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Master Don Juan
posted 07-03-2001 03:24 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for Adonis     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
This world is full of altruistic and unselfish ideologies, the common good is frequently taught to us as a goal in life: be giving towards others, treat women right, buy flowers for her, pay for dates, etc. In the meantime, not knowing any better, men don't realize that these women who are in the receiving end are being spoiled. Soon she becomes rather comfortable and later gets bored from all the attention that she gets from him. Becoming unsatisfied she dumps Mr. Giving and searches for someone who is more of a challenge to tame.

Sound familiar? Of course it does, this debate has been an ongoing issue in our lives. Why does she like the jerk and not the nice guy? Well, to sum it up in one word for a jerk: "Selfish"

The jerk realizes that we live insignificant lives; most of our decisions don't radically affect other human beings. But even in these decisions, should we consider other persons when making them? Or should we simply observe other organisms � whether humans or animals � as tools in our quest for pleasure? You shoul start questioning everything that is not apparently clear. Therefore we must ask: Why should we care about anyone but ourselves? Shouldn't I just care about myself, coordinating all my actions to suit my stingy selfish purposes?

Ask yourself "What is my objective of life?" What is everyone's basic objective of life? You'll agree that "pleasure", even being a vague concept, is a good definition. You know that it is your primary objective of life (why else would you be here asking for advice with women?) � besides, of course, sheer survival � the quest for pleasure, the quest for individual pleasure. Only your pleasure gives you pleasure, therefore only your pleasure is your basic living objective. Besides, when persons commit themselves more to causes or ideologies than to themselves they become fanatics that will only bring pain to them and others. One should always think about himself first and only then about women's needs, wants, desires, etc.

I'm not saying that since you only care about yourself, you should not spend any resources in helping other persons achieve their own pleasure! That's very silly because in various circumstances you have to give pleasure in order to receive pleasure.

The approach one has towards life could � and should � be one of maximizing pleasure and seeking for the most individual happiness. This selfish and individualistic approach does not lead into a selfish behaviour but rather appear to be so. You should be aggressive � but not violent. The reason why you should'nt try hard to control your aggressiveness is that you have a goal in your life that you first must achieve before you can rest in peace (that goal, again, is pleasure). The more aggressive you are the more successful you will be with women. It shows your confidence, it shows you can stand your ground, and it shows you're a MAN.

Jerks don't offer and provide women with enough emotional support and gifts (being giving). These are things women hunger for and often seek out from men. The jerk being selfish in nature acts only to satisfy himself and leave women lingering with thirst trying to get such things from the jerk which in turn becomes a "challenge" to obtain - it's what keeps them around. On the other hand, the nice guy offers her all the things she wants and too much of it - which becomes stale after a while because she knows she can always have it and get it.

One last and final thought: defending selfishness is actually an unselfish action. A selfish individual favours and defends unselfish strategies because they are the ones that will allow him to explore the utmost out of others.

[This message has been edited by Adonis (edited 07-03-2001).]



Master Don Juan
posted 07-03-2001 04:44 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for Neophyte     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
Adonis, this is one hell of a post you've written here! Thnx!

Agressive should be replaced by the word assertive, and then it's perfect!

Indeed, a guy should be selfish in an assertive way. Do what you like, reach your goal and feel great!

Maybe some of the "needy" guys out here will start applying this technique.


[This message has been edited by Neophyte (edited 07-19-2001).]


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