Master Don Juan posted 07-15-2000 08:16 PM
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You've go an exelant point, lol, funny how you figured that out though...
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The Hunter
Don Juan posted 07-15-2000 10:51 PM
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Well said Red ! !
Although I wasn't hitting on gay guys,(No one is going to let you live that down...
I came to the same realization a couple years back. I was putting SOOOOO much pressure on myself by letting my hopes get so high that when I was wrong it was crushing me. Once I finally realized (through comparing my behaviour while drunk to my sober behaviour) that if I lower my EXPECTATIONS or made my goals MORE SHORT TERM it was a helluva lot easier. Instead of visualizing this fox as my perfect mate and losing her. Now I was just "practicing the approach". I didn't give a F*&% what her response was because I HAD succeeded in achieving my goal. And once I achieved that short term goal with this woman I approached, then I would set my next "stage" goal.

Regardless, I still believe that the Intro stage is the hardest part of any relationship! Ice break/build rappoire.
But to many this is also the most rewarding and fun because it's such an art.

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REd-xL
Master Don Juan posted 08-11-2000 10:46 PM
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Don Juan posted 06-23-2001 01:12 PM
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Wouldn't thinking "the worst thing that could happen" be a self-fulfilling prophecy?
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Sgt. Ray
Don Juan posted 06-23-2001 04:16 PM
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REd-xl --Solid info. Yes, your advice is sound. Imagining the worst that could happen is actually a positive thing. For years I was terrified of approaching a woman and striking up a conversation. But then, what's the worst that could happen? She'll pull out a gun and shoot me? Everyone in the bar will stop, the music will suddenly die, and everyone will laugh at me? This helps a guy to realize just how foolish his fears are.
Let's say my fears are justified. She says, "Hey, get lost." Am I going to collapse on the ground and start sobbing uncontrollably? Will I need long-term therapy? Hell, no! &%$# her! So what am I afraid of?

It may help to be able to sort useful fear from useless fear. Again, the question is --What is the worst that can happen? If your drunk friend is offering to take you for a plane ride in the midst of a storm, you could die. If you are thinking about sinking your retirement savings into an unknown stock, you could lose it all. In these cases your fear is serving a useful, protective function.

But if you want to approach an attractive woman, but are afraid, what useful purpose is your fear serving? If you act, you could wind up with the affair of a lifetime. If you don't act, you will continue to be alone. In this case you must realize your fear is a $%#@ Judas, a counterproductive, useless pain in the ass. Get rid of it.

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Master Don Juan posted 07-04-2000 03:56 PM
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1. Exercise and give yourself goals to meet every week.
2. Approach girls more often (even try Crash & Burn).

3. Write down 3 impressive things you do every day to remind yourself that you're the sh!t and any girl should be so fortunate to even have her presence known around you.

4. Make changes in your appearance that will attract (positive) attention. New haircut or new clothes works.

5. Smile more often.

6. Go on a diet.

7. Classical conditioning.

8. Limit masturbating.

9. Limit fantasizing about girls.

10. Stop watching pornography.

11. Never, ever boast about your sexual conquests.

12. Take dancing/martial arts lessons.

13. Never, ever allow envy to corrupt your perception of things.

14. Stop thinking about women all the time.

15. Stop reading what others brag about with women or learn to genuinely praise them without feelings of self-pity.

16. Eat more fruits.

17. Eat more vegetables.

18. Stop being selfish.

19. Become optimistic.

20. Stop touching your face (ACNE!).

21. Sing to music instead of listening to it.

22. Take a shower and sing.

23. Dance to music.

24. Learn to laugh at yourself.

25. Take insults with a grain of salt.

26. Instead of thinking "What If" all the time, DO IT instead sometmes.

27. Surround yourself with allies (friends, family) more often.

You'll be surprised to find all of these things will make you feel better. I didn't elaborate on any of these points because I felt it was unnecessary. If you don't understand the scientific background behind it, just do it anyways. All of the points are known ways to improve your confidence on a spiritual, emotional, physical and mental level. Do most of these and try to deny the power of improvement...

If anyone has any points to add to the list, please do so.

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Cecil
Moderator posted 07-04-2000 05:35 PM
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Excellent Post REd!
Confidence is the ultimate foundation for women, and it never comes over night. And this is the best list I have seen to help you raise it, instead of focusing on one stupid girl who is the source of all your happiness

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Devlar
Master Don Juan posted 07-04-2000 05:45 PM
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Here Here!!
Good Stuff!
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SuperM
Master Don Juan posted 07-04-2000 10:07 PM
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Very good post/advice!
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SuperM
Master Don Juan posted 07-04-2000 10:08 PM
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one question though, what do you mean by classical conditioning?
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PENZILLA
Master Don Juan posted 07-05-2000 02:47 AM
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IM BAAACK!!!
No. 14, Stop thinking about woman!

Men easy for you to say!
I think about other things but 50% of my thought is all about WOMEN!
I a MAN, you're a MAN!
The two most thing that we only think about is SEX and WOMEN!
I'll try but there'll be NO GUARANTEE!

-PENZILLA

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shakes
Master Don Juan posted 07-05-2000 09:34 AM
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Good post, I guess it is true to say masturbation makes one feel guilty and lessens their self-worth.
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Crazyman
Master Don Juan posted 07-06-2000 02:25 AM
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As for masturbating
Try doin it with someone else prferably female
Same for 10 try with someone female
It can work wonders

Evry thing else i agree on

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dyme
Master Don Juan posted 07-06-2000 02:45 AM
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good post, masturbation kinda makes you feel like a loser unless a chick is beating the meat for you then cool. Always alone also adds into self depression also, seperate yourself from society is bad also. Think ing about girls and not doing anything about it is also low.
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Crazyman
Master Don Juan posted 07-06-2000 03:03 AM
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The masturbation thing was a result of a converstion (phone sex) that i had with a very close female friend that resulted in mutual masturbation last year. We also think and talk about who wolud be an ideal partner for each other.
If you don't know i have had depression and i have annother mental illness Known as social anxiety disorder were your fear of people neds up cutting you of from everyone inclduing family if it gets bad enough.

That occured becuae i was **** scared i still am scared now but it is not as bad

anyway Define low

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Master Don Juan posted 06-17-2000 12:30 PM
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This is the first in a series of articles I'm going to write under the heading of Rx REciPe. Rx stands for prescription, as well as REd-xL (merely a coincidence). If you want to see some of my earlier (untitled) work, check in the archives of the past few weeks.
Article #1: Techniques to Facilitate Approaching Girls
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Here are a few tips you can use to make your life easier when it comes to confronting girls:

1. When you first meet a girl, try to make eye contact with her. When she looks at you, give her a nice, casual smile. Her reaction to this is what can determine whether she is approachable or not.

GOOD

smiles back

looks down then away

subtely opens up (brushes hair from face, unbuttons jacket, uncrosses arms, leans forward, etc.)

tilts head

increases blinking rate

BAD

immediately looks away

turns her head at all

subtely closes up (usually happens with girls who already have boyfriends)

NEUTRAL/TRY AGAIN

keeps staring

looks away (but not down first or immediately)

If you can weed out some girls that will shut you down, you can avoid the blow to self-esteem and time wasted when threy give you the shaft.

2. Now that you know which girls to approach, what do you say to them? What kind of opening line can you use without looking silly or stupid?

Answer: "Hi" with a nice, casual smile.

In a research project, 71% of women acknowledged and responded to men who opened up with that line. Needless to say, 100% of men did the same for women who approached and said, "Hi."

Conclusion? The odds are totally in your favor, especially after you've separated some of the 29% from the playing field.

3. OK, now I've really got her attention, but now what do I talk about?

This is usually where most men have the biggest problem: flirting. Here are some basic tips:

Keep the focus of the conversation about her. People love to talk about themselves, especially about their ambitions and dreams.

Try to make cute jokes, but never about her or yourself (example: I'm gay...just kidding!). This is a sign of weakness, especially during a first impression.

Always keep good eye contact, but never stare.

Never talk about guy stuff (cars, sports, sex, etc.) unless she brings it up.

If you need to initiate the conversation, find something unique on her body and ask her about it. My favorite is the design on the T-shirts, especially the part covering the t'its. This is an advertisement, so act like a client.

Only ask open-ended questions.

Avoid topics about politics or relationships.

Always keep the conversation upbeat.

We all know what a good conversation goes like, but we often make the mistake of letting it carry on for too long until the conversation gets boring. Learn to cut it off by telling her you have to take care of something. Ask for her number. If everything went fluidly, you've got yourself a winner.

4. Confidence, confidence, confidence, and, alas, confidence....I can never stress this point enough. You're preceived as you act.

5. Extra tidbits:

Once you feel that vibe between you and a girl, chances are she's feeling the exact same way. Take advantage of this opportunity to touch her arm or hand every now and then when you mention her.

If she initiates the conversation, you're in great luck.

If she's with friends, talk to the group and slowly narrow the conversation down to her, exclusively. It'll make her feel really special to be exclusive.

Never complain about anything unless you mean to joke (don't even try talking about the difference between sexes).

Stand still when you talk to her, and try not to make too many movements with your hands.

As we all should know by now, wait at least 3-4 days before calling her back.

Anytime you feel your insecurities holding you back, tell yourself, "I only live life once!" under your breath. Put your head down, full-steam ahead, and don't even look back!

If you've read this far, you have the ambition to succeed with girls. Go get 'em, Tiger!

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terminator911
Master Don Juan posted 06-17-2000 01:01 PM
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Great post man.
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REd-xL
Master Don Juan posted 08-11-2000 10:54 PM
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Master Don Juan posted 06-10-2001 11:18 AM
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Master Don Juan posted 06-10-2001 02:01 PM
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quote:
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Originally posted by REd-xL:
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Actually, this one is so good it should be sent to the Hall of Fame, if it isn't already there.

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That was a sexy post RED
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mike darookie
Don Juan posted 06-21-2001 08:01 AM
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sweet post,u have it down to a science, however making "cute jokes" how is that a sing of weekness? i do this all the time, either the more i drink at a club or the less i like the girl the "cute joke" gets more agressive. the agressive side would be telling the girl "yea its been weird lately, been fighting a virus" girl- "whats that" me- "hiv have you heard of it?". i admit it dosent get me anywhere but its funny to see there reaction. wheres the weekness though?
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Dancer
Master Don Juan posted 06-22-2001 01:09 AM
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Yo REd-xL! You been here a long time, you oughtta know that it comes down to different strokes for different folks. What works for some fellas, will not work for others.
Still, it's a great outline of the basics. Outstanding post.

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bashful
Don Juan posted 06-22-2001 03:29 AM
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This is a good idea for approaching girls. But my advise is this:
When you make some kinda eye contact and start talking, dont smile. Cause when you smile that shows that your nervous.

Not smiling and just focusing on her shows confidence. Especially if shes hot, dont smile unless a joke is told. She already used to guys blushing around her. When you dont smile that shows that 1.) youve seen better 2.) your not subconciously in her back pocket.

you all should remember this. With me, it just comes naturally now. When i see a hottie and start talkin i just peer down on her with my eyes. Im pretty sure girls like my dark eyes. And im sure theyll like whatever color eyes you guys have.

Just start talking casually about things...not everything HAS to be about her, you can always put in lil snidbits about yourself. Us real guys know that you cant just keep on talkin and talkin and talkin about her asking her questions cause it turns into an interveiw which could bore the balls off a horse.

One more thing, ...like i said, i like red's ideas and all but i disagree with another one of his statements.

Dont be like the way he said and wait for a positive reaction. Ask yourself this...do you like yourself? (that answer should be yes) So why are you waiting to see if she'll like you? See people, that makes you nervous and start to look back at yourself thinking " does she like me enough for me to approach her?" Thats corny....when you see a hot girl and lets say for instance she's alone, go up and talk to her, because why?????? you wanna find out if YOU will like HER. Is SHE good enough for YOU? is SHE dating material???

Your supposed to already know your hot. Damn it, i know i am.

Talk to her a bit about whatever pops into your mind. Its easy, just focus on whatever she's doing at the time...you can continue talking about that for a while then ask her age, or where she may go to school...if shes in college, what major...then leave it on a good note and say, "look i gotta get ready to go, but can i give you a call sometime"

Its easy as blueberry pie.

If she says she has a bf...which is usually the normal answer...( if there was a good vibe) say, well we could be friends. Thats builds rapport hanging around a hot chick...cause shes got friends.

My 2...hundred cents

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bashful
Don Juan posted 06-22-2001 03:32 AM
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OOoooh i forgot!

back to when your talking, dont smile fully, just smirk. The smirk says a lot. It shows confidence, being under control,and it shows interests.

Do this when funny things happen, she'll be yours no question.

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Deagleclaw
Master Don Juan posted 06-22-2001 04:02 PM
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Bashful,
You'll get the picture someday. You're now starting to think about technique rather than looks, which is good. But NOT Smiling says you're bored and guys who are bored at a club where they're trying to pick up women are boring guys. Women don't want boring guys, they want exciting guys.

DO SMILE. When you see a chick you like, and manage to catch her eye, c0ck your head to the side a bit, and let a smile build slowly but in your eyes, convey sexy. Not smiling makes you look either boring or creepy.

I learned this one from watching James Dean. Squint a little bit. Women dig it. Why? Because the male trait for eyes are rectangular and narrow, whereas the female trait is large and ovoid. Lower your eyebrows slightly and bring them together slightly. Then walk over. Shoulders high, proper posture. Show her your strut. This is something you should work on. Your strut displays how you feel about yourself. That you are confident, aware, and strong.
When talking to her, SMILE. It is disarming, attractive, and conveys security.
The rest is up to you. When you KNOW that you can rock her world, that you are a catch and a half, that you are the best damn mofo in the room, they'll sense it, feel it, believe it, and want it.

Bashful, NEVER Suggest being friends with a girl you want to bone. It's counter productive. Your conversation SHOULD be an interview, you're testing the waters out to see if you like her enough to spend more time with her, after all, she may be a complete b*tch. She may want to know more about you, but answering directly is counter productive. Mysterious... remember. Be vague. You're starting to get the hang of the attitude, but your conceptual thinking needs some work.

Cheers,
Deagleclaw out

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1. AD has completely got it all figured out when it comes to internet dating. Reason? Everyone lies when chatting. Don't say you've never lied to anyone on the net 'cause it isn't true. Also, most of us prefer outgoing females, so that nasty wench using her laptop as she takes a sh'it is the last thing you want to meet.
2. Before you can become a player, go out with lots of girls if you haven't already done so. It builds good experience when trying to sort what different girls are looking for in a relationship.

3. A fun way to avoid regrets and pressure to build up confidence is to hit on some ugly chicks. By their reactions, you can begin to develop a sense of how to compliment or flatter all girls in general with charm.

4. Play the Crash 'N Burn game (as known in the Lay Guide). Go out with some friends and all take turns in purposely turning girls off when you approach them. If you make it a game, you can have a sh'itload of fun and build a great deal of confidence in approaching girls.

5. Don Juanita and kickygirl should settle their dispute in a mud wrestling match. I'm sure a there'd be a majority vote in this forum.

6. If you have problems flirting, research body language like a mad devil to become one hell of a fluent communicator.

7. The word "shy" is a blanket-word for the term insecure. If you ever talk about why you're quiet, use the word reserved instead.

8. Always remember, you've only got one life to live (sorry to you Buddhists out there). Make the best of it. If you don't, you'll be in complete anguish.

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Anti-Dump
Master Don Juan posted 06-08-2000 07:27 PM
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Red,
You are kind of twisting my words. I said internet dating was "a waste of TIME". You can weed people out FASTER in person. That's all. I wasn't speaking about the quality of the people you meet.

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Master Don Juan posted 05-19-2000 02:20 AM
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If you're finding it hard to build good rapport with girls, there's a technique that can really help you. It's called mirroring. To mirror a girl, you need to adjust your personality to fit hers. This means that you need to adjust how much you talk and the patience you need to match her. Body language is also an essential aspect of mirroring. Study her style. Mimic her movements subtly, and never exaggerate. Like if she touches her chin, casually act like your stroking chin and rest it there. Other aspects to mirror:

facial expressions

eye contact

blinking

breathing

It's essential to mirror breathing for a very important reason. When she's talking to you, hang on every word she says and emulate your body language as if you were talking. This is really important because when she hesitates, jump in and finish her sentence. This is really a hit or miss, but it's really easy to laugh it off as a joke if you said the completely wrong thing.
Another essential tip: take what she says and spit it back at her in your own words. Just remember: it's got to sound as casual as she said it. To help make the point stronger, use the same key words she used and mimic the same facial gestures when you reiterate it. I mirror all the time, and I touch some girls so much that I can readily see their pupils dilating.

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Ryan
Master Don Juan posted 05-19-2000 09:51 AM
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Okay give us an example on how u would mirror a girl....
....Yeah I think I'll try this .

Your Homeboy,

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Master Don Juan posted 08-15-2000 03:15 AM
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Mirroring is excellent. A great trick I use to see if a girl is really in tune with me during a date, on a whim, i'll switch to a position that is totally opposite of her's. Like, if we're both leaning forward with our hands under our chins, I'll lean back and rest my hands on my knees. Watch to see if she does the same. be careful here though--you might actually make her think you don't care to listen if you does this too long or too extreme.
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Master Don Juan posted 05-21-2000 07:18 AM
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For some reason, this occurred to me out of the blue: picking up women has absolutely 100% to do with confidence. I'm sure most of you are saying "duh, moron" at the moment, but let me finish here. I just figured out what "advice" is used for. The mere point here is that confidence comes with experience. BOMBSHELL WARNING: Any techniques you learn or read about are nothing more than a placebo. A placebo is like a sugar pill. It psychologically makes you believe you are doing better, hence the increase in confidence. Confidence is comfort. Comfort comes with experience. Using techniques to approach girls (experience) will make you more comfortable. You follow?
It's that annoying thing in your head that deters you from doing what you want. You must get rid of it! Throw your inhibitions to the floor! Do something that you would normally believe takes a lot of guts to do. Keep telling yourself you're going to do it. F*ck the pessimism going through your head! DO IT! Feel the adrenaline rush through your body as you begin to experience a euphoric high. Realize doing things like this will always make you feel this good! Become addicted to the high. It's good for you! Do it to the point where you channel out your shame.
Now it's time to approach girls with NO REGRETS!
Also, realize that each stage of the courtship requires experience and comfort before success can be attained.
Go get 'em, Tiger!
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Hidden-Danjer
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Confidence has never done ME any harm.
In fact it has brought me chick after chick... You can't ignore the facts.

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AKA FLEX
Master Don Juan posted 05-21-2000 01:23 PM
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Red,
Even though we had our disagreements on your last post, I want to give you props on this one. I agree with you 100%. I have discovered that women have some type of sixth sense for self-confidence, and it draws them to men of that type. Every time I've had a hard day and am feeling down and try to put my game on, I have a hard time being successful. But if I go out thinking "I'm the **** and these chicks are DYING to have sex with me" they can feel it in my aura and they eat it up. I wish I could buy some "confidence in a bottle" at GNC for those bad days when I just don't have it in me.

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Master Don Juan posted 05-21-2000 07:37 PM
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I also agree 100%. Everything you said is true.
That's not to say that the knowledge her isn't useful. It DOES increase confidence, therefore there is absolutely no reason not to learn it. Unless you don't need it... but then you wouldn't be at this site.

And you're right about not thinking about it. The more you think about it the less likely you'll do it. How many times how you *won* that argument in your head, where you're trying to decide to approach a girl? Rarely. But when you don't THINK about it and just DO it you never have that problem. Who would have thought that NOT thinking could ever be such a good thing? But it is!

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Master Don Juan posted 05-23-2000 03:26 AM
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This is a tip that few people know about, but works very effectively:
When you smile, you physiologically raise the number of endorphines in your body, making you happier. Surprisingly, forcing yourself to smile has the same effect. The same goes for frowning and serotonin. Try it if you don't believe me.

Now go look in the mirror and give yourself the c0ckiest, most confident, bad-boyish kind of sneer. Use your eyes and other features to accentuate that c0cky look. When you feel like getting in the mood, put this face on anytime and start approaching girls. Surprisingly, you'll find your confidence at a high level, a combination of your body's natural reaction to the sneer and sometime's that "jerk" look girls respond to better than the "nice guy." Use few, small words, and lots of slang (like 'K instead of OK).

You don't necessarily need to use the bad boy image at the end, but remember that the sneer does physiologically raise your confidence.

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guitar player
Master Don Juan posted 05-23-2000 06:07 AM
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I've noticed the same thing, but not until now have I really thougth about it. It truly works, no doubt about it. Just smile, smile and smile. BIG
That'll do it everytime, at least it does for me. I suggest you all start doing it, even if it sounds stupid.
-GP

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REd-xL
Master Don Juan posted 06-03-2000 08:21 AM
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One thing that I've noticed about lots of guys coming here is thay they are wondering how to turn themselves from losers into players. It doesn't work that way!
As everyone here knows all too well, the biggest distinction between players and losers lies within confidence/self-esteem.

I have this theory as to why some people tend to have problems approaching girls: Sex is viewed like the Holy Grail, a passage into manhood, or the sense of achieving identity by some individuals. If these people aren't getting any, their infatuation with sex becomes detrimental, lowering their confidence level at the constant thought of what they're not getting. As a result, talking to girls becomes difficult because the approach lies solely on the intent of getting laid with them. These sex-craved individuals lose their composure because their efforts strive toward achieving something they have yet to experience or have trouble experiencing. This occurs due to the pressure they put on themselves to achieve their ideal goal of getting laid.

To make my point here: Instead of approaching girls with the intent to f'uck them, appoach girls with the intention of just being friends. Humans are social animals. We strive at building solid relationships with other individuals. How hard is it to make friends?

This strategy can achieve the following for you:

The ability to just be yourself. No pressure here, folks!

The ability to gain the confidence in just being yourself to approach girls.

The experience obtained from approaching and talking to girls.

The possibility that your "friend" would gladly step in to play matchmaker for you.

Dating and sex are complex in their own right, so they must be achieved in steps. Try passing Linear Algebra without having taken any math classes in between aritmetic and Linear Algebra. You can't just jump.

When f'ucking a girl's brains out is the first thing you picture in your head when you first see one, it's ineviatable your nerves will falter if you approach her with the focus of such an outcome, especially if unexperienced.

Approaching girls as yourself with the hopes of becoming nothing more than friends, you will reflect genuinity, confidence, and friendly warmth, traits girls look for in guys. You may not hit it off with these girls, but the experience you get from it will truly make it easier to approach girls. This way, you can still f'uck her brains out (in your head) without the pressure.

Relax, stop trying to act like someone you're not, stop trying to manipulate and read or direct her actions, because all of these factor in on the lack of concentration you need to talk with confidence to girls.

Once you achieve the necessary confidence, that's when you can start worrying about the other factors.

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JellyNuts
Master Don Juan posted 06-03-2000 10:51 AM
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This is one of the most intelligent posts ever writtes, a hall of famer if you ask me. Absolutley right. The only people that can approach with the intent to just f*** are celebrities, rich folks, and drunk people at parties. The rest of the people should be just looking at these chicks as friends, then if a mutual attraction exists the rest will come. As we have all said about 1 million times, it alll rests on being confident in yourself. The more friends you can go make, the more people you will know, and the more chances you will have to either get laid or meet you love, depending on wjhat your looking for. Besides, most chicks hate it when you talk to their tits.
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Cecil
Moderator posted 06-03-2000 11:29 AM
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Originally posted by REd-xL:
As everyone here knows all too well, the biggest distinction between players and losers lies within confidence/self-esteem.

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Absolutely Excellent Post REd! As I have seen on this forum many a time, is that the forum does not make you out to be something you are not, we don't tell you what to dress or how to walk. I think this forum simply tries brings out the best of you, we all have f'ucking problems, and you never see a response saying 'You should have been wearing a collared shirt man, chicks dig collared shirts' no its about leveling the playing field and wooing women through psychological warfare

Excellent Post REd
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TommyD
Master Don Juan posted 06-03-2000 12:22 PM
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REd-xL, that was one of the most well articulated and intelligent posts that I have ever read. It's a wonder why you haven't made 'master' yet.
Well said brother. And keep the dream alive...by making it a reality.

TommyD

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Tony
unregistered posted 06-03-2000 04:38 PM
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right on!
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REd-xL
Master Don Juan posted 08-11-2000 10:58 PM
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Dee-Zy
Master Don Juan posted 08-11-2000 11:06 PM
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Wow this post is making me wanna go to tha mall right away to make sum new "friends"

Great post Red!!!
2 Thumbs up!!!
Peace Out
DZ

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Smitty
Master Don Juan posted 08-12-2000 07:22 PM
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Excellent post. The only thing I wonder about is, even when you approach a girl with the intent on being friends, to the girl she might think that because you randomly went up to her that you are hitting on her. Stuff like that psyches me out.
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LittleDon
Master Don Juan posted 08-12-2000 07:39 PM
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Smitty, i know what your saying, sometimes the same stuff goes through my head, heck it used to consume me, totally immobilizing me from making any advances.
The thing you need to focus on is that it does not matter what is going through the girls head, it does not matter what she thinks of you. Why? because you have confidence. When you have complete confidence it does not matter what you say or do, nothing can go wrong.

Think about it, what is it that holds you back from pursuing girls? its feeling like an idiot and makeing a fool of yourself right? Well is any of that possible if you have confidence in yourself?

And dont be like some of the guys that try and phsyche themselves up to have confidence. To me its simply a choice, i must have confidence within myself to succeed, so i choose to be confident and just go for it.

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posted 05-16-2002 08:19 PM

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Master Don Juan posted 06-18-2000 05:55 PM
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From my experience, I've started to see some things that you can gauge to catch a glimpse of how good a woman will be in the sack.
1. The better she dances, the better she f'ucks. That's why girls with the most rhythm, blacks and latinas, are so damn good in the sack. On the other side, you'll find the reserved asians as bland and non-adventurous, but don't take my generalizations as fact because there are exceptions.

2. For some reason, fat chicks really know how to give good head, and the ones that don't quite outweigh you are pretty dynamo at making love.

That's all I could think of now, so if anyone has anymore to add, please list them. I'll remember some more tomorrow.

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Ryan
Master Don Juan posted 06-18-2000 06:20 PM
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So when r u gonna get 2 F,uck Britney?

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Master Don Juan posted 06-18-2000 06:42 PM
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quote:
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Originally posted by REd-xL:
On the other side, you'll find the reserved asians as bland and non-adventurous.
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EHHHHNNNN. Try again.

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REd-xL
Master Don Juan posted 08-11-2000 10:52 PM
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Moderators,
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Dee-Zy
Master Don Juan posted 08-11-2000 11:26 PM
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1. The better she dances, the better she f'ucks. That's why girls with the most rhythm, blacks and latinas, are so damn good in the sack.
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ROFLOL
DAAAAAAAAAMN!!!

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posted 05-16-2002 08:20 PM

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Master Don Juan posted 05-17-2000 07:49 PM
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I work as a host at a restaurant, and I meet lots of girls every shift. I've finally attained the level of confidence needed to approach girls and talk to them, but I've always had a huge problem dealing with my own body language. I've studied body language extensively, so I can read just about anybody but myself. My big problem is what to do with my hands:

hands on hips-demonstrates I'm trying to take control

hands in pockets-demonstrates insecurity

arms crossed-demonstrates defiance

gripping something-demonstrates "holding on for dear life"

I know that using hand gestures is good and revealing palms shows that you're open, but using that too often looks awkward and eccentric. I need some help on what I can do with my hands and keep them interested!
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Miss Research
unregistered posted 05-26-2000 10:49 AM
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Red,
Since you would be interested in the girl, the first body language would be to involve a form of self-grooming -- adjust your tie, collar, rearrange your cuff links, smooth your hair. Then, once eye contact is made, smile and make sure your hands are open, palms showing, which implies openness, arms open as well. Using your hands as you speak implies interest.

Another thing -- men show interest in women subliminally by playing with circular objects in their presence. A soda can, whatever you have handy. Give it a squeeze, then release it. It says, "I'd like to squeeze YOU."

A pal cut-and-pasted this into an e-mail, so I don't have the website. The title was Courtship Signals.

Miss Research

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REd-xL
Master Don Juan posted 08-11-2000 10:59 PM
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Moderators,
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Dee-Zy
Master Don Juan posted 08-11-2000 11:10 PM
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WOW!!!
Great post!
your on Fire RED!
Peace Out
DZ

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Dee-Zy
Master Don Juan posted 08-11-2000 11:10 PM
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WOW!!!
Great post!
your on Fire RED!
Peace Out
DZ

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Hidden-Danjer
Moderator posted 08-12-2000 08:50 AM
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Miss Research
unregistered
?????????????????????????????

Says here that only registered users can post????????????

!!!

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2smoothe4u
Master Don Juan posted 08-12-2000 08:15 PM
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Originally posted by Hidden-Danjer:
Miss Research
unregistered
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Says here that only registered users can post????????????

!!!

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Thats cause in untill sometime in June, you could post without being registered. I guess they changed that so more people would register.

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posted 05-16-2002 08:21 PM

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REd-xL
Master Don Juan posted 07-09-2000 03:52 PM
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If you find yourself having trouble to find the motivation to change, but you desperately want to, this advice will change your life.
I'm talking about a book, but I don't mean to endorse it for any other reason than its content. The book is called "The Power of Self Hypnosis."

I went to the library to research hypnosis and its effects when I came across this book. It demonstrates how to hypnotize yourself and feed things to your subconcious. It will not only improve your confidence, but also other phobias or inane characteristics of yourself. You can quit smoking, find the motivation to run everyday, etc.

Go to your library, bookstore, or amazon.com right now and find this gem!!! You won't regret it.

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Ronimal
Don Juan posted 07-09-2000 06:13 PM
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Red, who is the author?
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REd-xL
Master Don Juan posted 08-11-2000 10:48 PM
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Moderators,
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Ryan
Master Don Juan posted 08-12-2000 11:58 AM
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Isn't it similiar 2 NLP??
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Lil' Pervert
Don Juan posted 08-12-2000 08:45 PM
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The only way it's similar to NLP is that it's a form of hypnotism. Otherwise, you can't just talk yourself into doing things (unless you possess one hell of an imagination). I need to try this sometime.
LP

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posted 05-16-2002 08:23 PM

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Master Don Juan posted 08-12-2000 09:02 PM
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Once you close and have her phone number, don't head off just yet. Ask to see her palm so you can check something out. Analyze it like it's a piece of artwork; look at it from different angles, massage it with your fingers, etc. Then look deep into her eyes for a second and go right back to examining her palm. Then, with a sly grin, say "Wow! That's incredible!" As you reach the word "incredible," look into her eyes again.
At this point, tell her you'll see her later. Quite naturally, she'll ask you what's so incredible. Just casually tell her you know a little about palm-reading, but you really must leave. Then get your a$$ out of there as quickly as you can and change the subject if she ever tries to get in on her incredible "secret."

Try to keep the charade up as long as you can.

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Dee-Zy
Master Don Juan posted 08-13-2000 12:11 AM
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DAAAAAAMN!
IF ONLY I HAD THIS THA A|DAY I ASKED THA GIRL HER PHONE NUMBER!!! IT WOULD OF...
AAAAAAAAGH
PISS MEH OFF!!!
I should checked tha BB sooner

LOL I GOTTA try that Tmorow then
Peace Out
DZ

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Ace
Don Juan posted 08-13-2000 05:39 AM
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she'll ask you what's so incredible. Just casually tell her you know a little about palm-reading, but you really must leave. Then get your a$$ out of there as quickly as you can and change the subject if she ever tries to get in on her incredible "secret."
Try to keep the charade up as long as you can.

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Great idea!!
But what happens when she never dismisses the idea, and tries to ask questions about palm readig, what then? And she tries to get u to do it, I don't think someone chan b/s, can we?

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Peak
Master Don Juan posted 08-13-2000 06:08 AM
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Ace
A true Don Juan would have done his homework already and known a little about Palm Reading before he tried such a trick.
A Don Juan thinks ahead and is prepared. If's he's startled or surprised he keeps cool under pressure.

Cheers.

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REd-xL
Master Don Juan posted 08-12-2000 09:19 PM
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If there's really a genuine way to flatter a girl, it's by complimenting her hair. Girls are really self-conscious about their hair, and guys rarely or never compliment a girl's new do.
It's a good idea to become familiar with what streaks are, when a girl's hair is dyed, and others fashions concerning hair. She will feel great knowing guys notice her hair and will be extremely flattered.

If a cute girl you know just recently got a new haircut, tell her you think it looks really good (no matter how f'ucking horrible it really is).

Another great aspect about complimenting hair is that you can use it as a lead-in to compliment her on other features without seeming like a desperate guy.

Example: "Your hairstyle looks really good. Those streaks really seem to compliment your eyes and the contour really makes your nice figure stand out."

Guys tend to have problems figuring out what to compliment a girl on, so take advantage of the hair thing.

Remember, it's the little things that count, and subtlety is the key to opening the possibilities of making them happen.

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Dee-Zy
Master Don Juan posted 08-13-2000 12:08 AM
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Yo red!
What if she says she doesn't like her hair?
what do you do then?
It happened to meh:
-Hey Girl your hair looks Really nice!
-aaargh, please don't say that I hate it Tday
(With a big smile though)

(either cuz of humidity, of she didn't had time to fix em up or sumthin)

Peace Out
DZ

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REd-xL
Master Don Juan posted 08-13-2000 01:10 AM
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If she says something like that, YOU'VE STRUCK A GOLD MINE!
Let me explain: Because she's really feeling down about her hair, that's when you need to take the initiative and convince her hair looks good.

I found the easiest way to pull this one off is to ask her what she dislikes about her hair. Take what she says, help her dismiss the idea, and give her a new perception of how good her hair really is. This goes beyond flattery by completely making her day.

Result? Hanging around you raises her spirits = More wanting to hang around you = You control potential relationship!

This all revolves around the concept of being wanted...badly! I totally get the sense that you have the potential, DZ, to be a MAAAAAD player. Now get out there and conquer!

Asian girls rule!

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Dee-Zy
Master Don Juan posted 08-13-2000 01:52 AM
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hehehe
thanks,
as an exemple, this (hot) girl is ALWAYS complaining when the wheter is humid, cuz she says her hair curls. (Wich I think looks even nicer, REALLAY!) So when I say it's nice she said that she hate it and Sh!t. I usually stop after that cuz I didn't know what to say,
now I know! Thanks Red
Peace Out
DZ

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Master Don Juan posted 08-13-2000 07:05 AM
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You'll be sorry if you hit that "Back" button. What I'm going to present here is the ultimate guide to gaining the confidence to approach girls anywhere, anytime. Once again, I must warn you, failing to read this will result in one of the biggest missed opportunities of your life. The contents of this article contain the material you've always been looking for since day one, the day you first set out to discover how to seduce and conquer women. To fully appreciate and understand this article, it must be read in its entirety without distraction or interruption. Immerse yourself within this material, and you will become the Master Don Juan you always dreamed of becoming.......
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Do you remember the last time you saw a gorgeous girl, had the intention of approaching her, but didn't have the guts to follow through? You know you screwed up. Worse, you committed a mistake that was easily preventable. Every time you think back on all those missed opportunities, you cringe and begin to feel bad about your sorry self.

But here's where things turn for the better. I want you to think back to the time just before you screwed up with that girl; did you picture yourself approaching her? Did you picture her possible reactions to different things you would have said to her? Or did you maybe fantasize about having a little kinky sex with her? If, in any shape or form, you pictured yourself with her, you have absolutely no idea how close you are to having the right mindset to approach girls with intense confidence.

Now what was that thing holding you back again? Yup, insecurity. This is where you need to begin taking charge of your life. Confidence/insecurity is cumulative, meaning each action you take will either drag your esteem level down or make it rise. Inaction, an action in itself, is terribly detrimental. In association with a strong yearning (girls, in your case), not taking action toward achieving that essential desire only elevates the harm you're doing to yourself. Unfulfilled desires are the root of insecurity.

Every time you see a girl you want to approach, it's time to take charge of your legacy and put your a'ss on the line. Because, you need to remember, every missed opportunity is going to drag you down deeper into the abyss of frustration and obsession (I'm sure we've all seen hints of this in ourselves). If you ever feel angry, stressed, obsessed over something, or just plain depressed, you now know where it came from.

Do you have any friends or family who've ever been addicted to drugs? To avoid confrontaion and pain, the drug addict will take more drugs. When you avoid facing your desire for women, you, as well, are attempting to take the easy road by avoiding pain and confrontation. In both cases, you and the drug addict are severely impairing your chances of success and you make it harder to overcome your anxieties and obsessions.

Are you afraid of needles? Fine, the doctor tells you, go ahead and die a horribly painful Hepatitis B death. Like approaching girls, you realize how harmless the procedure is. You know how you hype yourself up about the needle, then look in awe as you realize how foolish you were to be frightened when you didn't feel a thing. Of course, by not taking the medication, you put your life at risk. By failing to approach girls you desire, you intoxicate your sanity. The biggest distinction between the needle and girls is that one is forced on you, but the other requires willpower.

Why do you need to take care of this right now? Because success grows exponentially. The faster and earlier you put in the effort, the more you gain from it to bring up to the next level. Like the stock market. Here's another example: Take the clever 8 year-old who asks his parents to change his allowance to one cent the first week, but to double the amount every week. Within 30 weeks, the kid becomes a millionaire. Because this kid took the initiative early, he earned his success.

Think about all the times you neglected to carry something out. Now think back to your proudest moments. Notice the distinction? To get into the right mindset, you must cease dwelling on those past instances where you felt terrible.

The worst part is, you realize how foolish you are by not approaching girls as often as you should. Once you get the first one out of the way, the rest come naturally. But it's with that first step that most falter. Ever gone bowling or swinging clubs at the driving range? The first ball you throw heads straight for the gutter and the first ball you hit tinkles four yards ahead of you. With the scoring, you shriek out, "That doesn't count!" Take the first approach with girls in stride; it doesn't count. It's just a warm-up. Every skill involves practice and persistence, and approaching girls is no exception.

Today, you are going to change your life around!

You are in charge of your own fate!

Only YOU can achieve your desires!

Swift action is a necessity!

Get the f'uck off-line, turn off the computer, and get out of the house! I know you can feel that POWER running through your veins right now; capitalize on it, NOW! Do you remember the last time you let an incredible change go by in your life without taking action? Good! Now don't let yourself fall into that trap again!

If you read this and dare not take immediate action when you know d'amn well if the best thing for you, you're only going to regret it. And don't make me remind you how badly negative thoughts f'uck up and corrupt your self-esteem.

Look in the mirror. Do you see your eyes? Yup, you are f'ucking simmering with confidence. Now get the f'uck out there and go get 'em, Tiger!!!!!!

Continue telling yourself:

"No more pity."

"No more excuses."

"Results."

Good luck, but I know you won't need any.

Your pal,

Jerome Michel Holeyman

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Master Don Juan posted 08-13-2000 07:43 AM
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Well, that article sure got my blood pumpin'!
Thats what I love about this board! Whenever I read some of the great posts, I realize I;m not the only guy going through all the ups and downs of approaching and dating girls!

It's amazing how somedays I tell myself "Today, If I see that girl I've always wanted to ask out! I'm going to ask her out today!" Then just before I do, My mind generates all these reasons why I shouldn't!!

They way I see it, no man can prepare to get stronger. Real strength is gained through action. By taking charge of that moment and ignoring all the negative comments our minds seem to spit out at us!

Thanks for the Info REd-xl, it really helps.

Rob

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terminator911
Master Don Juan posted 08-16-2000 05:49 PM
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Great post... Thumbs up!
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Dee-Zy
Master Don Juan posted 08-16-2000 06:27 PM
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Best post on Confidence ever so far!
Two thumbs up Red,
If only I can go out now

Peace Out
DZ

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PENZILLA
Master Don Juan posted 08-16-2000 11:39 PM
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AMEN! BROTHA! AMEN!

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"Fear doesn't exist anywhere, except in the MIND." -Dale Carnegie

-PENZILLA

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Dee-Zy
Master Don Juan posted 08-17-2000 12:35 AM
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Wow Penzilla,
been a while since I saw one of yo post here!

Sup???
U used to be REALLY present in tha past with Big Don!
Y not anmore?
Peace Out
DZ

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AZN THUGZ NEVER DIE!!! AZN THUGZ 4EVA ALIVE!!
Prepare yoself fer the KayZeez y'all!!!

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Lil' Pervert
Don Juan posted 08-25-2000 09:44 PM
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Red, you are a GOD!
LP

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"Porn is not a sin; it's a sinful pleasure."

"Masturbation is the key......pleasure is the door."

"If all else fails, declare yourself a born-again virgin."

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HB_Hunter
Don Juan posted 03-20-2001 10:26 AM
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this topic is really stunnin',but there is one thing that made me confused about it sometimes.
Is this also applied in a non-pickup enviroment stuff like<grocery store, street,etc...> i mean wouldn't be tough to test yourself in that??

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keep it movin
Don Juan posted 03-20-2001 04:59 PM
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That was straight forward and on the money, my friend. Couldn't have said it better myself!!!
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Ko-B
Master Don Juan posted 03-24-2001 03:34 AM
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8 responses onlY??? UPPIN!!! MORE PEOPLE NEED TO PEEP THIS THREAD!!!!!!!
The subject does not lie...

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Jig
Don Juan posted 03-24-2001 09:29 AM
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Great post! I was in a situation like that descibed at the beginning of the post. I had seen this beautiful girl every now and then for a couple of YEARS and always thought that someday I have to approach her and ask her out. But I always chickened at the last moment and always came up with great excuses why I shouldn't do that...
But then a couple of weeks ago I walked around a corner and suddenly saw her standing alone in the corridor. My heart stopped as usual and I felt like an electric shock going through my body (I think you all know this feeling ) I didn't have time to think about the situation at all or think anything clever to say. I just felt my legs taking me towards her and then heard myself talking to her And I'm damn happy I did so. I now have a good start with her. But the most important thing is that after that first try I have had courage to do that again with other girls also. So I can well say that I'm on my way of changing my life

Jig

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HB_Hunter
Don Juan posted 03-24-2001 10:07 AM
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Ain't Nobody Here To Answer me??

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Paradox
Master Don Juan posted 03-24-2001 07:11 PM
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quote:
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Originally posted by HB_Hunter:
this topic is really stunnin',but there is one thing that made me confused about it sometimes.
Is this also applied in a non-pickup enviroment stuff like<grocery store, street,etc...> i mean wouldn't be tough to test yourself in that??

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There is no Non pickup environment. The grocery store is one of the best places to meet women. I go to the fruit and veggie section and ask a woman that I am interested in "How can I tell if this is ripe or not?" Then I take it from there.

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HB_Hunter
Don Juan posted 03-25-2001 09:16 AM
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who agreee??
who disagreee??. cz i really m condused about that ..
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ACTION
Master Don Juan posted 03-29-2001 12:47 PM
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quote:
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Originally posted by HB_Hunter:
who agreee??
who disagreee??. cz i really m condused about that ..
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Yeah, I agree. There are chicks everywhere. We just have to take advantage of each situation as it presents itself.

PS: Red-XL damn good post!
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"See a rose struggling to survive on the side of a road. Is it too not as beautiful as those in the garden."

"Kung-Fu" TV Series

[This message has been edited by ACTION (edited 03-29-2001).]

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HB_Hunter
Don Juan posted 03-29-2001 08:07 PM
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Today i was in this great market. about 3 chicks (rated 8 or 9) i think, came n left u i was frustrated cz i didn't approach them although i kept on tellin' ma self that this 'll ruin ma self-estem,i live one life ,yada yada ..As we r in a country that this stuff is like wierd.. or it means that she's a ***** or so...especially if she's a damn good chick. as a result..i was left frustrated n ma confidence went so damn down
what im sayin' here is that im only the one who do this stuff as for pickin' up gals in this non pickups enviroments.. shall i always test myself?? it's beginin' to get complicated what do u think red??
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Gaming111
Don Juan posted 05-09-2001 02:04 AM
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This is a GEM. To the top, immediately!
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syncmaster
Master Don Juan posted 05-09-2001 05:59 PM
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Hb Hunter... Are you pumped??? Alright... Get up, do 20 jumping jacks. Get ready, put on your suave clothes. AND YOU GO DO THOSE GROCERIES. Hahahah
If that's what get's you excited then you do that. If that's your hobby, you go buy as much bread, milk, butter, etc... as you want.

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Syncmaster signing out.
a.k.a ... Adam

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latiness
Master Don Juan posted 05-10-2001 04:59 PM
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This is Good SH!T!! I feel alive again.... good job Red
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REd-xL
Master Don Juan posted 05-10-2001 05:26 PM
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For a nine-month old post, this thing sure is standing up to the test of time!
Rx

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"I haven't failed, I've found 10,000 ways that don't work."
-Thomas Edison

"I have learned that success is to be measured not so much by the position that one has reached in life as by the obstacles which he has overcome while trying to succeed."
-Booker T. Washington

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Gaming111
Don Juan posted 05-10-2001 09:05 PM
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You can all thank me for bringing it back to the top... Search feature works wonders.
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Man Of Adventure
Master Don Juan posted 07-05-2001 02:38 PM
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The DJ bible just helped me find this..cool.Thanx red and thanks neo.Man Well I can basically rid of my last post.Its not needed.

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Whats this Man going to do now???Lets just find out. - Man Of Adventure

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posted 05-16-2002 08:26 PM

Great Work Bartender. He made some quality posts.

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