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Don Juan
posted 08-12-2001 08:51 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for bondjamesbond     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
I'm back......OK, here goes...

1. Your attitude......This says alot about who you are....do you get discouraged easily? If so, then you'll have a tough time attracting anybody (guy friends included).....You must have a life with some passions and ambitions....Hobbies and interests are good......Are you in shape?....Most nice girls are pretty turned off by a fat, flabby, lazy toad. Do you spend alot of time on the couch watching TV while eating a family size sack of oreo's? If so, you really need to change your ways. Start jogging and lifting a few weights. It'll get you in better shape and give you a much better outlook on life. You don't need to be a "workout warrior", just enough to do the job.
Do you like your job? If it sucks then go for something better.....I know this is easier said than done but a rotten job can really drag you down. Women love an ambitious guy! In short, do everything you can to start LIKING YOURSELF......It'll show, and girls will pick up on it....

2. Don't be TOO picky! This is one of the major reasons why there are so many lonely adults everywhere. They demand pefection. Perfect looks. Perfect background, etc.,.....Most of the women you approach will have looks that fall somewhere between Cindy Crawford and the Goodyear Blimp. Real hot chicks are very powerful, and they know it. They turn alot of heads and get used to it. If you want to attract super-hot babes, get ready for a ton of competition. May not be fair, but who says life is fair? As for myself, I always looked for a good, clean, healthy appearance; nice teeth and smile, being just a tad overweight was OK, and lovely hands. Don't make the mistake of cutting yourself out of some good times just 'cause a girl doesn't look like a model. Nobody wants to go out with somebody who resembles a lineman for the Green Bay Packers, I know. But stop expecting Miss Perfect!

3. Be an optimistic MAN WITH BALLS! You're not gay, are you? Then don't be ashamed of being masculine and approaching women! Stop worrying about appearing "obnoxious" when you approach a girl....besides, they love it! You think she'll hit ya? Scream for the cops? Not if you do it politely. You can't be a scared, chicken-hearted bastard and expect to get anywhere with woman. You must have confidence and self assurance. A wimpy guy gets rejected and goes home pulling the covers over his head and whining that "girls just don't like me"......The tough SOB gets turned down, shruggs it off, goes out with his buddies and has a good laugh over it. So whatever you do, grow up, get a life, and get some hard bark on yourself!

4. Have a good sense of humor-------This, I believe, is the most important thing about yourself that you can develop. If you can get women to laugh then you have it made. It indicates supreme confidence and optimism. Everybody likes a guy with a good wit. I've never been a Republican, but I really liked President Reagan. Know why? I thought he was funny, he was charming and could make me laugh.....I didn't give a crap what his policies were! Humor is like paint, it covers alot.....

5. Getting infatuated and falling in love/lust.......We all know the feeling; we see a gorgeous creature, we smile at her....she smiles back......you go for a little more contact; she gives you some good feedback.....you just can't wait to see her again; she seems pleased to see you......you go a little further; you don't want to come on too strong.......finally, you're about to bust and just have to tell her how great you think she is and what a crush you have on her and how you think it would be great to get together, and,........she suddenly turns colder than a year old corpse! You back off, wait a while to see if she misses you.............She treats you like a leper, is annoyed that you're even in the same country as she is........What do you do?

Alot of guys can't handle this, they go off the deep-end, get depressed, get angry, and start saying stuff like "F**k all broads!, who need 'em!" "They're all a**holes anyway!"
.......The trouble with guys like this is that they get infatuated and smitten with somebody they hardly even know and get way too carried away. If you behave this way when some chick gives you the brush-off, then you're probably not too happy to begin with. I've always felt that women are "icing on the cake"; makes life a hell of alot better, but certainly not essential to my happiness. No woman on earth can make you that happy, ask any married guy, he'll tell you the same thing!

So get a life, get tough, be independent, see the humor in things and NEVER FORGET:



Next: Part III



Master Don Juan
posted 08-12-2001 10:49 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for DonJoey   Click Here to Email DonJoey     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
Dont be too picky.....you're gonna get alot of comments on that one, though I agree somewhat. I dont have a 'type' anymore since I found that all women have a quality that I like which at first I didnt notice.

But that comment reminds me of a friend of mine from high school, who's only sexual encounters have been the paying kind.
Whenever we catch up for a drink, I tell him of my escapades with various women and what they look like, act etc and his comments are always "they sound like tenny bopper bimbos" and my question is always "So?".
He's never had a girlfriend or a female friend in his life as he has this strict set of rules that someone must conform to before he'll even bother talking to one. The main criteria being "She must be highly intelligent", he's after intellectuals with a body of a 9 and the same with a face of a 9. I think I have a higher chance of winning lotto.
I'm not that picky....and i've saved myself heaps of money...hehehe



Master Don Juan
posted 08-13-2001 02:12 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for Neophyte     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
Nice advice bondjamesbond.

The more dates you get, the more experience you'll gain. Dating a girl is not the same as having a gf. Bondjamesbond is right, don't be too picky. At least not in the beginning. Have fun and learn! Of course you don't have to go after a 5 of less, but does it always have to be a 9 or 10?




posted 09-06-2001 04:42 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for syncmaster   Click Here to Email syncmaster     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
9's and 10's are sometimes easier then 7's and 8's... No one talks to the 9's and 10's b/c they don't have the balls to.

Syncmaster signing out.
a.k.a ... Adam



Master Don Juan
posted 09-06-2001 05:40 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for Neophyte     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
Can be sync, but over here the guys are really confident and they DO talk to those girls....... much competetion over here.

But you are right, it can happen!




Master Don Juan
posted 09-06-2001 07:46 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for Shiftkey     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
Adding to what sync said, guys DO talk to the 9s and 10s here. They just don't have the balls to -ask them out-.

I was talking to a 9 the other day at school about first dates etc, and she commented that she was still single because guys always just ask her if she "would like to hang out sometime." She said she's frustrated with guys always asking her this because they just turn into friends (and she does have ALOT of guy friends. I would've asked her out right then and there, but a couple of her "guy friends" came right after we were talking about this! Whenever I see her she's always with a bunch of chumps.)



Master Don Juan
posted 09-06-2001 08:51 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for RockandRoll!   Click Here to Email RockandRoll!     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
i like number 2.its true i was looking for perfection and i almost found it in a girl i would have not even turned my head to twice.she wasn't that pretty and her body was nowhere near my specifications.but there was much more to her then her looks....she was the most real girl i ever met.its like when you see a couple walking together and you say what does she see in him cause hes ugly or vice versa.i used to hear that all the time..."what do you see in her".but now i know.looks are a bonus.but maybe someday try to look past a girls looks.i'm not saying go for the first ugly chick but don't count them out because some of them normal girls are pretty cool.i believe you can fall in love with anyone if you put enough time and effort into them.even if you don't like them at first....its weird but they'll eventually grow on you.
i've went out with some fine pieces of a$$ in my time but there was nothing more to them but their looks!thats it.i had more fun with just a normal girl then any rocket but everyone is different.most hot women are just fools gold!so next time an average looking girl calls you on...think about it.its better then being single.



Don Juan
posted 09-07-2001 11:13 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for vadrill     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote

Nicely done BJB! This response ranks amongst the best.



Master Don Juan
posted 09-10-2001 10:54 AM     Click Here to See the Profile for Pedro   Click Here to Email Pedro     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
RockandRoll! said...

So next time an average looking girl calls you on...think about it.its better then being single.

Er...even though I may agree with the general ideia you exposed, you ruined it with that ending...probably you think being single is a disaster ? Well it's NOT ! I preefr to be single than having someone that's not what I really want !

And that's why I don't criticise much the other guy who's only after 9's and 10's in brains and looks. That's what he really wants ! Why should he go down if probably those 7's and 8's don't attract him ? Other thing is not agreeing on his paying sex, I would never pay to have sex...

But the most important thing about that guy is that he knows what he really wants. Probably most of you don't know. And probably he's happy on being single, and not desperate like some of you...



Don Juan
posted 09-10-2001 10:02 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for gwendolyn     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
Mr. Bond, You have written a most wonderful post! I really like parts 1 and 4, I'm very attracted to a man who keeps himself in shape because I figure he is good at other things(wink, wink). And the sense of humor is an absolute must! I melt when I get around a man who has these qualities!
Looks and laughter is what I'm after!
Bye Bye,



Master Don Juan
posted 09-11-2001 03:38 AM     Click Here to See the Profile for BigBill     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
You know there is

quite a bit to be said for being true to yourself when it comes to looks. I have to admit that the best sex I had was with a solid 9. She was incredible.

She was the exception though. all the other 8+ girls I've had have been sort of let-downs in bed.

My next several best sex partners have been in the 6-7 range by SOCIETY'S standards. but something about their looks turned me on. To me thats the reaction I want. Some girls I can look at and intellectually I know that they are pretty and I would do them. But sex isn't there for my intellectual side. It's for the beast in me. And the beast makes the final call as to what he's hungry for. It's always better that way.



posted 11-11-2001 05:22 AM     Click Here to See the Profile for IntermediateDonJuaner     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
It is easier said than done.! Words are free . I really have to disagree with you in one thing. If a person is too afraid of rejection, what can you do????? You can't force a guy to walk up to the ladies and end-up being a fool in front of them.!

Why not bondjamesbond( Super cool guy) tries to make a move and see how will it feel when someone turned you down like a piece of pancake!?



Master Don Juan
posted 11-11-2001 10:47 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for XCMan   Click Here to Email XCMan     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
bjb, I think the most important factor is attitude. It effects everything else, from your humor to your looks (or at least others' perceptions of you) If you're too timid, you're outta the game, and if you're overly aggressive, you're outta the game. I say the attitude to have is one of confident flexibility; that is to adapt to each situation... So many of the posts on here don't seem (at least to me) to have much adaptation, that is they're all about just taking a single strategy; there's more to it than that.
Depending on your goal (Quick Lay or LTR) your strategies will have to be different, most specifically in what you offer the girl. I think in order to be effective long-term wise, men have to show self-discipline, earning potential, caring, and a SPINE. If we can show these traits, much of the battle for the heart is already won.
So many of our peers have been beaten down by society to accept the role they've been givin. I say F U C K that. Just take what you like, discard what you dont, and let people know what you want, and what you're willing to do to make it work. Any LTR takes work to keep going. Just like anything else, it can get out of shape. The easiest way to keep it up is not to let it get out of shape in the first place. So once you decide to want to settle down a bit, we should try to win over a girl's heart and mind first, because we will already know how to win their body over. That's my opinion, I could be wrong.

"I must not fear. Fear is the little death that brings total obliteration..." Dune



posted 11-12-2001 07:47 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for Sociopath31   Click Here to Email Sociopath31     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
I thought bond was long gone.

Beautifully put. Do not be scared or ashamed of your masculinity. Be a man god damnit. It's what you are.


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