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The Writer

Don Juan
posted 06-07-2001 08:25 AM     Click Here to See the Profile for The Writer     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
Lots of guys are stuck in the mindset of:

"Oh my God! She's so hot! I can't believe how full her lips are! Full pouting beautiful... (cue hardon) I've got to approach her! But no, she's too... Oh, those tight black pants... God! What would she ever want with me? How could I ever convince her to... what a pair of breasts. Sucking on them... oh my god... gotta approach, cause I'm a loser if I don't... oh, I'd give my leg for one night with her! Oh..." (cut off by the narrator's de-evolution into a drooling mess.)

Vivid? Sure. I'm The Writer. You know how they say that it's best to write about what you know? Well, I know about the above. It's how I used to think.


What you've got to do is to cultivate this attitude instead:

1. I don't need a woman in my life. She'd just take away from my time. Wouldn't mind having a woman, but I really don't care one way or the other. Women are near the bottom of my list of priorities. Why do they keep throwing themselves at me?

2. All those chicks are out to get my ****. God, why do they need me so bad? Just because I'm one of the few people on earth who could give them what they truly want... Matter of fact, it'd be charitable of me to give them any kind of intimacy. Poor desperate souls.

3. But know what, I'm a charitable kind of guy. I love making people happy. And since I know that just smiling at her will make her day, I could maybe persuade myself to take some time out of my busy schedule to walk over there and chat her up, make her feel like a star.

100% different. And 100% irresistible.

[This message has been edited by The Writer (edited 06-07-2001).]

[This message has been edited by The Writer (edited 06-07-2001).]



Master Don Juan
posted 06-07-2001 11:23 AM     Click Here to See the Profile for Albion   Click Here to Email Albion     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
Great post, although not to many guys here have a clue what altruistic means. I had to look it up myself. Always good to expand your vocab.



The Writer

Don Juan
posted 06-07-2001 06:12 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for The Writer     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote

I changed it to "charitable". It think it's a better word anyway.



Master Don Juan
posted 06-08-2001 03:21 AM     Click Here to See the Profile for bashful   Click Here to Email bashful     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
Hmmm good post there writer,

Im like that in some ways.

1. I dont need a chick to make me happy. WHat could she for me besides sex that could make me happy anyways? ive got myself, i go places by myself all the time, the movies, art galleries, museums, out to eat, malls..blah blah blah.

Im probly what they call an eternal bacholar. though im only 20, ive been single 3/4's of my life, and it doesnt bother me too much at all. I like things for myself and no chick. I do realize too that girls take up my time.

I dont get many dates at all, infact ive only had hmmm, 1 other then my one girlfriend i had 3 years back. But i canceled it cause it was cutting into my basketball time and i never called her again.Antoehr reason was cause i didnt wanna pay, i wanted that money for my damn self, after all, i worked for it.

Ill have a 6 figure income by the time in 26. cause im going to be a Dentist with a PhD. Maybe i might change, i dont know. I doubt it, cause chicks nag too damn much anyways, who cares how hot they are.

-on the other hand-

chicks dont throw themselves at me, im not a hot guy at all. and im only 5'9. chicks hate short guys. make them ummmmmmm not feel protected...lol, what the phuck ever! lol. plus im not a mackdaddy.

though im this way, i still get a lil intimidated by nice lookin girls, thats normal.

But if yall wanna know how i am in life when not working? watch Big daddy with adam sandler. Im just like Sonnie Cofax. I go to the parks by myself and watch people fall down on skates, and go hang out with my friends and watch football. When i see a pretty girl...hmmm, i might go up to her. see how Sonnie was when he went up to that girl in the park? He wanst all mackdaddy like, or dressed up nice, he just took a chance, who cares if she says no, theres a 10 million hotter chicks out there then her. lol



posted 06-08-2001 07:55 AM     Click Here to See the Profile for stuartSan   Click Here to Email stuartSan     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
God you're so freakin lucky. 5'9? I'm only 5'5 or 5'6. I can't grow taller I don't know why. I'm 18 now.



Master Don Juan
posted 06-08-2001 09:55 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for CHALENGE GUY     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
God you're so freakin lucky. 5'9? I'm only 5'5 or 5'6. I can't grow taller I don't know why. I'm 18 now.

Horizontally speaking, everyone is pretty much the same in terms of height.

Justice didn't seem to be in God's mind when he created us.

Let's face it. A lot of people are

- fat
- ugly
- short
- skinny.

So it's always good to know that some people are uglier than we are. And we all know this : a warm and confident Hunchback of Notre-Dame will attract better chicks than the tall, handsome battiboy who's looking for his mommy and the big muscular jerk who only attracts man with tits.

So this is what our creator has decided. There's nothing you can do about it.

So we gotta ask ourselves one or two question

- Are we gonna sit here and complain or are we gonna make do with what we were given and be cheerfull inspite of God's lousy decisions?

You are 5'5. So what? I'm 6'6 and I was still a virgin at age 22.

He has a pretty face? yeah, but he's masturrbating every night while his buddy (ugly long face) sleeps with Julia Roberts.

If you are a women, being less than a 7-6 can be a REAL PROBLEM.

But if you're a man, it's different.

As i said before, great looks will only get you an audition with a woman much more easily. THAT'S ALL.

Don't worry about your height (there's nothing you can do about it) and be confident, assertive, light hearted and WARM.

Speak softly and carry a big stick; you will go far.

- Roosevelt

"Did I hear the phrase "she already has a bf"? Cause if I did, don't mind posting a thread in this forum. MOVE ON! RUN! RUN FOR YOU LIFE! RUN LIKE YOU NEVER RAN BEFORE! AAAAHHHHHHHH!!!!!!!"

[This message has been edited by CHALENGE GUY (edited 06-08-2001).]



Master Don Juan
posted 06-11-2001 07:18 AM     Click Here to See the Profile for Neophyte     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
bashfull, I must tell you I recognize a lot of myself in you at this moment...

Don't let the Matrix control reality, take control of your own life starting now!

Go Confidently in the direction of your dreams. Live the life you've imagined!


Don Scotta

Don Juan
posted 04-02-2002 03:45 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for Don Scotta     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
Yeah I know I'm really late in responding, but about the height. My brother is 5' 6" and gets more puzz than anyone I know. He is a jerk though, but jerks get puzz, so there ya go.



Don Juan
posted 04-02-2002 03:52 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for Goldenboy   Click Here to Email Goldenboy     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
IM 5'8 :) lol,but be'n tall does'nt really factor 2much into my game, i still get the pu$$y


"On a long enough time line, the survuval rate for everyone drops to ZERO!"---fIGHT cluB


"Gimme a reason,Go'head, Gimme one!!!I'll next that a$$....try me...TRY ME!!!"---ME



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